'I’m poor and you're rich': Moocher refuses to let BFF have slice of pizza she 'didn't pay for'

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Mar 2, 2023 5:00 PM EST

The cost of a friendship should ideally be more than the cost of a pizza pie. For this woman, it represented the final straw in her relationship with a formerly close friend. 

Friendships can end in all sorts of ways. Sometimes one person moves, or you go in different directions in life that make your friendship incompatible. For this OP, u/InteractionFirst5109, she and her BFF Dawn had a falling out for financial reasons. 

She writes that she and Dawn both work full time, though the OP has a higher salary. For some reason, this leads Dawn to believe that the OP will pick up the tab on "driving, hosting, cooking, etc." For a while, she didn't mind, but once the OP noticed her best friend stopped even bringing cash along to offer to pay, it soured her view of the relationship. 

Next, this guy often helps out his neighbors during winter storms, but he might think twice after one of his new neighbors ripped him a new one. 

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    Food - 'She told me I wasn't allowed to have a slice until I Venmo her $7.50... I snapped'
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    Font - r/AmItheA hole. Posted by u/InteractionFirst5109 1 day ago AITA For Refusing To Venmo My Friend For Pizza & Possibly Ending The Entire Friendship Over It? Not the A-hole
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    Font - I 26F have been best friends with Dawn 30F. Dawn lives alone, does not have a license, and works full time. I work full time as well, I have a car and make significantly more money than Dawn. From the start of our friendship/ any relationship I am in I've always been someone who doesn't mind picking up the tab, driving, hosting, cooking, etc., and do these things without any expectation of anything in return. As my love language is acts of service and giving.
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    Font - Within the last year of our friendship I've noticed Dawn stopped bringing cash out, when we went out. I thought this was rude so started asking for split bills, every time I did this Dawn would make it known how "poor" she is and I noticed her bringing up financials all the time. This made me uncomfortable and honestly annoyed because Dawn is not poor, Dawn just lives like she's a millionaire, Ubers everywhere, doordash every meal, Starbucks everyday, going out to the bar every night, etc
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    Font - reggiesnap 1 day ago Certified Proctologist [24] NTA. If she wanted to split the pizza bill, she should have said that before ordering. The way she asked -venmo before eating - is insanely rude even if you hadn't already paid for a lot. It's clear she feels entitled to your money, which isn't reasonable even if you do make more than her.
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    Font - . thinkingwhynot 1 day ago NTA. this "friend" is using you. If you want to maintain contact set ground rules moving forward. Like everything you do you pay for your own. Watch how fast she stops coming around or asking to do things. She's greedy. Poor with money and feels entitled to yours. Boundaries or nada moving forward.
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    Font - Boeing367-80. 1 day ago Parta: ipant [4] It wasn't about the $7.50. The $7.50 just symbolizes all the other times Dawn leeched off OP.
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    Font - mortgage_gurl . 1 day ago I would have said sure. But first you Venmo me 1/2 or the cost for dinner I paid for. Then I would have escorted her to the front door. Seems like no big loss actually
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    Font - IgnotusPeverill. 23 hr. ago A hole Enthusiast [5] OP paid for dinner and a drink without demanding anything up front. I would have said, okay - I will venmo you the 7.50 once you pay me for 1/2 for the dinner and drink earlier. It's crazy. This "friend" shouldn't be going out if she can afford it. She is acting like a grifter. I would drop doing anything with her OP. NTA.
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    Hair - EH Iookingforasong 1 day ago "What's yours is mine and what's mine is also mine"
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    Font - Suzdg. 21 hr. ago Partas ant [2] And right after OP paid for dinner and drinks? I can see how this was the tipping point, and understandable. No one likes being made to feel like an ATM. NTA.
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    Font - Consistent_Ad460 1 day ago . "Take the 7.50 out of what you owe me for dinner." Nta Also stop being friends with someone like this.
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    Font - impostershop 1 day ago A ole Aficionado [14] NTA it's ridiculous to ask you for $7.50 for a pizza when you just paid for dinner and drinks. She's being stupid and petty. The ball is in her court. 1.1k Reply Share advicepls768 21 hr. ago And while OP is waiting for Dawn to decide what to do with the ball, OP should just walk off the court. This person is not a good friend.
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    Human body - Caffeinated CatLady0. 1 day ago NTA. It took $7.50 to find out she's not a real friend.
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    Font - thatshygal717. P perintendant [55] 1 day ago NTA. Send her an itemized invoice of all the bills and gas you've covered for her. And then promptly block her as she will never stop using you for your money.
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    Font - AgentAlpo 1 day ago A ble Aficionado [14] ΝΤΑ She's been taking advantage of you for a while. It's always hard to know who your friends are when money's involved. It's one thing to have everybody at the table taking out their money and one person saying "I've got this" and a completely different thing for everyone at the table to not bring money because one person often covers the whole check. 165 Reply Share ... Interaction First 5109 OP 1 day ago I agree with this 100%. It's also nice t
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    Font - KronkLaSworda - 1 day ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [49] ΝΤΑ She's been exploiting you for your generosity. She's not poor, she's just living beyond her means and expecting you to pick up the entertainment tab for her. She's not your friend. You are her ATM she doesn't have to put money into.
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    Font - TO or kieka408 1 day ago Partas ipant [2] NTA honestly I couldn't keep reading past the request/demand for 7.50. I've been the broke friend, depending on who comes out sometimes I still am. What I don't do is expect people to cover me and dan sure don't demand it. That friendship is over. 98 Reply Share Interaction First5109 OP 1 day ago I've been the broke friend too at points in my life and I agree it's not so much about the money, it's more so about the way the money was demanded. I fe
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    Font - Short-Classroom2559 1 day ago P perintendant [50] NTA is Venmo her for half of dinner and drinks bill (and gas money) though if she wants half of the pizza bill. I probably wouldn't pay for anything going forward and tell servers "separate checks" as soon as we sat down. Don't pay for a single other thing for her. Your love language is being treated like an ATM.
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    Font - Drew_P_Nuts 1 day ago . Parta: bant [4] NTA- i am so sick of financially irresponsible people claiming to be poor or being mad at rich people. I literally argued with a girl making $280k!!! Who was talking about she can't afford to live in the Bay Area and how it was millionaires fault. Like maybe don't argue with driving your $70k vehicle and in your designer cloths while you have $1000 delivery app fee each month
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    Font - . InteractionFirst5109 OP 1 day ago That's honestly a really big aspect to this. I work in the legal system with foster children and am reminded everyday what truly poor looks like. I've explained that to Dawn, that poor isn't ubering, Uber eats, going out to eat, buying whatever you want from the mall, buying a pack of cigs everyday, Lululemon, etc. and if you want to spend your pay check like that, go ahead! But then don't say you're poor. Poor and broke are very different. I am totally
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