'I refused to apologize': Guy unleashes wrath upon socially awkward sister-in-law, calls her stuck up

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Feb 26, 2023 2:00 PM EST

We love watching family drama unravel when it's not our own family. It's like a nice little reminder that our own family problems pale in comparison. Based on this thread, which was posted to Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole subreddit by u/thatswhyididit, it's quite clear that this family has a lot to sort out.

 

Clearly, we're on the side of the Redditor's brother and his wife, who allegedly has social anxiety. This has resulted in a few instances where she opts out of family gatherings. It's also clear that when she does attend, she doesn't always feel comfortable, and based on how this whole interaction went down, she may not be at fault here. The fact that the Redditor phrased her confrontation in such an insulting way and has the audacity to think she's not the jerk in this situation tells us everything we need to know. Keep scrolling below to watch the Redditor get torn apart in the comments.

 

For more stories like this, here's another post about an employee's revenge on a former coworker.

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  • 01
    Font - AITA for telling my brother's wife that she is a stuck up b__? Context: This involves me (25), my brother, (32m) and his wife(27f). When my brother met his wife 5 years back, all of us were very welcoming. But soon it was clear that she wasn't at all interested in being a part of the family. Over the past five years, she's come to our family get togethers like 6-7 times, it's always either my brother alone or my brother and my niece (3f).
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    Font - Initially I would try to make plans with her but she'd always reject it by saying that she doesn't go out much or that she doesn't like shopping or whatever. On the handful of occasions she's attended our family gatherings, she's been very reserved and quiet, giving one word answers or just smiling whenever someone tries to strike up a conversation. Mostly she makes some excuse and just doesn't show up.
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    Font - Because of this, my brother has also stopped attending the family gatherings as much as before. My parents are very disappointed with this and my brother's absence makes them visibly upset. I've asked my brother about it, and he's always maintained that SIL is very introverted and has social anxiety and that he's not gonna force her into doing something she doesn't like.
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    Font - Next week is our dad's 70th birthday and ofc, my brother and his family are invited. This is supposed to be a grand event with all of our extended family going on a weekend trip. Yesterday, SIL texted me saying that she won't be coming for the trip. The conversation went something like this:
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    Font - SIL: Hey, I'm so sorry but something urgent has come up and I won't be able to attend the event. It's gonna be only (my brother). Me: At least (niece) is coming, right? SIL: Oh I would love for her to attend but she's saying that she won't attend without me. Me: Then why don't you stop being a stuck up b for once and attend the event since it would mean a lot to my dad if the entire family was there!
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    Font - SIL didn't respond after that. Few mins later I got a call from my brother and he was furious. He said that the way I talked to his wife was very disrespectful and that he will not be coming for the trip until I apologise. I refused to apologise because I felt this was long overdue. So now brother isn't coming for the trip. My dad thinks I should apologise but my mom thinks I did the right thing. AITA?
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    Organism - Y-tho 1 day ago YTA maybe your SIL doesn't want to hang out with you because you suck 12.3k Reply Share
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    Font - twelvedayslate 1 day ago For real, I'm sure SIL gets vibes that they all hate her. 3.4k Reply Share
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    Font - Y-tho 1 day ago . I think it's hilarious that OP posted this thinking they were in the right 2.7k Reply
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    Font - happywhateverday 1 day ago INFO: Where was she acting stuck up? Because I don't see it anywhere in this post. 4.6k Reply Share
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    Font - spicycandyyy 1 day ago . She wasn't. I'm pretty sure OP and her fam think she's stuck up because she isn't comfortable hanging out with them. 2.2k Reply Share
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    Font - twelvedayslate. 1 day ago. edited 1 day ago YTA. As your brother said, his wife has social anxiety. You've now further alienated her by calling her a "stuck up b sure as to go to a family gathering after being called that. 3.7k "I wouldn't want Reply Share
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    Font - idontcare8587 - 1 day ago Holy YTA. She married your brother, not all of y'all. Judging by this post, she's not the stuck up "one" here 1.2k Reply Share
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    Font - maypopfop 1 day ago YTA. She was polite and you escalated that beyond the point of no return. You do realize that you have absolutely vindicated her from ever seeing you or bringing your niece around again, right? You sound hostile and inappropriate and she can always refer back to that weird 0 to 60 text. Your brother understands that she is introverted, with a low social battery, and he respects that. Why can't you? Answer: You don't like or care about her. So, why should she hang out w
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    Font - Your father does not deserve a command performance. Your brother will visit when he is able to, as will your niece. Accept that. 1.1k Reply Share
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    Font - bokatan778 1 day ago YTA. She probably stopped coming to family events because you're an AH. 832 Reply Share
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    Font - Riah_Lynn 1 day ago YTA You sound fun to be around. I can't imagine why she wouldn't want to go to events that you are at!!!!! The literal bare minimum is apologizing right now. You are very out of line here. How often are these events that seeing you 7 times in 5 years isn't enough???? I don't want to see anyone but my best friends that often.... 551 Reply Share
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    Font - Hapnhopeless. 1 day ago YTA She is introverted and shy. Your brother already told you so. You are just a gruff, selfish hole completely lacking self awareness. Get over yourself. She is polite and quiet when she is present. But she does not enjoy these get togethers. She does not alienate your brother. She does not gatekeep her daughter. She makes no demands of you or your extended family. She just doesn't enjoy your company and has enough respect to decline with grace. Follow her lead an
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    Font - Urkelxgrue 1 day ago . I'm introverted and have social anxiety as well. It is exhausting and causes a whole host of other issues to go to social gatherings. I feel for her. Moreover, with the way you spoke to her I'm sure there are other reasons as to why she doesn't want to be around you or your family. 299 Reply Share
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    Font - spicycandyyy. 1 day ago YTA. I'm very glad your brother has her back on this one because d you and your mother don't sound as welcoming as you're portraying yourselves to be. 237 Reply Share
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