'Nuke her unethical career': Woman catches friend "mimicking" her on social media

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Feb 1, 2023 5:00 PM EST

On a throwaway account, one person with physical disabilities asked what she could do to stop her friend from "mimicking" her condition. In this disturbing story, the OP asks for advice, and people nearly unanimously agreed that OP needs to cut her losses and RUN from this so-called friend of hers.

This woman wrote to r/AmItheA****** to ask about an unfortunate development in her friendship with an influencer, "Janet," who is "very prominent on social media, and often discusses her disabilities very openly." The OP noticed that every time she mentioned her health issues to Janet, Janet would suddenly have those same symptoms. Janet would share that information with her followers, making the OP super suspicious about Janet's actual "chronic hand pain." Hopefully the OP listens to the commenters, who gave her advice on how to either troll Janet or cut her out of her life forever. 

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  • 01
    Font - r/AmItheA· Posted by u/aitagw2023 5 hours ago AITA for telling my friend to stop mimicking my symptoms as her own for her followers? Throwaway, the friend has Reddit. I (26F) have been friends for a decade with "Janet," (24F). We had never been super close up until 2020. Janet has always had some sort of disability, the most prominent being an autoimmune disorder that causes chronic pain. Janet is also very prominent on social media, and often discusses her disabilities very openly. I am
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    Font - Material-Paint6281 - 3 hr. ago Parta pant [2] Seeing that she ran to her followers to rat out OP, i don't think she's capable of empathy on a level to be ashamed of herself, so its best to cut losses and move on.
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  • 03
    Font - Recently, I have been afflicted by really bad pains in my hands due to my job. I expressed how badly things had gotten when I found myself physically incapable of using my left hand for the most basic of tasks, such as picking up a pencil, or waving. I told Janet about it, as she is a friend, and she was sympathetic. But then, less than 24 hours later, I went onto her social media and I found her crying to her followers about her own "chronic hand pain." I was kind of dumbfounded, since s
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  • 04
    Font - Janet started asking me more and more questions. What the pain feels like, how frequently, does it shoot to other places or was it localized, etc. At first, I didn't think anything of it and answered her... only for her to have the same type of pain less than 24 hours later! I was shocked that she would say that she had the same level and type of pain as me, even using the same terminology I did. I decided to stop answering her questions, and for a couple months, she stuck with what she h
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  • 05
    Font - After a few visits with my doctor, my pain is gone, thankfully. The only thing that is gone for good is the grip strength I once had, but I just have to cope with it and manage. Janet called me last night and I, stupidly, told her that my pain is gone and explained my grip strength issues. Can you guess what happened next? This morning, less than 12 hours later, Janet posted a 20 minute sob fest on social media regarding her "grip strength," and how she is going to have to cope with it le
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    Font - At first, I gave her the benefit of the doubt, but after her symptoms mirrored mine so quickly, it was suspicious. Am I the as? Edit for clarity: I do not know what kind of autoimmune disorder she has or if that is a contributing factor to her pain. She told me that she has not been tested, but she feels she has one, she just doesn't know which one. I didn't ask further questions because it's not my business. I also do not discount any pain she has, as I stated, I first was sympathetic wi
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    Font - Logical_Block1507.5 hr. ago Aficionado [11] As ΝΤΑ Dump the friend. Mocking/mirroring/minimalizing your very real disabilities is ableist as h and she should be ashamed of herself. But she won't be, so get rid of her.
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    Font - polly-adler 2 hr. ago Also see the edit: the friend "feels" like she has an autoimmune disease but isn't getting tested to know which one. As someone with an autoimmune disease (a real one), I am abso-f -lutely furious at that "friend". Not only is she a liar, she is also incredibly stupid. It's very obvious she has nothing and is pretending for attention.
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    Font - Dimension597 24 min. ago 100% this OP This person is incredibly ableist- she is literally using your real pain and suffering to leverage social media cred for sympathy likes. It's disgusting, pathetic and PROFOUNDLY unethical. Dump her as a friend. ΝΤΑ
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    Font - Silent-Focus47.5 hr. ago NTA - but consider this. You now know who Janet truly is. What's next is up to you. You could be petty and make up symptoms just to watch her mimic them or you can just ignore her. She is not going to change. Your power is to change and how you react or don't react to her. Hope maybe someday you can get your grip strength back but am glad to hear that the pain is gone.
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    Font - M Material-Paint6281 3 hr. ago Parta ipant [2] Your comment reminded me of a post actually. OP was irritated by her golden child sister who would mimic her every decision. Like buying anything OP plans to buy for herself to show she got it first. OP decided to be petty, told her cousin that she's planning to buy a ridiculously priced ugly bag (I saw it, its just the yellow Caution tape wrapped around the bag, horrible to look at). The cousin parroted OPS intention to buy the bag, so the e
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  • 12
    Font - After_Hovercraft7808 - 3 hr. ago Make up an illness completely with a name in Latin that translates to something like compulsive liar or copycat with really strange symptoms. There are probably some that are specific to men or animals if you can't be bothered to go to those lengths. You could even record the conversation and then link it to her insta after she announces her new rare illness. Super petty but satisfying. Or walk away now and block her. NTA op
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  • 13
    Font - ShallWeStartThen 5 hr. ago. edited 5 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [29] NTA- something very weird about appropriating someone else's illness. You should contact her marvelling at the similarities between your 2 problems. Also this is going to sound awful but are you sure she has a disability or did she appropriate that as well? Reply Share 80 _PrincessOats 2 hr. ago Check out the edit - she isn't even diagnosed, she "feels" like she has it.
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    Font - Ok_Release7133 - 5 hr. ago Sounds like she could have Munchausen syndrome 70 Reply Share Odd-Negotiation5087 4 hr. ago Sounds like Munchausen by Internet specifically.
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    Font - youshallcallmebetty . 5 hr. ago Partassipant [3] NTA. But don't be friends with people who use your experiences for their own clout. Block her and move on.
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    Font - Archpharaoh 5 hr. ago Parta sipant [1] NTA. Some people will do anything for attention.
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    Font - 97 SundaeRealistic269 4 hr. ago That is not your friend I had a friend who did this all the time. And it didn't just stop at looking for sympathy for pain. This friend also stole very personal stories to do with childhood trauma that me and a few friends had shared in private I only found out the truth of this when I met a ex girlfriend of his and she was telling me a story he had told her about a very specific event I had told him about when I had a mental break down from it. Word for Wo
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  • 18
    Font - . ApprehensiveVideo583 5 hr. ago Parta: pant [2] ΝΤΑ You should have an open conversation with her about this. Sounds like she has an attention addiction.
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    Font - FutureGhost23 - 5 hr. ago Nta. Shes not your friend, move on. But it would be interesting if you fed her a bunch of bs symptoms that don't match up with her problems and watch her followers connect the dots and figure out she's faking, she'd get a lot more attention then lol.
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  • 20
    Font - OpaqueObilisque. 4 hr. ago Wait No! OP should tell her friend that her 'doctor has diagnosed her with an attention addiction' Badabing-badaboom Janet will admit she has attention addiction to her followers!
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    Font - Constant-Safe2411 4 hr. ago NTA. Screenshot your convos. Put them next to her upload dates. Feed it to her followers. Nuke her unethical career and never clap eyes on her again.
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