'If you can't handle it, maybe you should just quit your job' : Entitled Husband Proposes Wife Quits Her Hybrid Job Because It's Getting In The Way Of Her Maid Duties at Home

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    Font - Posted by u/Fun_Celebration_5623 16 hours ago AITA for not quitting my job because I didn't clean the house?
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    Font - So basically what the title says. I (31f) have been married for 11 years to my husband (35m). My job is extremely flexible to work around my 2 kids school schedules and I make decent money. My husband had this idea though that if there are dishes in the sink, or the floors need to swept, laundry folded, etc then I shouldn't go to work that day. We made
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    Font - the"deal"that if I went back to work, this is how it would go. I feel it's a pretty unfair deal though. I try to save call offs for when the kids are sick, but it turns into a big thing everytime so I usually end up staying home and doing the chores. Some days I'm just so tired I didn't get around to
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    Font - it, but I think it's really unfair that I have to do all the appointments, grocery shopping, and most of all the house chores. He says if i can't handle it, I should just quit, but we could use the money since we bought our first house this year. I feel like I'm going crazy, but I usually always give in on everything, but I really like my job. Would
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    Font - I be the AH if I told him that he should give me a break on this at times even though this is the agreement we made when I went back 4 years ago? My boss is starting to get irritated when I don't have a very good reason for not coming in.
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    Font - Electrical_Angle_701. 16 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [7] This may be abuse if it jeopardizes your employment. NTA.
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    Font - Fun_Celebration_5623 OP 16 hr. ago ● If I don't call, he says he can do it for me. I say no because that is so embarrassing, so I come up with random excuses. I guess I never looked at it this way.
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    Font - Cheddarbaybiskits. 16 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [... Wait, your HUSBAND is contacting your place of employment and calling out for you? You need to get away from this man ASAP.
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    Font - Purchase_Mountain 4 hr. ago ● Nts Why is it your job? Are you from s different culture? Stand up snd tell him housework agreement is now 50-50 He is financially snd emotionally abusing you so you will lose your job and he will have s maid. Hr isnt the boss of you.
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    Font - Trekwiz 15 hr. ago You should read your comment a few times. He's treating you like hired help, not an equal, let alone a partner. Calling in for you is something a helicopter parent does for their kid's first job. It's embarrassing because it's infantilizing.
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    Font - How do you think he'd react if you responded, "sorry, I have a really important task at work today. Perhaps you should call in this time and handle the cleanup?" I have a strong feeling he would react angrily. NTA. And you probably are in an abusive relationship.
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    Font - Fun_Celebration_5623 OP. 15 hr. ago He does react with anger. I work in an office and the end of the month is especially important, but I've had to miss quite a few days because of this.
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    Font - Fun_Celebration_5623 OP. 15 hr. ago Yeah I've noticed everyone seems to be in agreement. It feels nice and sad at the same time to feel validated.
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    Font - I don't really feel very valued, no. I'm going to have a very rational conversation tonight when he gets home that this is ridiculous. I don't want our kids to think this is healthy either. If nothing changes, I'll likely be taking steps towards divorce. I've talked to my mom and she said we can go there if we can't reach an agreement that is equal.

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