Internet Divided In New AITA Post After Man Implies That His Toddler Is More Important Than Brother's Dog And Threatens To Ruin Family Vacation Over Dog's Attendance

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Blake Seidel • Managing Editor & Brand Manager
Mar 15, 2023 11:00 AM EDT

Some people aren't dog people. We don't understand them, but we understand that there are people out there who don't like dogs. One of them is the author of this AITA post, who doesn't want to go on his annual family vacation because his brother has a small dog, whom he also wants to bring on the trip. The author of the post has an 18-month old toddler, which is seemingly unrelated to his dislike of dogs and why he doesn't want the dog to come.

Naturally, his brother wants to bring the dog, his family, on the family vacation. The author writes, "I'm not a dog person, I despise them on airplanes. I do not want to travel with the dog….I do not want to stay the week in the same house as the dog…" etc. Here's the kicker, he even describes the dog as "too kind" and "well-behaved". So it's not even the dog's fault, it's just this guy's hatred of dogs. What do you think, should he suck it up and try to like the dog? Or should he not deal with dogs if he doesn't like them?

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  • 01
    Font - Pre-Covid I (33M) would go on family vacations with my family (My Parents (late 50's), Brother (27) and Sister (29)), these occurred about every other year. For a multitude of reasons we haven't done a trip since 2018. I am married and we have an 18 month old. My sister has a boyfriend, and my brother has some sort of terrier and no GF I know of. My brother has morphed into a self described "dog dad" and based off social media seems to rarely do things without the dog. We live in the same
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    "The dog behaves fine…it's too friendly." Those are words that describe the goodest boy ever and probably the perfect dog to take on a vacation. It's going to run around, enjoy nature, play with the adults, sleep, and eat! What's not to love?

  • 02
    Font - My parents have a Vrbo beach house in Florida booked. In a few week the deadline for a full refund for canceling is coming up and my parents need to know if we are in. We live in the west side of the USA so we'd be flying. I found out my brother plans to bring his dog. My parents aren't thrilled about it but "it is what it is", those are my parents words. I'm not a dog person, I despise them on airplanes. I do not want to travel with the dog (tentatively we are on the same flight), I do n
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    Font - Our parents want to stay out of it and have us hash it out. I broached the topic with my brother. Essentially he isn't flexible on the dog, it is his family and it is a family vacation. He says my 18 month old will be far more annoying and loud than his dog. He seems firm on this and i'm ready to pull out of the trip. If I don't go, the trip may fall apart. WIBTA?
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    TRUE. An 18-month-old definitely is going to cry more and require more planning around activities than a dog. The dog might even help with entertainment for the toddler! If its a well-trained dog, it shouldn't be a problem. Sorry OP, YTA.

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    Font - DoraTheUrban Explorer 10 days ago â’¸2 & 11 More Colo-rectal Surgeon [38] YTA It's a small dog and you said it was well behaved. It's fair to ask the dog is kept away from the baby. A baby is a far more inconvenience than a dog. You can leave a dog home alone for a few hours if people want to eat at a nice restaurant. It's rude to bring a baby to a nice restaurant, they have bed times and they scream at movies. Kids are awesome- but you're on a different planet if you think the vacation is
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    Font - NavSur 9 days ago edited 9 days ago I'm not sure that's so. The way he sets this up makes it sound like he's bashing his younger brother for having a dog but no girlfriend, as if bringing a girlfriend instead of a dog would be totally acceptable to him. The vibe OP gives me as that of an AH, and I fail to see what OP means by the dog is "too nice." OP sounds like he has a bit of a superiority complex about how a man should live rather than that he just doesn't want to be around a dog that
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    Font - txa1265 10 days ago Partassipant [3] 2 YTA - and his statement "He says my 18 month old will be far more annoying and loud than his dog." Is ABSOLUTELY true. Perhaps an unpopular opinion, but 'family' isn't defined solely by squirting out an infant or having shared the same space pre-birth. He has told you that his dog is a non-negotiable, and I assume that your toddler is a non- negotiable. You hate dogs, he might hate kids. Neither is more or less valid. Your ideas are not compatible -
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    Font - Odd_Significance7396 10 days ago This. Having a kid doesn't make someone more important, or their reasons more valid. Family is what a person decides it is for themselves. I've been on holidays with family friends with both dogs and kids of all ages and sizes, and the brother's statement is correct. The dogs were 100% better behaved, quieter, and easier to deal with than any of the kids. 3.0k Reply Share
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    Font - Bizzy1717 9 days ago Asshole Enthusiast [6] NAH though I think this is a really weird hill to die on since the dog is admittedly small, well behaved, and non- aggressive. Also as others have pointed out: this vacation is 100% going to revolve around your toddler, not the dog. Honestly, I'd rather vacation with a small dog in the house than an 18-month-old (and no, I don't hate kids, I have one, which is why I know a "vacation" with a toddler isn't particularly easy or relaxing). Reply Sha
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    Font - naisfurious 10 days ago Partassipant [4] YTA. Take a step back and look at the situation. You're considering pulling out of a cross- country family vacation because your brother is bringing a small dog. Your brother is most likely correct in that your child will probably be more of a hassle than his dog. Your Brother is your brother and your parents are in their 50s. Going every other year, how many more of these vacations do you think you all have left together? But, I will relinquish th
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    Font - jrm1102 10 days ago Commander in Cheeks [200] And lets be honest id rather have a dog on plane than a kid. 1.9k Reply Share
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    Font - Pepper-90210 - 10 days ago Professor Emeritass [79] NAH. But your brother is correct about a toddler being more "annoying" than a well behaved dog. Q: Why don't you want your toddler around a dog? 1.1k Reply Share
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    Font - Ju5tSomebody Els3 10 days ago Asshole Aficionado [17] NAH. You have a baby, he has a dog. Dogs can be annoying on planes, babies can be annoying on planes. You don't want to do dog friendly activities, others may not want to do baby friendly activities. If he wants to bring his dog, that's fine. Lots of people take dogs to beach vacations. If you don't want to go, that's your choice. But sounds like a shame for what appears to have been a nice family tradition
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    Font - Few_Screen_1566 9 days ago NAH, you're allowed to dislike dogs, you're allowed to decide you don't want to be around them. But I do feel you need to look at this from a more varied angle. You're expecting your brother to make sacrifices and cater to you, but would never consider it the other way around. I love dogs, I love children! I have 2 dogs and am pregnant, I can understand the limitations that comes with both. That said, knowing the limitations both present to not only myself but o
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    Font - perfectpomelo3. 10 days ago YTA. A small dog that behaves "fine" is going to be easier to deal with than an 18 month old. You don't want activities to be based on being dog friendly, but are you expecting all the adults to put up with the activities all having to be child friendly? I doubt the trip will fall apart because your entitled ass pulls out.
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    Font - everythingistaken427 10 days ago NAH for the question at hand. You don't provide any information to show that the dog would be a hinderance to the vacation. Honestly the information you do provide makes me think your brother is a responsible pet owner and that this is the kind of dog that would do ok on a trip like this. Really all your ranting is just your personal opinion that you don't like dogs. That's perfectly ok. You're allowed to not like dogs. You're allowed to not want them on y
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    Font - andromache97 - 10 days ago Pooperintendant [68] NAH. He is allowed to bring his dog (unless your parents who seem to be in charge of the trip tell him the dog is not invited). You are allowed to opt out of the trip. That said, I think there are plenty of compromises to be made here, but it seems like you and your brother might both be too stubborn for them: 1. Not all activities need to be based around the dog, just like not all activities need to be based around your kid! The family grou
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