Unsupportive Husband Refuses to Drive Pregnant Wife to Hospital, Claims 'Discomfort' is Not a Real Symptom

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    Font - A Posted by u/Joelaken 14 hours ago AITA for telling my girlfriend that I'm not going to drop everything to take her to the hospital anytime she feels any discomfort?
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    Font - I (27M) and my girlfriend (21F) are expecting our first baby at the beginning of May. This pregnancy has been nothing short of chaotic. My girlfriend has never experienced pregnancy and she's terrified to give birth, so any feeling of discomfort she freaks out. I understand that pregnancy is hard and scary, and my girlfriend doesn't have her family around to help her, so she's probably experiencing a lot of anxiety.
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    Font - I'm not trying to downplay that. I'm frustrated because I feel like she's taking advantage of the fact that she can get me to do things for her just because she's pregnant.
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    Font - We got into a fight a few days ago. She insisted that she didn't feel good, and she thought something was wrong with the baby. She wanted to go to the hospital to make sure everything was okay. We've been to the hospital for this kind of "emergency" almost four times since the beginning of her pregnancy. I
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    Font - had to go to work because we are severely understaffed, so I told her that if she still didn't feel good tonight we could go make sure everything was okay. She got upset with me, and she told me that I never take her pain serious. I told her that I can't drop everything any time she feels any discomfort. Pregnancy is uncomfortable.
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    Font - We argued some more then I left for work. When I got home I asked if she was feeling better, but she wouldn't tell me. She has stopped talking to me about her pregnancy now, and I feel like she is being manipulative. She's withholding information about my child because I didn't drop everything to take her to the hospital, again. I tried explaining to her my side of things and I apologized, but she's still mad at me.
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    Font - My girlfriend is treating me like I'm the asshole, but I feel like she isn't seeing how frustrated and tired I am from dropping everything for her. AITA?
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    Font - 7hrown 14 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [14] YTA - Your wife is pregnant and you're minimizing her symptoms as "discomfort". I told her that I can't drop everything any time she feels any discomfort.
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    Font - Buddy, you should have thought of this before you got her pregnant. You're locked in this rollercoaster now, and you're just getting started. If she doesn't have family around, then you're it. You should let your work know she's pregnant and you're going to have a lot of sudden absences coming up.
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    Font - Music_with Rocks_In. 13 hr. ago S2 Professor Emeritass [81] Its a high risk pregnancy, and two of the times they went there was a legit medical problem (once because she fainted, other she was having early contractions). So he is a huge flaming asshole.
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    Font - Fearless_Pen_1420 9 hr. ago He's upset because he says she's withholding info about his child Yeah OP YTA
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    Font - sometimesblessed 8 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [6] Which is ironic since he is downplaying the health risks to his child and his child's mother despite the high risk pregnancy. YTA op.
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    Font - naranghim. 7 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [13] He left out that she has POTS and that is what causes her to pass out. Here's his gem of a comment about that: Fainting is not abnormal during pregnancy, or for her in general. She has POTS, so even when she isn't pregnant she faints.
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    Font - richardthickcreams 14 hr. ago Partassipant [3] YTA for real, jesus. You made it seem like you take her every other day. Four times in seven months is completely reasonable! She's scared and just wants to be sure the kid is ok! Good lord. EDIT, see now that you said ALMOST four times. Three whole hospital visits for a first- time mother is just too much. You're a wonder.
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    Font - tmarie656 13 hr. ago According to OP 2 of the 3 visits she had actual medical needs. Preterm contractions and she fainted another time. She's also high risk.

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