'You're an obsessive helicopter wife': Guy asks for privacy at his doctor's appointment, wife shows up unannounced

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Jan 11, 2023 2:00 PM EST

The things clingy and obsessive people do in the name of being "supportive!" That certainly describes this wife, who showed up to her husband's doctor appointment despite the fact that he asked her repeatedly for some privacy. This thread was posted to Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole subreddit by u/AmenaFox1, who clearly lacks any meaningful amount of self-awareness based on her original post.

 

The Redditor was noticeably silent in the comments section, so perhaps she got the picture. The reality was that she wasn't just trying to be supportive; she was being nosy and maybe even jealous. The anecdote about her suspicions of the doctor being a woman basically says everything you need to know about this lady, even though she claimed that she was just cracking a joke. Doubtful!

 

Keep scrolling below to see how folks in the comments ripped her apart. When you're done, here's a similar story about an awful husband's plan for paternity leave.

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    Font - AITA for showing up to my husband's Dr appointment? My husband has been dealing with sone health issues the past few weeks and has been frequently visiting the dr. I asked if I could go with him but he refused saying it wouldn't be neccesary and when I asked why he wouldn't want me with him he said he felt more comfortable having privacy with his doctor. I jokingly asked if his doctor was a women and he glanced at me.
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    Font - I anticipated his next dr appointment and decided to go meet him there. He went and 10 minutes later I entered the office (I identified myself as his wife) and he was shocked when he saw me. I greeted his doctor (a man lol) and we talked but my husband refused to even look my way and refused to speak as well.
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    Font - We left the office together and he went off on me in the car saying I shouldn't have "followed" him and came into the dr office after he asked me for some privacy. I said it was alright I'm his wife I already even know what his issues are and just wanted to show support. He said I overstepped his one boundary and refused to respect his wish and made him more stressed than he already is in these hard times he's going through. I thought he overreacted but AITA?
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    Font - _sobertaco_. 8 hr. ago YTA. You don't have the right to invade your husband's privacy after he requested to go alone. A signed piece of paper doesn't give you the right to stalk your husband. You have zero respect for him, obviously. 36.3k Reply Shar
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    Font - Scared Weather1672. YTA. First of all, he asked you not to come. That should be enough. Second, you were not there to show him support, you were there to make sure his dr wasn't a woman. You sound jealous and irrational, not to mention pushy. Major issues here. 13.4k Reply Share
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    Font - SaikaTheCasual. 8 hr. ago Pooperintendant [54] YTA. Being his wife doesn't mean you're entitled to breach his privacy. You're invasive and controlling. You need to drop that if you don't want to risk your relationship. If I was your husband I would also have a serious word with whoever let you enter the office. Identifying as someone's wife doesn't mean they can enter without consent. 4.0k Reply Share
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    Font - Enough-Process9773. 8 hr. ago YTA. Can appreciate being very worried about a spouse's health and wanting to talk to the spouse's doctor, but it's incredibly inappropriate to insist on being part of the appointment against the patient's wishes. ✩ 1.9k Reply Share
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    Font - GallopingGeckos 8 hr. ago Your poor husband can't even go to the doctor without you trying to control him and accuse him of cheating? YTA, and you don't seem to like or respect your husband very much. 1.8k Reply Share
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    Font - TrayMc666 8 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [23] YTA He wanted to go by himself. He wanted privacy. I don't take my husband to my appointments with the gynaecologist. I like that to be private. The point is, it was never up to you. You have completely smashed a boundary he very clearly set. You were very, very wrong. And to top it all, that appointment was clearly wasted. Your husband couldn't say what he needed to. 1.0k Reply Share
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    Font - RavensQueen502 . 8 hr. ago edited 4 hr. ago YTA As a woman, you surely should understand no means no. You already know what the issue is, so it isn't like you were being kept in the dark. Some people need close support, some people need privacy. Your husband chose the latter. If you were really worried about his condition and wanted to talk to the doctor about it, the pair of you could have possibly set up another appointment to discuss it with the doctor. Instead you disregarded his wish
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    Font - coastalkid92.8 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [37] YTA. Your husband asked for privacy and you overstepped completely. It is understandable that you'd be worried about your husband's health but you need to be supportive of him in a way that he is comfortable with right now. 436 Reply Share
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    Font - thejackalreborn · 8 hr. ago YTA, you didn't want to support him, you actively distressed him. His medical appointments are his own private business and you may have actually negatively impacted his health because he felt less comfortable to open up to the doctor. 376 Reply Share
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    Font - Initial-Cry-88128 hr. ago YTA You're an obsessive helicopter wife and this was a huge breech of your husbands trust. Why did you have to go with him? Because you thought he was screwing his doctor? Because you needed to have control over something of his? Because how dare he have the audacity of feeling more comfortable without you there? 352 Reply Share
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    Font - Bankshead 8 hr. ago How did you type this and not see how insane this behavior is? Stop smothering this guy YTA 297 Reply Share
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    Font - Left-Ad-42468 hr. ago. edited 7 hr. ago YTA. You have no respect for your husband. He has a right to privacy, boundaries and personal autonomy even in marriage. I hope he tells his doctors office to ban you. Then legally you wouldn't be allowed in: HIPAA. 206 Reply Share
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    Font - Nemesis0408 8 hr. ago YTA, big time. You took his privacy, his autonomy, and his ability to trust you, threw them in a dumpster and set them on fire. You've shown that you feel that a mere suspicion of yours has more right to be addressed than his most intimate fears and boundaries. This is an extreme violation. And the fact that you can't see that you've been TA here is incredible. And on top of everything you've shown him you don't trust him. Has he ever given you a reason not to? Just.
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    Font - No_Particular_6715. 8 hr. ago YTA, you weren't there to support him you were there to be nosey. So not only an untrusting intrusive control freak, but a liar too. Well done. 161 Reply Share
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