'He immediately asks me when I’m going to do laundry since he’s very nervous': Woman screws up BF's important interview on purpose

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Feb 15, 2023 3:00 PM EST

This guy prepped for an interview for weeks, but it still didn't go perfectly!

Interview prep involves a few things: printing out a few copies of your resume, mapping out how to get to the job site, and preparing your interview clothes so you make a great first impression. This woman shared her frustrating experience with her job-searching boyfriend, who didn't quite get around to the clothing step of preparation. Instead, he tried to get his lucky blazer cleaned on a regular laundry day by his student GF, who routinely handles that chore. He didn't give her much warning though, and she ended up sleeping through the time period she could have laundered the blazer. The BF was mad, and has threatened to move back with his parents. 

Commenters urged the GF to leave this man-child, but others claimed this was an ESH situation. After all, if the GF didn't think she could handle the blazer laundering before the deadline, she should have said so. But also, the BF is seemingly not pulling his weight while unemployed, and letting his busy GF handle even these time sensitive errands. Commenters agreed that she should dump him ASAP. 

Next, this person asked if she's a Karen for mulling over this random moment at Disney — and people assured her she is! 

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  • 01
    Rectangle - r/AmItheAs 14 hours ago Posted by u/frog_grlz AITA for screwing up my boyfriends interview by not doing his laundry on purpose?
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    Font - r/AmIthe As 14 hours ago Posted by u/frog_grlz n AITA for screwing up my boyfriends interview by not doing his laundry on purpose?
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    Font - Edit: when I got home I did tell him I was tired and I asked if he could do it but he started saying that I had promised And he had plans with his friend already, so I agreed again afterwards and then I took a nap and overslept and when I woke up there was only an hour before the laundromat closed, so I could have still gone but it would've been really rushed (and I was probably being a bit petty) Also the blazer is from H&M.
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    Font - to keep this short my (25f) bf (26m) had a big interview on Friday that could jumpstart his career. He's been planning for it for about 3 weeks. Usually I do all the laundry and take care of our flat in terms of cleaning.
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    Font - On Wednesday he told me he wanted to wear a very specific blazer and it was in the bin to be washed. I usually do laundry on the weekends because I am a full time uni student + I work part time so during the week is hard to make time to go to the laundromat. I told him I would do it Thursday night though, and he said ok. (Mind you he hasn't been working since he just graduated school in the fall semester so since the end of December, his parents help him pay the rent until he gets a job)
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    Font - Anyway Thursday rolls around and I get home from class and he's just playing a video game and he immediately asks me when I'm going to do laundry since he's very nervous and wants it to go perfectly. I'm so tired from school bc I had an exam he didn't even ask me about, so I feel irritated and say I'm going to do it later but I'm going to nap first, he again says ok and he's going to meet up with a friend for a drink to help calm his nerves.
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    Font - Anyway as the title says, I ended up not doing the laundry because I was tired and also partially pi ed off. He was super ped, ended up wearing something else and saying that I screwed him up by not fufilling what I agreed to. I thought this might blow over since he said it still went well despite me "attempting to sabatoge him" but he is not speaking to him still and has even said he may go stay with his parents over this. Was I really that much of an as ?
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    Font - mdthomas 14 hr. ago Prime Ministurd [427] There was nothing stopping him from washing it on his own. If it was that important, he should have done it. That being said, he asked you to do it and you said you would. But you didn't do it. ESH
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    Font - stanitor 13 hr. ago yep, everyone's TA here except the poor blazer. It doesn't get washed enough, and when it does, it goes to the laundromat instead of the dry cleaner
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    Font - 01 exitdate 11 hr. ago 3 Am I wrong, or did the boyfriend ask for her to wash it pretty much a DAY before the interview? If he asked Wednesday and the interview was Friday, he literally only gave her till Thursday to do it (ONE day). AND he knows she only does laundry on weekends? So why didn't he ask her to do it the previous weekend (OR if you dirtied it that week, he should've just not worn it since he knew he'd want to wear it for his interview??) I think her grown man boyfriend eithe
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    Font - Sorry but this was preventable on the boyfriend's part. Sure, he could've been disappointed since she agreed (seemingly forced to agree because she's the one who does the laundry, so I wouldn't necessarily even say she agreed) but he presumably had HOURS that day to go wash it himself since OP told him she was too tired to go, and slept until an hour before the laundromat closed (so he could've got off his behind and washed the blazer in that span of time since she already said she was ti
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    Font - ConsequenceLaw5333 12 hr. ago . I'm not so sure it's ESH. Bf has plenty of time to play video games while op is in Uni. Op needs to tell baby boyfriend that he has a set of hands and legs and to grow tfu and learn to prioritize and do it himself since he has so much time of his hands to play video games.
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    Font - Fianna9 11 hr. ago ESH in this one. But instead of letting the resentment boil up OP should just dump him. She's a full time student, works part time, does all the cleaning and takes clothes to the laundromat. And he plays video games?
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    Font - daisyalesoundworks · 9 hr. ago This dude doesn't work. That excuses OP's people-pleasing anxiety symptoms, and read her edit please. She asked if he could do it because she had a long day and he hasn't had a long day in weeks, and he said no because she promised. ΝΤΑ
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    Font - More-Pizza-1916 7 hr. ago Parta ipant [3] Second point for him being an AH is that he was planning for 3 weeks and decided two days before the interview to state what needed to be washed when he knows OP does laundry at the weekend. Why wasn't it washed the week before. 100% agree that ESH. OP even admits they were being petty
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    Font - Imnotawerewolf 4 hr. ago Partas ipant [4] This is bad and you should feel bad. He is unemployed and he asked her 1 day before he needed it to be clean and he asked her to make a special trip to the laundromat just for him while he stayed home and played video games and also went to the bar to "calm his nerves". All of that time could have been spent making sure his own da blazer was clean. He didn't have a godda other thing to do.
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    Font - OsaBear92 14 hr. ago (S Aficionado [14] A Any grown adult who spends 3 weeks 'preparing' for anything. Only to be stopped by laundry not being done? Is the AH themselves. NTA But your gona be one to yourself if this isn't some sort of wake up call for you. He had so much time. And many opportunities to do his own laundry. Heck, he could started his 3 week chunk, cleaning his own outfit and hanging it up then. This was a power play Op. He knew he coulda done it himself. But simply expected
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    Font - Well, why does 1 adult have to do the chores for 2 fully capable ones? Look up weaponized incompetence and sit back with a coffe, and think about your household work load vs. His. Especially if he isnt working and Mommy & Daddy pay his bills. Sounds like he's a spoiled punk who's gona start listening to Andrew Tate & Alex Jones. Be careful Op. Good luck.
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    Font - evil_nala 13 hr. ago This is the answer. I get the ESH comments focusing on OP saying she'd do the laundry, then not doing it. But, if this was so very important to boyfriend, if he was genuinely preparing for weeks, he had plenty of time and opportunity to clean his interview outfit himself or take it to be professionally cleaned and pressed if he didn't trust himself with the task. The only answer is that the power play opportunity and irresponsibility were more important to boyfriend t
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    Font - UvarighAlvarado - 12 hr. ago ΝΤΑ Yeah, also the whole "you ruined my interview because I didn't wear my lucky blazer" thing is just ridiculous, he's acting like a 7 year old.
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    Font - CrystalQueen3000 - 14 hr. ago Judge, Jury, and Excretioner [365] ΝΤΑ He can do his own laundry but he chose to play video games and go and drink with his friends 1.8k Reply Share Fickle_Weakness 122 - 12 hr. ago Pre-celebrating the night before his important interview, as well? Because a possible hangover looks good to future employers, I guess. It almost sounds like he's set up OP as "THE" reason he doesn't get the job. Just in case. Not him, though. He's doing fabulous acrobatics to sli
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    Font - FishMcBobson 13 hr. ago INFO: why would you do his laundry when he's not currently working or in school? What does he do all day? Reply Share 1.3k frog_grlz OP 13 hr. ago Before he got the interview he was actively job searching and networking, and he is still looking for other things in case this one doesn't work out but since he got the interview he's mostly been preparing by watching YouTube videos and emailing for tips and also he's been playing video games and relaxing -398 Reply Sha
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    Font - abishop711 11 hr. ago Honey. No. This is not okay. He has not been "preparing" these last three weeks. He's been playing video games and playing you like a fool. He should have been handling the bulk of the chores in the home while not working. And he shouldn't have even asked you to clean it for him. Please expect better treatment for yourself.
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    Font - xtaberry 4 hr. ago Parta ipant [2] Yea it absolutely doesn't take 3 weeks to prepare a job interview. That's absurd and simply not how things work in the real world. The last time I was looking for a position, the entire process took about 3 weeks, and I did 3 interviews in that time. While being a full-time student. And doing my own d laundry.
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    Human body - laurenconnor9 - 12 hr. ago mate you can't be this naïve. kick him out
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    Font - rubykowa 8 hr. ago Yeah, he's being lazy and taking you for a ride. It does not take up all his time to prep and job search. In fact, he should time track and see how many hours he spends where.
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    Font - Rockandahardplace69 1 hr. ago . Welcome to your life if you stay with this as Although you are also the for allowing it. You as work, go to school and still do everything at home? While he sits on his a playing video games and going out with his friends while he knows you're too tired to do anything? He's but you also need an a to tell him off and tell him no instead of being passive aggressive. Tell him to go ahead and run back to mommy and daddy or he can start being an actual man and s
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    Font - Mrs_Weaver 13 hr. ago Girl, why are you doing his laundry, and all of the cleaning, while being a student AND working? You are not his mother or his maid. It should be an even split. And if he's not working, he should be doing more. He sat there playing video games instead of doing his own laundry. If the blazer was that important to him, he would have washed it himself. NTA, but man, you two need a CTJ talk.
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