‘When the One Who Got Away... Comes Back’: Women Share Their 'Perfect Match' Breakup Stories; Some End in Happily Ever After, While Others Are Simply Tears Lost in the Rain

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    Font - Posted by u/pukinginaka 14 hours ago Women who were left by their "perfect matches" while both still in love, how are you now? Did they ever come back to you?
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    Font - Ex. Due to personal issues, family, financial situation, etc. and not due to infidelity, gaslighting, or nothing bad about them but the situation. Edit: explained the question more so lot of us Didn't expect this to blow up a bit going through it and hoping huh? We got this.
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    Font - catatonic-megafauna · 13 hr. ago They have always come back, and it has never been the same. Vote Reply Share ... mentalgeler 12 hr. ago Exactly my experience. He came back, it was nothing like it was before. Once trust is broken, you don't look at them the same way
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    Font - boo-pspps 11 hr. ago Happily married with a little one. My husband and I met while he was visiting my home city for work. Neither of us wanted a long distance relationship and neither of us wanted to move at the time. So neither of us made a move, until the last minute.
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    Font - We decided we would take a huge risk and start long distance relationship. He ultimatly decided he would move to my home city. We've been together ever since. We knew as soon as we started our relationship we were right for each other. Even though our physical distance and time zone felt like an impossble obstacle, it wasn't an issue once we began.
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    Font - We now both agree that if the people are right or "perfect" for each other, they will prioritise each other and make things work. ✩ Vote Reply Share
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    Font - pukinginaka OP. 11 hr. ago Wow, happy for you! Wish my ex had the same mindset totally believe he loves me a lot but life has been really tough to him since childhood and the distance just didn't help. How long did it take for you to close th distance? Vote Reply Share
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    Font - anonymal_me 10 hr. ago 오 They came back. Part of the connection was still there, which surprised me. But another part of me grew up and moved on. So the illusion of them being the "perfect match" was different. It was more like "wow we are still great with X, but wow are we really lacking in Y and Z."
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    Font - FixMyCondo 8 hr. ago He came back, and now we're married. I'm happy to be the exception. Vote Reply Share Fair_Cancel_668 - 6 hr. ago Ot What's you guys story?
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    Font - FixMyCondo 6 hr. ago The relationship was great. No issues, no fights, nothing. At 6 months in, he told me he loved me for the first time. That sentence was "I love you, and I'm not ready for that." Looking back on it, I think that was the honest truth. We were 26, and he didn't have many relationships before me.
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    Font - Obviously, this devastated me. The rug was completely pulled out from under my feet: totally blindsided. 3 months later, he came crawling back. I wasn't ready to take him back, I had no faith in him. He made up several reasons as to why we broke up. Stupid superficial things and I got the impression that he was just making things up because he didn't really understand it himself -
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    Font - so why try to get me back? It was rocky for a bit. I didn't commit. Hel decided he wanted me completely and he was going to do whatever it to took to convince me. It took over a year for me to fully trust him. Every fight we had, I was worried he'd leave again.
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    Font - That was seven years ago. Things got easier day by day. He really was ready this time. Now we never fight, which confirms what I knew: we are very compatible and work well together. I'd consider us to have a very healthy relationship now.
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    Font - Again, I think this may be the exception and I'm not a usual proponent of people getting back together. Vote Reply Share
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    Font - thatonetall_girl · 7 hr. ago We were in our mid-20s, together for 3 years and they came back a few months later. But I knew it wouldn't be the same, and so I declined. It hurt a lot in the moment, but a few years removed I 100% stand by that decision. Here's why:
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    Font - Personally, I don't believe in the idea of "the one" / the "perfect match"...at least not the way you might think. I tend to think there are a few people out there that are ~85% of the way there. But what distinguishes a life partner from the others who have potential is (a) timing and (b) the mutual agreement by BOTH parties that they are each others person. What does that mean? It means you
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    Font - are a team against life's challenges, that you are actively choosing that person and deciding that you are going to face the ups and downs of life side by side. Why do I say all of this? Because I while I thought he was my forever person, the fact that he ended things made me realize that he wasn't. There are always going to be negative externalities in life. But if a partner
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    Font - isn't committed to find a way through all the sh: that happens in life next to you, then that's not actually a situational issue. It's a relationship issue. Vote Reply Share
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    Font - Scuh 11 hr. ago He didn't come back not that I was overly sad about it, sometimes relationships run their course. I did find out a few things about him a few months later when his new girlfriend contacted me. Vote Reply Share
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    Font - petit_aubergine · 8 hr. ago we were never in the same city again after they left, we were still in touch via email but it was messy for a few years. i still think about them often even though it's been over 10 years and i'm in a long term relationship Vote Reply Share
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    Font - SizeQueenie2857 · 7 hr. ago No, we didn't get back together. I waited for him for years, as I thought he would overcome some of the maturity issues. He eventually did, but at that point, I was already with another person and had moved on. We are still very close friends to this way, but we missed our chance to be together. He was definitely my number one in life and vice-versa.
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    Font - aRocks313 4 hr. ago I left him, I was going through a divorce and he was the person who kept me strong, made me confident, helped me in so many ways when I was in an awful situation. God I loved him.
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    Font - I moved out of state, he couldnt come, and our lives DRASTICALLY changed. We didn't keep in touch (it was for the best, a clean break) and when we did reconnect a decade later, there were just too many factors that kept us apart. Lives had changed, children were involved....I think I'll always love him on some level but our time passed.
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    Font - I still think of what could have been and will be forever grateful for who helped me be...but that's another life now... ✩ Vote Reply Share
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    Font - Primary-Ad-6898 · 4 hr. ago He will always love me. And I think maybe one day he would come back but right now I know we're not supposed to be together. And honestly I'm not exactly worried about him coming back. I've been okay before him, during him and after him. I will be okay with or without him. That's what I care most about from the situation. I will always be grateful for the time we had together.

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