Man Asks His Fiance To Open Up Their Relationship Because He Wants To Sleep With Other People But Doesn't Want To Be A 'Cheater', Ends Up Driving Her Into The Arms Of A Much Better Man

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elina lee
Jan 22, 2023 1:00 PM EST

Everyone has their own personal views on open relationships but let's just say that we're not as open-minded. We don't know, just something about the thought of our husband sleeping with another woman for fun that doesn't sit right with us. And you best believe that it goes both ways. People in open relationships will tell you that it's all about trust and being confident within yourself - but we say no thanks lol, we're good. 

Welp, today we're bringing you an outrageous story that we can't even believe is real. A woman took to Reddit to tell the story of how she's leaving her Fiance for her boyfriend. We know, our first thought was omg how could she??? But let's just say that we can see where she was coming from. Spoiler alert: her fiance is a complete man-child that clearly needs some time to grow up and mature. She dodged a bullet - all we can say here. 

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    Head - Posted by u/Low_Field_2895 3 days ago I'm going to leave my fiancee for my boyfriend
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    Plant - 6 months ago my (f25) fiance (m28) asked if i would be willing to have and open relationship. I agreed. Everything was ok until like 3 months ago when he asked if we could switch from open to poli. I agreed again. He started dating a girl from work and i started dating a guy from my gym.
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    Font - Now this guy (m26) is soooo different then my fiance. He takes me on dates every week, he brings me flowers and food at work. He texts me just to say hi. He's sweet and affectionate. My fiance however.... We've been together for 4 years. He only gets me flowers for my birthday. He's never affectionate. His idea of a date is playing board games or watching The Witcher.
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    Font - They are very different in bed too. With my fiance most of the times sex is a chore. He's fast and rough and then he goes to watch tv. My boyfriend however is very tender, he takes his time and he checks if I'm enjoying it, he cuddles with me after and brings me snacks.
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    Font - I was talking to my mom about this and she asked me which one makes me happier and i guess it clicked. I like the way my boyfriend treats me while my fiance is more of a roommate at this point.
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    Font - After my talk with my mom i decided to talk to my fiance as well. I just told him that i wish he would be more affectionate with me. He just shrugged and said he isn't into "chick flick".
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    Font - So i guess I'm going to break up with my fiance because i don't want to marry a man that never takes me out or buy me flowers or holds my hand. I want someone that shows their emotions. I don't know if me and my boyfriend are going to work out since it's still new but at least now i know i have options.
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    Font - I grew up around men that were emotionally unavailable and most women in my family constantly told that men aren't affectionate so i guess i kinda believed it. My first 2 boyfriends were like this as well. They didn't like showing affection and my fiance is the 3rd guy I've been with. It feels good to know not all men are like my mom made me think they were. I'm on my way to have dinner with my fiance and I'm going to call of the engagement.
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    Font - Update: i was super nervous to have the talk with my fiance but apparently at dinner it wasn't just us. He invited his parents and didn't tell me. I wanted to have the conversation with him privately but his mom started talking about the wedding, she had a bunch of flower arrangements, dresses and venues printed out and she was going to buy a dress tomorrow. I got overwhelmed and ended up telling them the wedding is off. I tried to be as gentle as i could but my fiance freaked out when i
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    Font - Update 2: we had a huge fight and he confessed he only wanted to open the relationship because he wanted to sleep with his coworker without being a cheater and then wanted a poly relationship because he developed feelings for her. And he called me bitch for dumping him because "I'm a big baby who needs attention". Apparently I need to grow up because "real men" don't get emotional.
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    Font - Update 3: my now ex fiance called and begged me to come home to talk because he's sorry and he didn't mean what he said. And because "real men don't get emotional" he started crying when i no and that he can call his girlfriend if he wants to talk to someone.
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    Font - Update 4: -i talked with my bf and we're going to close the relationship, he was thinking about it for a while but was afraid to ask so he was happy when i suggested it -my bf helped me move all my things out of the apartment i shared with my ex
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    Font - • ex has called and texted me all night and i blocked him bc honestly it kinda scared me -exs gf came to see me at work, she was worried i ended things because of her, we talked a bit and a assured her it wasn't because of her. We also talked about my ex and he's lack of showing emotions and she now reconsidering their relationship because she also wants someone to show their love and she was thinking he didn't because it was still new and she thought in time he'll get more comfortable bu
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    Font - Unable_Ad_1260 Are you winning son? 2 days ago Everytime the person who suggests 'opening up the telationship' is like this and everytime it winds up like this. Do they not reddit?
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    Font - bootsthechicken - 2 days ago My ex husband opened the relationship up, but it was more like swinging. I was so lost in all of it that I'm just now realizing what happened to me, and how horrible of a person he actually was. Reddit has been a big help lol
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    Font - arynnoctavia 2 days ago A grown man having a big enough tantrum in a restaurant to get his whole party kicked out, then turning around and saying men aren't emotional. He's definitely not a self-awarewolf.
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    Font - disco_has_been • 2 days ago She is growing up! That's why she decided to end things. She's learning how it feels to be valued and respected. Proud of OP! I hope she's permanently raised the bar for acceptable treatment. Can't get much lower than leaving one's parents with the ex who just dumped you. Graceful, he is not.
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    Human body - TemGotZeMuns - 2 days ago I find it so funny how society gaslit men into believing anger wasn't an emotion.
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    Font - Agreeable_Spinosaur 2 days ago anger only isn't an emotion when it's expressed by men -- when women express anger it's completely an emotion, accompanied with the diagnosis of 'psycho bitch'
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    Human body - felisverde 1 day ago ● Don't forget 'hysterical', 'out of control', 'she must be on her period', etc...etc ...
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