'Don't be their ATM': Entitled Aunt Karens try to claim nephew's rightful inheritance, his brother blocks them

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    Font - AITA for not sharing my inheritance? I (25F) recently lost my mother to cancer. Me and my brother (35M) are her only children. For the past 7 years, I've been staying in an apartment my mother bought. She always told me that when she died, she wanted me to have it because she worked so hard to ensure I always had somewhere to live. So when she died, she left me the apartment in the will. My brother has no issue with this, he makes more than enough of his own money and actually owns an apa
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    Font - However, my aunts (A and B) have an issue with this. A has had money issues for as long as I've known her and my mother was always helping her out with money when she was alive. B is financially stable, but in no position to help A. They both think that since I make enough money to be able to rent a place, I should let A stay in the apartment and rent my own because that's what my mother would have wanted.
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    Font - I said no, stating that my mother wanted me to have a place of my own. I am currently saving all the money I would have used on rent and intend to buy my own house when I have enough saved.
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    Font - When I said no, they then suggested that I should share some of the money my mother left me with them. She had two life insurance policies, both of which went only to my brother and I. She also left us the house and her car. Basically, everything was split between my brother and I and no one else got anything. My aunts feel that this was wrong and that they, especially A, deserve some of the money.
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    Font - My brother blocked them all on platforms when they asked this of him and suggests I do the same, but I feel guilty about cutting off my family.
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    Font - But I also feel strongly that if my mother wanted them to get money, she would have left them something. But she didn't. She chose to leave EVERYTHING to my brother and I. My aunts are saying that my mother did that because she assumed we would share. But I knew my mother. She would have told me if she wanted me to do that. All she said was that she wanted to die knowing that me and my brother would be able to support ourselves. So, AITA for not giving money to A or allowing A to stay in
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    Font - Sybaritic Delight - 10 hr. ago There is absolutely no way you're the AH in this situation. Sorry for your loss, but I'm afraid the only way forward is to cut your toxic aunties out of the picture, as your brother did. 4.9k Reply Share
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    Font - IRoastRudePeople 10 hr. ago. edited 4 hr. ago . NTA, you aunt wants you to RENT a place? And give HER your apartment? The one you've been living in for years? The same one your mother wanted YOU to keep? The audacity.... I wish you good luck with such relatives. I'm really sorry for your loss... 1.7k Reply Share
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    Font - OMG_becky111.5 hr. ago It's quite something when you spell it out that way, isn't it? If I were OP's mother, this aunt would be waking in terror at flashing lights, doors slamming open and shut in unison, and ducking flying crockery and cutlery anytime she walked into her haunted kitchen.
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    Font - OP if you're reading this, you're still just a baby and deserved many more years with your loving mother. I'm so sorry. In the absence of a better world her giving you the apartment and life insurance was the best she could do and she'd be absolutely devastated for that to be taken away by her dirty rotten snake of a sister. Follow your brother's lead in blocking your avaricious aunts and take comfort in his company. May your mother's memory be a blessing. 299 Reply Share
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    Font - ThomzLC 10 hr. ago NTA - A is being a very entitled vulture and your brother is wise in blocking her. It's one thing to say "Hey I'm not doing very well financially, any chance I could bunk in at your house now that there's room?" and "Hey you need to move out of your family home and go rent somewhere else because you have money" The fact that she's the latter is a big red flag. Stay awayyyyyyy Reply Share 621
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    Font - thisistemporary1213 10 hr. ago Nta. because that's what my mother would have wanted. Such reasoning. Your mum said what she wanted in her will. I have family members like this and expect the same problems when my grandparents pass. Ignore them, block them, them. She wanted you to have a home, not for you to continue on the cycle of being used by family. Reply Share 390
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    Font - PsiBlaze 10 hr. ago Pooperintendant [62] NTA and your brother is right. Block them. Their behavior is shameful. 219 Reply Share ..
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    Font - Hot Aside_4637 - 10 hr. ago NTA. Take your brother's advice. Note that in most jurisdictions (in the US), if your mom didn't have a will, the aunts wouldn't be entitled to anything. The fact that your mom specifically left them out speaks volumes. Stop listening to them, and put aside any guilt. Otherwise they will bleed you dry. Don't be their ATM. If needed, go no contact. Reply Share 157
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    Font - canvasshoes2 · 10 hr. ago NTA. Ant and the Grasshopper. They didn't bother to plan ahead, so why, exactly is it your job to parent full grown adults? It's not. 102 Reply Share
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    Font - Fortune TellingBoobs 10 hr. ago NTA and follow your brother's lead. Your mother left them nothing because she wanted you and bro to be taken care of. Do not, under any circumstances, fall for their nonsense. You're 25 and just starting out in life, you need all the help you can get. Your aunts are grown women and should have figured their situation out decades ago
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    Font - D Jocelyn-1973 - 9 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [25] NTA. Speaking as a mother: I want to take care of my children, not of my siblings. Your mother made her will intentionally. She had time for it. She also had time to tell you if she would want you to share with anyone. She didn't. And it doesn't make any sense at all that you would be required, at the age of 25, to take care of your aunt.
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    Font - PurpleVermont 10 hr. ago 100% NTA. I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing your mom at 25 is a deal. Having your aunts come after you for money instead of trying to help you cope with your loss is even
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    Font - Info: I'm just super curious -- is there some reason your aunts think they "deserve" part of your mom's estate, other than that they want/need it and were previously able to mooch off of her? Were they going over and above in caring for your mom during years of illness or something? Leaving all the money/property to the kids is exactly what everyone "should have" expected in this case.
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    Font - Ok_Oil_324 OP. 10 hr. ago No in fact they lived across the country throughout her illness and only saw her once Year at Christmas. They say they deserve some of her estate because she always helped them and that therefore she would want them to continue to receive help after her death.
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    Font - PurpleVermont · 9 hr. ago If she had wanted to continue helping them, she would have set something up for them in her will. Her primary responsibility and concern, as a mother dying young, was making sure you and your brother would be well taken care of. She did what any mother would do. I'm so sorry your aunts are being so greedy and inappropriate while you are grieving.

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