'This is the last time I'll be polite': Employee goes off on coworker for always bothering them while they're on Do Not Disturb

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    Organism - "STOP. I've told you I'll get back to you when I can. If I'm on Do Not Disturb, that doesn't mean unless your name is Joe." Do Not Disturb "This is the last time I'll be polite."
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    Font - AITA for swearing at a coworker for contacting me while on "Do Not Disturb"? Everyone Sucks I have a coworker who comes to me for assistance. That's fine. However, when I'm on "Do Not Disturb" in Teams, he will send me multiple emails or call me on my phone. It's never anything important, just minor stuff that could wait until my meeting(s) are over.
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    Font - I've talked to him three or four times, telling him that he needs to either wait, or if he must email me it has to stop at one and I'll reply to him when I can. He's sent emails every few minutes asking for an answer. If I decline his call, he'll call right back. He's been talked to by management about this.
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    Font - Last week, I sent him a terse email when he emailed me several times during an important meeting. "STOP. I've told you I'll get back to you when I can. If I'm on Do Not Disturb, that doesn't mean 'unless your name is Joe'. This is the last time I'll be polite."
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    Font - Finally, he emailed me again on Monday. Multiple times. So, I replied with something along the lines of "Do you know how to f a godda read? Have you listened to thing I've said? Do not disturb means leave me the f alone. We've had polite conversations about this, but I'm going to be more blunt: F OFF. You're actively hindering my work."
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    Font - Note: He's not trying to bait me, he's just thinks that he should be able to get an answer right away from a person. He and a few coworkers claim I was an hole and out of line for swearing at him and being "demeaning". AITA?
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    Font - KronkLaSworda. "Do you know how to read? Have you listened to a godd thing I've said? Do not disturb means leave me the alone. We've had polite conversations about this, but I'm going to be more blunt: OFF. You're actively hindering my work." YTA to yourself for that. That can get you in trouble with HR for harassment. Don't let the real hole (your coworker) off the hook by stooping to his level. You, your boss, and coworker need a come to Jesus meeting.
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    Font - Your coworker is an AH, too. Going with ESH. Don't put writing (email, teams, whatever). That can get YOU in trouble. 14.5k like that in Reply Share
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    Font - DisastrousProblem631. ESH. Your correct course of action should have been to CC his manager on one of the multiple emails you get from him, explaining that you've asked him to stop calling you on your phone and sending you multiple emails demanding an answer when you're in meetings.
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    Font - If you cuss out your coworkers, expect a call from HR or a talking to yourself about professional conduct in the workplace. hole + hole = 2 holes, not one hole and one guy in the right when it comes to a professional setting. 4.6k Reply Share
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    Font - Samael13. Colo-rectal Surgeon [39] ESH - "A colleague is annoying, so, rather than take it to their supervisor, I started swearing at them and sent them an incredibly aggressive email."
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    Font - Both of you are in the wrong, here. He's guilty of not being patient, but you're being abusive and hostile over a comparatively petty annoyance; your response is wildly disproportionate to the offense. If he's sending you multiple emails when you're on DND, take it to his supervisor and let them deal with it. That's literally their job.
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    Font - Now you've just made yourself look like an AH and aggressive potentially created more problems for yourself. It might have been satisfying to blow up at him, but it wasn't helpful and could very easily bite you in the 1.7k Reply Share
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    Font - Nosdarb There needs to be a "Justified AH" option. That dude sucks. You were 100% an AH, but I don't blame you. You took every reasonable measure you could, but that dude clearly counts on people being reasonable so he can abuse them. ESH, but I can't blame you. 749 Reply Share
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    Font - BarnacledSeaWitch. ESH - your coworker sounds like a nightmare, honestly. YTA because you responded in a way that turned an inconvenience into a hostile work environment. What are you doing checking your emails during a meeting anyway? That's on you. If you're annoyed by the notification sound, then turn off your notifications. You can prevent calls by taking your landline off the hook or setting up DND on your mobile phone. 366 Reply Share
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    Font - theassholethrowawa Info: Maybe I'm confused but when you go on do not disturb doesn't that mean you don't get notifications of emails and won't get calls...... 321 Reply Share
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    Font - mytorontosaurus. Everyone saying Not TA has never had a real job. ESH. You never respond like that no matter how tempting. Just keep a record of everything and go to their manager, your manager or HR if you have to. As it stands now you are the more likely person to get fired. 174 Reply Share

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