‘My Landlord Called Me; Turns Out I Owed 7 Months Rent’: Couple Faces Eviction When Boyfriend Withholds Thousands of Dollars of Debt From Girlfriend

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    Font - Posted by u/Spicydawg0120 22 hours ago 2 Found out 3 days before my birthday we owed 7 months rent. Just what the title says. My boyfriend and I live together also we have a small business together. He is in charge of finances and trusted him with paying for rent. I had a feeling that something was wrong for a few months and asked him to give me proof of payments and total owed. I
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    Font - knew we might be behind due to some business expenses but never imagined... Whenever i asked he would say 'yes just paying what was left ' I would ask for proof and he would get defensive saying I thought he was incompetent. We would have arguments and I would end up feeling dumb in the end.
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    Font - Anyway, so 3 days before my birthday my landlords assistant called furious. She emailed the breakdown of what was owed. I was in TOTAL. SHOCK. Wth!! I was so upset i cried for like 3 days. My boyfriend said he felt bad and he would work hard and pay off the debt. It was not his intention for this to get out of hand and the reason he didn't tell me before was because he knew I would get angry. I feel like I can't trust him anymore.
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    Font - Also, to add to this like 3 years ago I got a loan to help him with some urgent family stuff and found out through my new bank that more that half was still owed. He had told me he had/was taking care of it. The loan was 1k-1.5k and payments had stopped a few months ago. I KNOW I'm the stupid one but still feel betrayed and so so stupid. Don't know what to do we're tied together through debt and this business. He acts nice but at times
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    Font - tells me he does not understand why I'm still upset. It's just a mistake and 'no one is perfect'. Ugh Trying not to be angry and just need some advice on how to navigate this turmoil. I still have to work with him cuz we have a business together and have to help even if I don't want to cuz this was his mess. Also don't know how we just didn't get evicted. So irresponsible. We have 2 dogs and he couldn't even think about them.
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    Font - gilded_hart 21 hr. ago I really don't want to be alarmist, but a single eviction can make it hard to impossible to find a place to rent in the future. So, while I don't have any advice for the rest of it, I just wanted to advocate for working with your landlord to make sure an eviction doesn't come. 2.5k Reply Share letuceinn 20 hr. ago It doesn't sound like she's even on the lease. they would have let her know about outstanding balance much sooner 199 Reply Share
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    Font - coffeecoffi 21 hr. ago Is this business really worth it? How can you be in business with this person? Please take some time to yourself away from him with people who are kind and have your back. The fact that your impulse is to fix this is a sign that you really need some fresh air. He will never change and you can either get out now or sink with him Reply Share 1.9k
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    Font - It's not even just that he lied. He made you feel stupid and gaslighted you into feeling like you were insulting him instead of telling you the truth. Get OUT. 490 Reply Share MuggleWitch 15 hr. ago Man is straight up scamming her. I mean, this is the kind of stuff that could land you in jail. What if the assistant just called the cops or got an eviction notice? OP would be homeless right now.
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    Font - melhekhinhel. 19 hr. ago I still have to work with him cuz we have a business together and have to help even if I don't want to cuz this was his mess. Please don't fall into the sunken cost fallacy trap. This man will drag you down into the mud with him if you allow it. I know it seems like you're going to lose out if you leave him but you are going to suffer so, so much more if you stay there. 373 Reply Share
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    Font - DavinaCole 20 hr. ago Not sure you can recover from this. This is a massive breach of trust and really bad. It's not just a mistake it's a lot more than that. As a person he hides things and lies and does not tell you the truth. That's a big part of him that isn't a mistake. He did it for 7 months!!! That's intentional not a mistake. I honestly think you need to let him go for your sake and get out of business with him. He has proven to be a bad partner in everyway. The thing is he was ne
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    Font - clairevoyant82 - 13 hr. ago Yes this. Actively lied and concealed the truth every day for 7 months. Even if the first month was a mistake the next 6 certainly weren't. OP how can you trust this person to do anything they say they will in the future? Did he really send that order? Did he really make that deposit? Are you prepared to bear the burden of both your finances and the business because he is no longer trustworthy, and then still, like, be together in a relationship? Get out, babe.
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    Font - Bewatermyfr13nd · 21 hr. ago If you stick by him he will take that as "I can hide things in this relationship and excuse myself for it by blaming her reaction." He will not learn to do better unless you leave. I'm sorry OP you deserve better. And his inability to keep an adult relationship that holds him accountable is not your responsibility. Reply Share 323
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    Font - chickenfightyourmom 19 hr. ago You feel like you can't trust him BECAUSE YOU CAN'T. He's taken your rent money for SEVEN MONTHS and lied to you. He took your loan money and lied to you. This man is a liar and a thief. Period. Full stop. He does not care about you.
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    Font - Get out now. If you are good terms with your parents, can you ask them for help? Move back in with them. Move in with a friend. Just get away from this guy. He's bad news. Then you can try to work things out with the landlord and the loan officer, possibly even the police. 192 Reply Share
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    Font - Peakswashere. 19 hr. ago How has he not payed off a thousand bucks in three years? Does he not have any income whatsoever? Reply Share 87
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    Font - seltzertime 8 hr. ago Isn't this a Netflix documentary already? The tinder swindler? STOP GIVING HIM ANY MONEY! 6 Reply Share RevolutionaryCat4 - 6 hr. ago It's taken him 3 years to pay off half of a $1.5k loan? You should not be letting this person manage any part of your personal or business finances. 45 Reply Share
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    Font - geekpeeps 9 hr. ago Where did the money go? Presuming that cash flow was stable and invoices were being remitted, where's the money that should have gone to rent? Reply Share 5

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