Psychotic Husband Prohibits His Wife To Eat Crunchy Foods In The House, Uses His Misophonia As An Excuse To Yell At Her Every Time She Dares To Crunch

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elina lee
Jan 30, 2023 1:00 PM EST

We'll be the first to admit that we're incredibly sensitive to sound. We don't like sounds that are too high, too low, or too loud - you get the gist. But at the end of the day, we have the intelligence and capability to realize that this is, in fact, a personal problem that affects us and only us. If and when we feel overly stimulated, we make it a priority to get out of that situation ASAP. Because yes, if we stay - aggression will likely follow. 

Speaking of aggression - that brings us to today's story. A wife took to Reddit to share the story of how her husband with misophonia (a fear of crunch sounds) practically forbids her to eat any crunchy food in the house. As people that love variety in consistency when it comes to food - we wouldn't last a day with this guy. 

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  • 01
    Font - Posted by u/Affectionate Lunch715 15 hours ago AITA for eating crunchy food in the kitchen when my husband has misophonia?
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    Font - My(40, F) husband (39) has misophonia. This means that certain sounds drive him crazy. For example, he absolutely hates crunching sounds. This has affected him (us!) for as long as I can remember. My husband will yell, name call, and even take my food from me if I am crunching. He becomes a different person- like he really can't help himself.
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    Font - We have had many arguments over this- my husband says I'm rude for eating crunchy food, I tell him I should be allowed to eat in the kitchen and he should put on headphones. In the recent past, I told him that to solve our problem, I was going to grab his headphones when I wanted to eat something crunchy.
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    Font - Today I was preparing to eat an açaí bowl with very crunchy granola in the kitchen when my husband went to do something on a computer in the next room over. There is not a door between the rooms. After my first bite, my husband got very mad at me and told me to stop eating crunchy stuff and told me how rude I am. I asked him nicely if I can get his headphones. He angrily said, no, I need to stop eating the crunchy food. I asked again very nicely if he needed me to find him some headphones
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    We hope she realizes that no matter what disease her husband is suffering from - no matter what, he does not have the right to talk to her and treat her this way. We hope she'll come to her senses soon enough. 

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    Font - I left the room and went to the back bedroom to eat because I was afraid after my next bite that he would come back in and throw away my food.
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  • 06
    Font - Eating a crunchy snack takes me about 5 minutes to finish, and I might do this a few times a day. He is currently working from home so he is always here when I eat. Am I supposed to leave the kitchen to eat, or should he wear headphones or leave the room? Who is TA?
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    Font - Charlie BD82 11 hr. ago Having misophonia doesn't entitle him to call you names or throw out your food. While his condition is very real, he's handling it like a grade A asshole. You're NTA and I would tell him that if he can't be civil and use his headphones then he'll be living in a crunch-free house all by himself.
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    Font - SammyWench. 8 hr. ago It may be your problem, but if I were a friend or family member I would have no problem taking your misophonia into account when around you. However, I'm sure you wouldn't refuse to wear headphones if I had to eat a packet of crisps and we lived in the same house
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    Font - popchex 5 hr. ago Sometimes I'm yelling (not angrily just loudly) "HOW IN GODS NAME CAN I STILL HEAR YOU OMG" from across the house while having headphones on with an audio book, and my kids are having doritos. And I don't even HAVE misophonia, I'm just shocked at how penetrating the sound is!
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    Organism - Nothanks_nottoday. 3 hr. ago Partassipant [1]] But the question was why do you allow it? Why have you not laud down consequences for this behavior? He doesn't do it to other people, right? Why do you think that is? Do better for yourself, stop allowing this abusive behaviot.
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    Font - chillyfeets 7 hr. ago OP, I'm not going to sugarcoat this. He is abusing you, and using his misophonia as an excuse to do so. Many people have misophonia. Many people can't stand the sound of people eating. Not everyone with misophonia abuses their significant other for the crime of eating something that's crunchy.
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    Font - This behaviour of his is not normal, and it should not be acceptable. That he charged into the kitchen like a raging bull looking for blood is absolutely unacceptable and is scaring you to the point you grab your food and flee! He needs help, and you need to get the hell away from him before he unleashes his rage on you physically and hurts you. NTA. Get out.
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    Font - pomme_dor 15 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [21] My husband will yell, name call, and even take my food from me if I am crunching. He becomes a different person- like he really can't help himself. Has this ever happened with other people in public? Has he had problems at work over yelling at colleague eating crunchy foods? Any issues with other restaurant patrons he can hear crunching?
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    Font - AffectionateLunch715 OP 9 hr. ago . I thought it was obvious. No, he doesn't treat others that way that I know of. He might say something to another family member, but nothing close to how he is with me. I might be the only one to tell him no and challenge him? I'll have to ask him if he confronts others about the noise.
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