'Stay out of it!' : Husband Snaps at Wife to Mind Her Own Business After She Tries To Interrogate 9-Year-Old Neighbor About His Parent's Divorce

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    Font - Posted by u/stayoutofitaita 17 hours ago ♫ AITA For telling my wife to mind her own business
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    Font - My wife (37F) and I (38M) moved to a new neighborhood about 3 years ago with our 2 kids (8 & 6). Our neighbors across the street have 2 kids (9 & 7) that our kids quickly became friends with. We would hang out with the parents as well and my wife became close friends with the mom. The dad and I got along fine, but never got as close as my wife and the mother.
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    Font - Unfortunately, about a year ago, the parents separated and the mom filed for divorce. Apparently, the dad had an affair. The mom moved out as the house was owned by the dad before they got married. She took the kids with her. According to my wife, the mom tried to get full custody of the kids, but the dad asked for and was granted partial custody. So he has
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    Font - the kids 3 weekends a month, the rest of the time they stay with their mom. I've only very briefly talked with the dad about the whole thing as he obviously feels a lot of shame about the affair and we aren't close enough for me to feel I can ask deep questions about it.
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    Font - The kids all still play together when they can. I noticed my wife would make it a point to make sure our kids invited them over to our house. I also noticed that my wife was asking the neighbor kids some pretty odd and honestly rather intrusive questions about their dad. Like if he has "friends" over at his house when they are there. What he feeds them, what rules he has at home, do they feel safe there, etc.
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    Font - This past weekend the kids were at our house and stayed over for dinner and my wife asked the kids if they like hanging out with their dad or mom more. I cut in before the kids could answer and changed the subject to watching a movie after dinner. As my wife and I were cleaning up, I asked her what the hell all the questions are about.
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    Font - She said that her friend is still trying to get full custody of their kids and she asked my wife if she would keep an eye out for anything that she could use to build the case against the dad. I was shocked. I told her that's none of our business and she needs to stay out of it. I told her it seems like her friend is still upset about the affair and is using that anger as justification to try and take the kids away from their father.
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    Font - I told her that neither of us has ever seen a single thing to indicate that this guy is a bad father. Sure, he had an affair and that makes him a bad husband, but that has zero influence on his ability to be a good loving father. I told her what her friend asked to do her was gross and the fact that she's going along with it is something that I strongly disagree with. I told her she needs to mind her own business.
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    Font - She said she's just trying to look out for her friend and she's trying to make sure that the kids end up in a situation that is best for them. I told her that essentially spying on our neighbor is not her responsibility and she's definitely in the wrong for asking the kids the kind of questions she is. She feels she's completely justified, but I do not.
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    Font - Squinky75 16 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [33] NTA. Putting the kids in the middle and using them as a weapon to hurt the father is not what is best for them. Even if he is a jerk. 10.3k Reply Share
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    Font - fridaycat My father did this to me when my mother divorced him. It was not appropriate for a child. I am now 66, and it still bothers me. This post really bothers me. If your wife cares for these kids, she will make your home a safe place for them instead of an interrogation room. 3.9k 15 hr. ago ● Reply Share
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    Font - Communication Used420. 14 hr. ago I agree. the only thing that really matters is how the kids feel - and they need to feel safe above all else. I was constantly involved in adult conversations when my parents divorced. OP is NTA but his wife may be. Reply Share 768
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    Font - cdbangsite 12 hr. ago Partassipant [1] Happens all to often and the kids become a "tool". Your right kids aren't dumb and eventually their dad will become aware of it through his kids asking questions about her questioning.
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    Font - thevelveteenbeagle 11 hr. ago Op is NTA. His wife and the neighbor's ex are DEFINITELY AHs. Kids should not be manipulated pawns in a divorce.

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