'Am I really being neglectful?': Man discovers grandfather's dooms day bunker and turns it into his man cave, pregnant wife threatens to seal it

Elna McHilderson • Managing Editor

May 23, 2023 6:00 PM EDT

When you agree to becoming a husband and, especially, a parent, then you no longer get the luxury of having alone time whenever you feel like it. Yes, it is important to find some time to yourself so you can center yourself, decompress, and be the best husband and father you can be. But if the kids need care, your partner needs help with the chores, or anything, you have to be able to drop everything and put yourself 100% into that. This isn't a hot take, this is just what you agree to when you say "I do" and when you say yes to parenthood.

So when this Redditor posted a question trying to defend his "man cave" over spending time with his pregnant wife and toddler son, the internet was not having it. This guy was gifted his grandfather's old house, which had a hidden dooms day bunker on the property. He discovered the buried bunker and transformed it into his "man cave." He says it is 100%, where as the house was mostly decorated by his wife, so he deserves this space. However, how is being able to decorate the shared common space where you cannot lock out your family to have alone time equivalent to a man cave? That's the question many Redditors are commenting.

Fortunately, the man who posted the Reddit thread seems receptive to the harsh reality many commenters are showing him. He is being called the AH, but he seems to be open to change that. Will he seal the bunker or make it another shared space for him, his wife, and his family? That seems to be the common suggestion, that or to create a "she shed" for his wife to also have her own private space. That way the mental load of raising a family can be shared rather than solely put on the wife. Do you agree? Read the story yourself and see what other people think about it below!