'AITA for getting a better haircut than my friend?': Woman divides friend group over bizarre accusations that her new hairdo makes her an 'attention seeker'

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Apr 18, 2023 3:00 PM EDT

This friend group sounds utterly exhausting to be around. 

Friend groups can form at any point in life — during high school or college, at an activity you participate in, or even in the workplace. Friendships also evolve over time. Some people just start to rub you the wrong way, or you find that your differences have changed so much that you don't even have anything in common anymore. This person sounds like she's outgrowing her own friend group — they sound petty and exhausting to spend time with! 

In the comments, people advised the OP to find some new people to spend time around. Others noted that it sounds like her friend group might be influencers, and that most people don't act like that. After all, how could she blame her for just influencing her very own decision? 

After that, this safety inspector worked autonomously until a new boss arrived and tried to micromanage them… but not for long. 

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    Eyelash - 'Our mutual friends told me that she went to a bad hairdresser and they ruined her hair'
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    Font - r/AmItheA Posted by u/Fit-Association1359 7 hours ago AITA for getting a better haircut than my friend? I (19f) have very wavy hair that is helpful for when trends are happening and it's easy to change it. Right now what most people are doing is a wolf cut or layers.
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    Font - I recently decided to get layers and highlights as I wanted something new and it looked great. I got many compliments from other people except for one of my friends "Stacey" (19f).
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    Font - When she saw me she didn't talk to me for a while and I was obviously confused but I stopped trying to interact with her because she wasn't trying.
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    Font - A few days ago I saw her wearing a hat which is unusual as she never wears hats and some of our mutual friends told me that she went to a bad hairdresser and they ruined her hair (the layers were choppy and uneven and the highlights were either too dark or too light, I can't remember).
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    Human body - But she was also telling our friends that I convinced her to cut her hair and now many people don't like me because they think I set her up.
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    Font - I messaged her and asked why she told people that and she responded saying that if I didn't cut my hair and acted like an "attention seeker" she never would have cut her hair either. Then she blocked me.
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    Font - A few of my friends believe me but there's a handful that don't like me anymore, so AITA for getting a better haircut than my friend?
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    Font - monsteramoons - 6 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [42] Stacey is not a friend. First, she was going to copy you. Nothing too bad there if it's not too common, could even be considered flattering. But then when it went wrong, she twisted it and straight up lied to blame you. Yikes. This girl wants to be you, and she hates you for it. Stay far away, don't let her draw you into her drama. If anyone asks what's going on, play dumb; "Idk why she's upset exactly, I guess she liked my haircut but go
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    Font - Dizzy_Negotiation_71 7 hr. ago Aficionado [16] A NTA She is petty and frankly very immature. No one else will blame you for her bad haircut, I'm sure. I doubt they genuinely believe you set her up, and if they do, they're not worth it either. They are probably just siding with her so they don't face her wrath. Embrace that she has blocked you and do not make an effort with her until she apologises.
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    Font - MasterKilvin. 7 hr. ago Aficionado [10] A NTA. If she makes a decision to change her hair based on your haircut, that's on her, not you. Her claiming you "set her up" is a really odd way to not take accountability. Obviously you can't live your life thinking about how any appearance change you make will influence other jealous people.
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    Font - bimmer_rider. 7 hr. ago Enthusiast [8] A NTA. But it seems like Stacey is in desperate need of a good therapist. This seems like trauma or a disorder. But it's not on you, at all!
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    Font - Primary-Criticism929 - 7 hr. ago Commander in Cheeks [202] NTA. Your friend is immature and chances are she tried to cut it herself and f ked it up.
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    Font - Maleficent-You3160 6 hr. ago Parta ipant [1] If people unfriend you over something so trivial then let them. You need better friends so this is just weeding out a few for you.
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    Font - lifeiswonderful-1990 6 hr. ago Info: are you / some people in your group some kind of "influencer"? Because this type of behaviour would be perfectly normal for those types of people, for everyone else living in the real world, it's WTF
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    Font - idontcare8587. 6 hr. ago Pooperintendant [63] NTA. Hun, this person is an absolute child. Sounds like many of your friends are if they're somehow blaming you for someone else giving her a bad hair cut.
    via u/idontcare8587

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