'AITA for refusing to help my neighbor?': Snowy snafu turns entitled woman against wise neighbor

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    Font - r/AmItheAs hole. Posted by u/goodneighbor123 5 hours ago AITA for refusing to help my neighbor and her two young children when their wipers were frozen? I (59M) live in a major city in Ontario, Canada. I live in a small subdivision and have 5 neighbors total on my street. D
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    Font - For the past few years during the winter when we're getting a lot of snow or a bad storms, as I'm leaving for my overnight shift at around 8- 9pm I'll put my wifes windshield wipers up on her car and do a quick walk around to my other 5 neighbors and put their windshield wipers up on their cars (obviously not if they're outside or something, but if it looks like they're in for the night). Many of them forget to do this, as many of them have children and it typically slips their mind, and
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    Font - It's just something nice I like to do to look out for my neighbors. They're all always grateful of this and thank me for it. Many of them started doing it too and there will be nights where I'll forget to put mind and my wifes up, and in the morning one of the neighbors has done it for us.
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    Font - Anyway recently one of our neighbor's moved and a new family moved in as of last week. It's a young couple and their two young children. The other night I was leaving for my overnight shift at around 9pm. It was snowing really heavy and we were supposed to be getting almost 30cm of snow and it was FREEZING out. So I put my wifes wipers up and do my usual quick walk around to the other neighbors.
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    Font - I was hesitant when I reached my new neighbors house, as I've only introduced myself once, but did it anyway. As I was putting the second wiper up on their pick up truck the husband came charging out of his front door yelling "HEY WHAT THE FIK ARE YOU DOING TO MY TRUCK?" I tried to explain to him I was just putting his wipers up to help him. He continued to scream at me to "get the hoff my property and don't touch my st AGAIN!". The wife then came out and started yelling at me too. I apol
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    Font - They tried explaining to him too that it's just something we do, both of them wasn't having it. Fast forward to this morning, I'm arriving home from my overnight shift and as I'm walking in I see the wife of this couple struggling outside to break the ice off the windshield wipers of the truck. Guess she was trying to take her kids to school and the wipers were frozen solid on the car.
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    Font - She sees me and yells over "Hey there! Do you mind giving me a hand please?" I look over to her and yell back "No sorry, thought I was to never touch your st again ma'am" and walked back inside. She yelled back at me "wow AH!". Told my wife about this, she thinks I should've helped her because she was just trying to get her kids to school. I disagree as I was just following what they told me. AITA?
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    Font - lelied 5 hr. ago Parta: ipant [3] NTA for refusing to help. I understand why the neighbors might have had the initial "wtf get away from my truck" reaction, but that's only excusable for like 30 seconds. Once you explained that you were trying to help (and they saw that literally every other car had the wipers up), they should have AT MINIMUM apologized for yelling at you, even if they didn't want to accept your help. It's good to refuse help to people who rejected your help, especially f
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    Rectangle - thenotoriousDEX - 3 hr. ago They get exactly what they deserve in this situation. I can't believe they had the nerve to ask him for help after all that!
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    Font - crystallz2000. 3 hr. ago Partas ant [1] This. And then the wife was rude to him when he did what they asked the next day, so no remorse at all. These people are not nice people. OP, if I were you, I'd stay far away from them unless they have a big epiphany and come over and apologize. The only good thing is that all the neighbors saw this go down, so everyone will be avoiding them, and the neighbors should have your back if anything else happens. I WOULD stay off their property though.
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    Font - MortalSmile8631.5 hr. ago Partas pant [1] ΝΤΑ I understand if they just saw a random person touching their vehicle and freaking out. But once you explained and the neighbours also explained to clear up misunderstanding, they really should have apologized. They got what they deserved with frozen wipers in the morning.
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    Product - Doryfinpo 5 hr. ago NTA-the fact that she can cuss you out the night before and then turn around and expect you to help when you already tried is baffling. INFO: where did they move from? Reply Share 1.6k goodneighbor123 OP 5 hr. ago They moved here from Montreal.
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    Font - Forward Squirrel8879.5 hr. ago Supreme Court Just-as [101] NTA - Their reaction was extreme, but not everyone is used to living in a neighborhood where people help each other out this way. They may also be new to living in a climate where putting up the wipers is necessary. They are new to the area, it was dark, the weather was bad, they have kids in the house - I can kind of understand them being upset to find a stranger on their property touching their vehicle late at night. I can even
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    Font - That being said, she should have been able to put 2 and 2 together the next morning when her windshield wipers were frozen to the windshield and everyone else's were up. She had a lot of nerve to ask for your help without first apologizing for her reaction the night before (or at least saying something to clear the air).
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    Font - wifeofamarriedman 3 hr. ago Partas pant [4] They're from Montreal. The weather is not new to them. The helpful neighbourhood might be but they created their own hostile environment. The guy is NTA but I would have extended the olive branch and helped. You have to live close to people, it's easier to be nice
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    Font - LMGooglyTFY 2 hr. ago A hole Aficionado [11]] I usually aim to be the bigger person, but even I wouldn't feel comfortable dealing with these neighbors again until I got an apology.
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    Font - Bilbo332 5 hr. ago NTA. I could understand the initial shock of seeing an almost stranger out at night touching my vehicle, but after you explained and they were still AHs then at that point they've made their bed, you just let them lie in it. For what it's worth I share a driveway with my neighbour and every snowfall it's practically a race for us to get out there and shovel the whole thing first, just a Canadian thing I guess, shame your neighbours can't read the room (street?).
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    Font - MaryJane_Green - 5 hr. ago Partas pant [1] Nope no way no how NTA. And LOL! It would have been so hard for me to not just crack up hysterically in her face! They dont get to be completely rude and unreasonable to you over something so trivial and then expect you to help them out after. Let her learn her lesson the hard way!
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    Font - litt3llion 5 hr. ago Poperintendant [59] NTA. I can respect that they were maybe thrown off by you initially trying to put their wipers up, but there was no reason for either them to come at you so aggressively. Her lack of planning does not constitute an emergency on your part. If she's been around snow and lived in Canada for any amount of time, I'd guess she is familiar with what the weather is like and should have planned accordingly.
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    Font - Iwoulddiefcftbatk. 5 hr. ago NTA. Look you tried to be kind to a new neighbor and they bit your head off. It's pretty common to put your wipers up if there's going to be a lot of snow or freezing rain to avoid the frozen wipers on the windshield. That is something everyone in cold climates learns at one point. It's too bad your neighbor was an jerk to you for trying to be kind. Hopefully, your neighbor learned a lesson and now you both can exist without bothering each other too much.
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    Font - Ambitious_Link6047 · 4 hr. ago Partas pant [2] NTA, where's her husband now to help? I'm so over people moving onto these kinds of streets and not wanting to be neighborly.
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    Font - Intrepid Potential60 - 5 hr. ago ΝΤΑ I wouldn't want to ever touch anything of theirs. Odds are a new set of wipers would suddenly be your responsibility as they tore from being scraped off the frozen windshield. Some folks are just better left alone. They certainly acted as if they fit that mold, and would have to prove otherwise before any interaction that had potential conflict was to happen.
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    Font - magicsusan42 5 hr. ago NTA. I can imagine their initial confusion, but when YOU tried to explain and the NEIGHBORS tried to explain and they're still being hostile? They're on their own. I'm so sorry about your grumpy neighbors. Maybe they had really horrible neighbors before and will take a while to understand selfless kindness? Good luck
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    Font - geckobrother 4 hr. ago NTA. I can understand the man's initial reaction; it's late, and some person you can identify/don't know/barely know is fiddling with your truck. But the second you explained you're a neighbour and that you're putting up the windshield wipers necause it's going to be freezing, I would immediately apologize and be like "ok" and explain why I was upset. The woman the next day merely called you an AH because she's upset that you were right about the windshield wipers.

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