'These can't be the same men Jane Austen wrote about': Shrinking dating pools and douchey dudes are the reason Millennials are still single

As we get older, it's hard not to compare our lives to our friends, especially in your 20's. We compare careers, we compare success, and most devastatingly, we compare love lives. Love is obviously a more faceted and complicated part of our lives and it's impossible to unobjectively compare our dating life vs. our friends— however, by the time you're in your late 20's, things start to feel as if you missed the love train.

For a lot of young people, the best place to meet someone is the club. It's bursting with single people, there's always alcohol involved, and it feels like the right place to find a companion. Once you're 29 though, the dating pool becomes more and more slim, which one TikToker, Lexi Marsella, captured in an excruciating video that recently went viral. 

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In the video, her friend pulls out her phone to capture the truly horrific man that seems to be schmoozing on Lexi. With almost all of his shirt buttons undone, a backwards hat, and plastic drink cup in his hand, even at first glance we can see that this is going to be a disaster. But oh, it gets so much worse. Lexi awkwardly backs away from the guy with the most disinterested facial expression but he doesn't catch the hint — no no no — he thinks he's crushing it and he thinks he's going to take Lexi home with him. Yuck. 

This guy seriously thinks he has a shot, dancing around her and showing his tattoos to her and her friend. I'm not sure what kind of girl he expects would be impressed with that, but it's definitely not going to be a 29 year old who's actually looking for love. He dances around her, singing the song that's blasting around them ("Gold Digger" - Kayne West), and after an excruciatingly long time, he finally senses her apprehension. When he realizes she may not be interested, he insults her appearance and takes off. 

So to all the moms out there asking why their millennial daughters are still single, this is why. However, in the comments section, people are making some good points claiming that you'll never find a decent person at the club at that age and that clubbing is 22/23 year old behavior. This actually checks out because 22 and 23 year olds DO have success finding a loved one at the club and then they never go again. People that are still there by 30 are as immature as the people they're chatting up, so a civilized adult, who doesn't just want to take shots and hook up with randoms, isn't going to find anyone decent at the club— unless they're equally disinterested in the mating ritual that exists by the bar. 

POV: Your mom keeps asking why you're single at 29