'I... told him that he needs to get over high school': Smug dude stuck on high school stereotypes gets rude awakening from sibling

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    Rectangle - 0 ] J "Without any prompting, Geoffrey loudly said 'Better live up those quarterback days now. You'll be working at a gas station after graduation."" 0
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    Font - r/AmIthe As . Posted by u/aitaGeoffrey Emma 16 hours ago 2 AITA For pulling my brother aside and giving him a reality check that he needs to get over high school or else he will end up alone?
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    Font - My brother Geoffrey did not have a positive high school experience. Geoffrey didn't have any close friends and it was a lonely time for him. He doesn't have contact with anyone from high school. Geoffrey thinks that if a person has contact with anyone from their high school (even past teachers,) it means they peaked in high school. He constantly makes assumptions about people (often strangers) based on his own high school experiences. The comments he makes are mean-spirited and uncalled f
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    Font - An example is how we were visiting a relative who lives next to a park and there was a random teenager using the fitness equipment. Without any prompting, Geoffrey loudly said "Better live up those quarterback days now. You'll be working at a gas station after graduation." Whenever we go out, Geoffrey makes rude comments about the employees and assumptions about their time in high school. We recently had a very sweet waitress at a restaurant, and Geoffrey felt the need to say "Bet she was
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    Font - Recently, we were at my parents' house for their anniversary. My daughter Emma was in the living room doing an online dance challenge. Geoffrey made a comment about how Emma should have "grown out of" doing online dance challenges and "be careful, she'll wind up being her school's version of Kathy" who was a girl that I and Geoffrey knew in high school. Kathy was always nice to Geoffrey. Geoffrey had gotten angry and refused to talk to her after she went to prom with another boy instead o
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    Font - I reminded Geoffrey that Emma's thirteen and to just leave them be. Geoffrey again told me to "be careful" or else "she'll end up being that fat single mom who always talks about her cheerleader days." In the past, I have just told Geoffrey not to be rude, but roping my daughter into his comments was when I had enough.
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    Font - I pulled Geoffrey aside to a more private area and told him that he needs to get over high school. I know it wasn't a great time for you and I'm sorry. But you need to stop taking that out on other people. Start seeing a therapist again and do whatever you need to move on. Otherwise, you're going to end up alone if you keep lashing out at others this way.
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    Font - Geoffrey told the rest of the family about what I said. I shared my side of the story but several others told me that Geoffrey was "just concerned" for his niece's future after graduation and telling him to "get over high school" dismissed/invalidated his experience. And not having close friends during developmental years can affect someone for their whole life.
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    Font - Geoffrey's experiences are valid, which is why I told him about returning to therapy so he can work on properly dealing with them. And Geoffrey's experiences do not give him the right to make such mean-spirited comments about others. It was a harsh reality check but one that I believe Geoffrey needed before he ruins any more relationships. AITA?
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    Font - of 901 Killbot47 14 hr. ago Parta ipant [1] NTA. You got a full blown incel forming right before your eyes.
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    Font - Terrkas 2 hr. ago Partas ipant [1]] The story has something positive to it. At least i for my part am glad Kathy did the right thing by not taking OPs brother to prom. Imagine being the girlfriend to such a person.
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    Font - Accomplished_Two1611 1 hr. ago Partas pant [2] It's funny he loves to accuse people of being stuck in high school when he has taken up permanent residence in wallowing in his high school experiences.
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    Font - Standard-Park. 14 hr. ago A hole Aficionado [10] ΝΤΑ Sounds like Geoffrey peaked in high-school!
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    Font - Yzma_Kitt 12 hr. ago I'd say middle school. 146 . 52 Reply Share Dramatic Beans 8 hr. ago As ole Aficionado [10] More like kindergarten Reply Share realsuitboi 3 hr. ago I don't think he peaked at all
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    Font - ImpossibleAd7376 - 14 hr. ago NTA and I would go no contact with him if I were you 473 Reply Share aitaGeoffrey Emma OP 14 hr. ago I have had to limit my contact with Geoffrey already because of his comments and attitude. I don't want my family to have to deal with it, especially not Emma.
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    Font - philosopherofs . 4 hr. ago Think about how formative it would be for Emma to see that not only is his mean attitude and misogyny not acceptable but specifically how to form those strong boundaries against such behavior. Be honest to her about why you're reducing contact and show her that she doesn't have to take that s.
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    Hat - SnooChipmunks 770 5 hr. ago A hole Enthusiast [9] Love that for you and your family. Great parenting! Especially when he's bringing body comments in it too. Ew.
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    Font - brothurbilo 2 hr. ago Some people don't turn into friendless incels because they got picked on or ostracized in school. Some people were friendless and ostracized in highschool because they were sy from the beginning and never changed.
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    Font - Born_Ad8420. 2 hr. ago Parta pant [1] Right? Dude is like "Don't turn into Kathy" but Kathy probably saved herself a lot of trouble by saying no to him.
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    Font - uraniumstingray 18 min. ago Please don't expose your daughter to Geoffrey anymore. He WILL mess her up if she hears his comments.
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    Font - BadBandit1970 - 14 hr. ago A hole Aficionado [13] NTA. Can kind of see why Geoffrey didn't have very many friends in high school; he's not the most pleasant person around, is he? He seems to bear the world a mighty grudge for not giving him his ideal high school experience. And honestly, one of these days, he's going to insult the wrong person. The moment you come after my kid, is the moment you are dead to me. Truthfully, I think your reality check was a little too nice and I'd not be co
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    Font - Real-Web8925 - 7 hr. ago . Exactly this. I would NEVER be around my brother again, and any family that makes excuses for him is gone too. Oh, wait. I did already. Our life is much better for it.
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    Font - T DeusXMathematica 12 hr. ago Parta ipant [2] I'm curious, what has Geoffery done that is so glorious after high-school? Because it really sounds like he peaked there himself and never moved on with his life. It sounds like he is forever alone, judges everyone as being beneath him, and is just a genuinely unsufferable person with no friends or loved ones outside of his immediate family. So, what lofty hights has he reached to reign on high and s upon those beneath him? NTA
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    Font - mc_hammerandsickle 13 hr. ago projecting his issues onto your daughter is where the line should be drawn she's a kid, you don't insult someone's kid ΝΤΑ
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    Font - citizensfund82 - 14 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [21] NTA I would not want to be around Geoffrey
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    Font - aStoveAbove 13 hr. ago ΝΤΑ If he projected any more he would be employed at IMAX
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    Font - Nester1953 12 hr. ago A hole Enthusiast [9] ΝΤΑ. I suspect the only way you're going to be able to protect your daughter from your brother's bitterness and destructive comments is to go NC. The fact that your family was willing to twist reality into a pretzel to try to make what Geoffrey said to your daughter somehow OK does not augur well for him getting any kind of realistic feedback there. Get out of Dodge, and take your kid with you. She doesn't need one more sick insult from Geoffrey
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    Font - RivSilver 11 hr. ago ΝΤΑ Geoffrey is showing every sign of being the kind of entitled a hole who blame all of his self-created problems on others and lashes out when he doesn't get his way. It always escalates. He's already verbally abusive, including to a 13yo girl. Right now you have the chance to show your daughter that she has the choice to protect herself from these kinds of people by doing it yourself. Please show her how to remove people from her life when they treat others like s.
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