'I decided to evict them this morning': Mother of three kicks out roommates for throwing a party against her wishes

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
May 19, 2023 2:00 PM EDT

These roommates may have no home now, but they certainly have plenty of audacity. This thread was posted to Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole subreddit by u/Sudden-Disk284, who had recently gone through an immense tragedy after the loss of her husband. 

 

The fact that these so-called "friends" of hers thought that a party was a good idea after she expressly stated that it wasn't just goes to show how self-serving they really are. It's awful that she felt the need to evict these guys, but they 100% deserved it. This woman already had to make some pretty huge life changes, including getting her license and a new job that would allow her to support her children. Unfortunately, now she has to cut these people out of her life. Certainly not ideal, but clearly, they are not serving her in any way.

 

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    Happy - BETTER "I immediately turned off the music and told everyone to leave."
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    Font - AITA for evicting my roommates after they threw a party without my consent? I 29f have 3 kids and last year my husband/children's father passed away during open heart surgery complications. I was a SAHM and always had been so I had no idea where to start. I'd never had a job and admittedly, I didn't even have my license. It was tough from every single angle but in short, I needed help so I decided to let my best friend "Jesse" (30m) and his wife "Kim" (29f) move in to a spare room to help
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    Font - During this time my parents were helping with babysitting my kids and thankfully within 6 months, I had become comfortable with the "adulting" life style but we were all still grieving heavily, as I never really gave myself time to process the loss of my husband, nor did my babies really grasp that daddy wasn't coming home which made things much more difficult.
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    Font - So anyways, my roommates have been fine for the most part but have recently started attempting to get me to party more, let loose and have fun. Things I'm still not even remotely comfortable with and I've expressed this multiple times. That and I have some unresolved trauma involving men from my childhood and don't really feel comfortable being around any guy while drinking. I'm working through that in therapy (started recently) but there's a long road ahead.
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    Font - Well, I picked my girls up from soccer practice yesterday and brought them out for ice cream. We got home around 6pm and there were 4 or 5 unknown cars in my driveway and I could hear the music blared. I walk inside to find easily 10+ people, mostly men, drinking, dancing and partying with my roommates. I immediately turned off the music and told everyone to leave.
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    Font - My roommates called me a poor sport and said I need to "let go". Between them having strange drunk men in me and my husbands home around my girls and not respecting my boundaries on no partying in general, I decided to evict them this morning. Where I had a lease already drawn up stating I could evict them at any time with a week notice, I only gave them 7 days to be out and I was within my rights to do so. They are saying I'm an AH for "blindsiding them after all they've done for me" but
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    Font - JobPlus2382 - 18 hr. ago NTA. You expressed your feelings about parties more than once (when one should be enough). They threw a party at a house with children. You are 100% not the hole. I'm very sorry for loss and really proud of the way you have managed your life after such a tragedy. 6.6k Reply Share
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    Font - My_Poor_Nerves And what sort of a best friend tries to stomp all over their friend's childhood trauma like that? OP is 100% not the hole but does need better friends. 1.7k 1.7k 14 hr. ago Reply Share
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    Font - r_coefficient 7 hr. ago It's shitty to throw a party in someone's house without their explicit ok, regardless of any trauma involved. Parties are messy and cumbersome to clean up.
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    Font - I'm staying in some airbnb at the moment, and the rules clearly state "no party", so that's the law, no further discussion needed. 218 Reply Share
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    Font - schoobydoo42 12 hr. ago Pooperintendant [56] NTA, OP. Not even a tiny bit. Even if you didn't have the trauma that you have, and the grief that you have, it's still not okay for any roommates to have a big party in a shared home without everyone who lives there agreeing to it ahead of time. The fact that there is so much more to your situation makes your roommates' actions all the more horrible and thoughtless. Good riddance to them. 311 Reply Share
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    Font - whatisthis435879 - 11 hr. ago I was taken away from my parents by CPS as a child because my parents were having a PARTY and I was there. If you had been out it could look even worse. She is untrustworthy and could have had you charged with child endangerment. ΝΤΑ 211 Reply Share
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    Font - Favourite Bookmark 18 hr. ago NTA. Ignoring everything else, they threw a party with alcohol in your house where your children currently were, without your consent. Disgustingly entitled. 2.6k Reply Share ...
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    Font - OrphanageBest Seller 18 hr. ago edited 4 hr. ago No they deserve it, plus when you confront them they still show no remorse. What a bunch of dumba ΝΤΑ 1.0k Reply Share
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    Font - Ok-Context1168 18 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [21] NTA. Most rental agreements give 30 days though, so the short-notice is kind of jerkish. Even though I don't know why they think having 10 plus people you don't know in your home with young kids there is ok. 625 Reply Share
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    Font - 3Heathens_Mom · 18 hr. ago ΝΤΑ So they knew the rules and they could have easily done their partying at someone else's place. So good on you for enforcing the rules they agreed to. Make sure you change the locks the same day they leave regardless if they give you back their keys.
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    Font - Also if they have any access to apps including passwords like Prime+, etc that you pay for make the necessary updates to remove them and change the passwords. If you have any small valuables I'd suggest making sure they are somewhere safe. Not to insinuate your former friends would steal but pissed off people sometimes do stupid stuff.
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    Font - One other thing is whether or not you are home remember please to keep exterior doors locked. Train the girls to also do this as well as don't open doors unless you know is on the other side of it. I live in suburbs and seems like at least once a month someone posts about strange people walking up, trying the door and then leaving. 401 Reply Share
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