AITA : 'I was LIVID' : Entitled Monster-In-Law Caught Switching Bride’s “Inappropriate” Wedding Dress for Something More Modest, Bride Banishes Her From the Ceremony, Depriving Husband of a Mother-Son Dance

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    Font - Posted by u/bridetobe-ta 15 hours ago AITA for uninviting my MIL from my wedding after she tried to sabotage my wedding dress?
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    Font - My future MIL has never been a fan of me (26F) for the entire duration of mine and my fiancé's (29M) relationship. I'm honestly not sure why it is that she's always disliked me and been cold to me, but after multiple attempts over the years to build some type of relationship with her (we've been together for 4 years) nothing has worked.
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    Font - She couldn't give two shits about me up until the wedding planning started a few months ago... My fiance and I are paying for majority of the wedding ourselves, while my dad and stepmom are fiancially contributing as well. MIL and FIL have not contributed at all, but MIL is giving her opinion on thing's as if she's footing the bill.
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    Font - "You should make the themes this color", "make sure you have this dish on the menu to be served", "don't do an open bar you don't want people being too rowdy", "make sure me, my sister and cousin are sitting front row at the wedding ceremony" etc etc.
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    Font - My fiancé and I are absolutely sick of this. Every time she tries to give an opinion we politely shut it down and tell her we have it under control, but she just never gets the hint!
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    Font - Before she became such a nightmare I regretfully invited her to come dress shopping, because I didn't want her to feel left out.
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    Font - While a few weeks ago we went dress shopping (my mom and close friends came too) and I found my DREAM wedding dress. I have a curvy hourglass figure, and I found a dress that shows off my figure perfectly and makes me feel gorgeous. The dress is kind of revealing (low cut on the chest, and mermaid style) but it's nothing I'd be ashamed of my family and friends seeing me in.
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    Font - My MIL on the other have HATED the dress I chose. She made sure to express that to me multiple times. She even went as far as to say "this is a wedding, not a strip club I don't like it". Well I bought the dress anyway since I'm the one paying for it after all.
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    Font - Last night my fiancé and I are cleaning up after dinner and I received a call from the shop I ordered my dress from. They were calling me concerned because apparently a lady (my MIL) called then pretending to be me and wanted to switch the dress I chose to a more appropriate dress. The sales associate realized that It wasn't my phone number that called to make the change, and called me immediately to confirm before they changed the order.
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    Font - I was LIVID. My fiancé heard the entire conversation and was LIVID as well. He called his mom to confront her and she fessed up, after denying it a few times. I told her if she's so bothered by my dress to consider herself uninvited from the wedding and hung up on her.
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    Font - Safe to say she is NOT happy. She's been calling both my husband and I non stop trying to defend herself but I've had enough. I feel bad for my fiancé because he won't get to have his planned dance with her. Did I take it too far AITA?
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    Font - ChakraMama318 14 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [40] NTA- I would have done the same thing. But you and your fiancé need to be in lockstep on this. So if he is/starts hedging- don't go through with the wedding until you are both on the same page. You need to get these boundaries in place now because MIL will be a nightmare if you have kids if you don't.
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    Font - StrangledInMoonlight 11 hr. ago Partassipant [2] IF fiancé changes his mind and really wants her there, and IF OP ends up compromising, they need to get a minder for MIL. I wouldn't put it past her to try and spill something on OP's dress or otherwise disrupt the ceremony. The best course is no MIL, but life rarely lets us pick the perfect course.
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    Font - UnfortunateDaring Asshole Aficionado [14] 14 hr. ago This, making this decision without unilateral support of the fiancé is a recipe for disaster. This is his mom and his wedding too. He needs to be the one to make the final call with you or you will start this marriage off with a resentment from him. NTA though - would totally be my reaction as well.
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    Font - VariousTry4624 11 hr. ago Partassipant [4] If he is not on the same page, then perhaps she needs to rethink who she is marrying.
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    Font - midmodmad 10 hr. ago edited 10 hr. ago ● ● ^ This. I adore my MIL, but my SIL and BIL are from hell. 30 years of dealing with their shit has been a nightmare and the stress has made me ill. All the warning signs were there before the wedding, but I was so in love. Now I'm less in love and I am pretty sure I would have been better off not marrying into this family. What will your life be like down the road? Edit to add NTA
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    Font - IndustryOk1388.7 hr. ago I suggested they move to another state because MIL is obviously destructive and deranged. Definitely a flying monkey to be avoided at all costs.

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