'AITA for not letting my sister's boyfriend use hot sauce?': Boyfriend storms out when Italian family forbids usage of hot sauce

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    Font - AITA for not letting my sister's boyfriend use hot sauce? Everyone Sucks Every Sunday my family rotates who makes dinner. One day it's my wife and I, the next time is my sister and her boyfriend, the next my mom and dad, and then finally my grandmother. With our busy lives, this day is important to us because besides holidays, we wouldn't be able to meet up and chat or eat without it.
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    Font - We come from an Italian family but are in Canada (my mom was born there, I was here). I take my food very seriously, especially Italian food, and double especially because my nonna is eating with us. I spent all day preparing dinner and when we sat down to eat, my sister's boyfriend is humming and hawing saying my meal is missing something. He said he needs hot sauce and starts walking to my fridge. All I have is Franks and Sriracha. I like hot sauce, too, but I don't dare mix cuisines li
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    Font - So I stopped him saying I'd appreciate if he enjoyed my meal as it is. He said it's no big deal, and in a way it isn't, but also in many ways it is. I told him at the very least, I have some Calabrian chili oil he can use, or dried chili flakes. Then it would at least still be Italian. He insists on Sriracha, and I declined him. He escalated it and said he was going to go to the store and buy his own bottle and return if that's the case, and I said by all means. He left, we finished up di
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    Font - Was I TA? My sister is on my side if it matters, but this has been a fight all day yesterday between them because he wants my sister on his side, not mine. They've been dating only 3 months. edit: if it matters, I made carbonara, bruschetta, and then for mains which he didn't get to yet, was a seafood platter in red sauce. My wife and I are 34, 35 respectively, my sister and boyfriend are 23, 22 respectively.
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    Rectangle - missshrimptoast · 21 hr. ago · edited 16 hr. ago B & 7 More Colo-rectal Surgeon [43] ESH. ☆ Policing how someone likes their food is a bad look. My husband likes ketchup on his scrambled eggs; I think he must have a demon whispering lies into his ear. But that's his right to let the demon lead him astray. I like hot sauce, too, but I don't dare mix cuisines like that You say this like you think you'll also invite a demon into your home. Chill. It's hot sauce.
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    Font - However, I feel like the boyfriend's comment "Something is missing" is pretty rude on his part. All he'd have to ask say is that he prefers his food spicy; critiquing the meal was uncalled for. I'm also pretty baffled by his insisting on going to the store to purchase hot sauce. That's just absurd. You'd think of hot sauce were such a priority, he'd keep it in his back pocket or something. Honestly, you both sound exhausting, and I feel bad for your sister. Edit: Y'all, I'm well aware tha
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    Font - Kixaxstyx 21 hr. ago ^This. I have a friend who puts hot sauce on EVERYTHING. Ramen Noodles, Bagels, the occasional ice cream, you name it. Is it weird? Hell yes. Do I make fun of her? Yes (she makes fun of me too its fine shhhh). Do I gatekeep her from putting hot sauce on food I make? No! Because I can't tell her what she can/cannot put on her food. You're the asshole for policing what he can and cannot put on his food, even if you made it. He's the asshole for saying "Something is miss
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    Font - KuzyBeCackling · 21 hr. ago · edited 18 hr. ago 22 Partassipant [1] YTA - I'm a 16 year veteran of the hospitality industry. I've worked in kitchens from dive bars up through multiple Michelin stars, I've opened many restaurants & took my first head chef position 8 years ago. People have different palates requiring different levels of seasoning. If a customer asks you for salt you give it to them, if they request hot sauce? We make our own in house and offer it as well. The arrogance and
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    Rectangle - Ceejay4444 20 hr. ago · edited 15 hr. ago 3 I quickly glanced at your comment before fully reading it and I thought you were saying you were a 16 year old veteran and I stopped because I was so confused Edit: Thanks so much for the award anonymous redditor! 6.0k Share nerdyguytx 20 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [7] 4.1k . She got her Easy Bake Oven, opened a mess hall for the Army, and never looked back. Share
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    Font - NeonRabbit221b 21 hr. ago YTA You just sound pretentious and it kinda bugs me. You make a bland meal and prevent people from making additions? Do you control the salt and pepper too? 8.5k Share Wasabi2238 21 hr. ago Yeah, why get offended? People have different tastes. My husband puts hot sauce on everything, and I spend hours cooking sometimes. I don't take it personally. I just know he likes things spicy. 2.4k Share
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    Rectangle - 5footfilly 21 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [8] Take it from an old-fashioned Italian mama with an Italian mama and 2 nonnas who came to the US through Ellis Island. . You're an ass. Italian hospitality isn't just about the food. It's also about the comfort of your guests. I kinda wish I could spell the Italian words running through my mind, but it's probably best that I can't. YTA 8.0k Share
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    Font - KronkLaSworda - 21 hr. ago . Asshole Aficionado [16] YTA You don't get to gatekeep how people eat. Even if you don't agree with it, you don't decided if he can or can't put hot sauce on it. Or ketchup on your ribeye steak. Or BBQ sauce on your parmesan chicken. You're a horrible host. "I take my food very seriously" Oh get off it, Gordan Ramsay. You sound completely insufferable. "My sister is on my side if it matters" Yep, it does. She's an AH, too. 5.3k Share
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    Font - Oldgamerlady. 21 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [12] I think it's only fair to go with ESH. You for gatekeeping Italian food and being so rigid. Relax! Him wanting to use hot sauce is not a knock on you, it's about him. Him for actually leaving a dinner with his gf's family to get hot sauce. Probably won't stick around for long. 2.5k Share ...
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    Rectangle - Critical-Musician630 21 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [11] YTA. He's not asking to put it on everyone's food, just his own. Stop gatekeeping food lol. AHOY 2.0k Share toothy_sleuthy · 20 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [5] BUT ITs ItAlIaN /s 778 Share ...
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    Font - MusingAudibly · 21 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [6] YTA. Why in the world are you policing other people's condiments? That's f ng absurd. 1.3k bubbleuj 21 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [31] Share . Also franks red hot tastes really really good in white sauce. You cook it in the sauce and some of the vinegar evaporates away and it leaves a really nice flavour. 284 The trick is to add it when the sauce is still a little loose but not too loose or it gets all gross and (I think) the vinegar inte
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    Font - Odd Task8211 · 21 hr. ago Partassipant [3] ESH. Your behavior was definitely AH. You don't tell people how to eat. It is rude. The BF was also an AH. It is equally rude to insist on having hot sauce and going out to buy his own. Both of you were engaging in a dick waving contest and it got out of hand. 984 Share

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