Sensitive Bridesmaid Drops Out of Bridal Party After Harmless April Fool's Prank

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    Font - r/AmltheAsshole u/inmyprincessera • 1d AITA for dropping out of my cousin's wedding party after a prank?
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    Font - My (F26) cousin (F29) got engaged a few months ago and asked me to be a bridesmaid. I was so excited to accept! Her sister (F32) is the MOH and there are 3 other bridesmaids. The date is set for April 2024.
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    Font - On April 1st of this year, she sent a PDF to the bridesmaid group chat that really made me angry. It was a list of wedding party responsibilities, rules, and regulations. It included a picture of the bridesmaid dresses that we'd be wearing. They were hideous! And she told us that we'd have to pay $800 for them and that they only went up to a size 8 so anyone bigger than that would need to lose weight before the wedding. That made me so angry because I wear a size 10 but also she's like a
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    Font - Other ridiculous things she added: None of us were allowed to be tanner than her for the wedding so she told us that none of us could spend significant time in the sun for the next year. ● ● She wanted to have longer hair than all of her BMs so she said that we'd all have to cut our hair to our shoulders or shorter. She wanted to do a choreographed dance with all of us and insisted that we go to 3-hour dance classes with her every Sunday until the wedding, a year away. She said that she w
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    Font - There was more but I was so angry I stopped reading and muted the group chat for a few hours. I was so livid and hurt that I decided to drop out of the wedding party, but I didn't say anything right away. The next day I checked the group chat again and everyone else had been chatting about how funny the bride's "prank" was. Apparently at the bottom of the PDF it said "April Fools" but I hadn't read that far because I was so mad.
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    Font - Everyone else thought it was hilarious but it still really rubbed me the wrong way. I reached out to the bride to tell her how much this hurt my feelings and she did apologize. But even though it's been almost two months I'm still really angry. I decided this week that I no longer want to be a bridesmaid because of the mean-spirited prank and told my cousin.
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    Font - Now she's really hurt and angry, and the MOH, other BMs, and some of my family members are blowing up my phone saying that I'm overreacting to an "innocent prank." But I believe that pranks are only funny if the recipient finds them funny, and I definitely didn't. So AITA?
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    Font - brisemartel • 1d Asshole Enthusiast [6] YTA Even if it wasn't the best prank in the world, it still was an harmless prank: done on April's Fool, with a mention this is a prank in the document itself, no one specifically targeted, it was a group prank, etc., etc. You didn't like the prank, that happens and it is fine by itself. But to hold two months after a grudge big enough you are dropping out of the wedding out of spite? That is some serious overeaction here. Especially for a group pra
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    Font - equimot. 1d It was so obviously an April fools joke too with some of those requests..majore YTA for throwing a strop about it 46.2k
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    Font - Opposite-Guide-9925 • 1d Colo-rectal Surgeon [39] Yeah, I'm going with a YTA here. You didn't read it properly and leapt to righteous anger. A prank requires a trick is played on someone or it's not a prank. You didn't read to the end and therefore missed the part making it clear it was a prank. I would suggest you're pissed at yourself for falling for something with April Fools written on it... Perhaps speak to someone about your anger issues? Something so ridiculous is something to laug
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    Font - Material-Paint6281 • 1d Partassipant [2] As soon as the title said the word "Prank" I was ready with my judgement N T A, but this is how a prank should be done, IMO at least. No one was supposed to be hurt (OP was "hurt" because of her own emotions), done on April fools day, the same prank file has "It's a prank" written on it, and I suppose it was a prank meant to throw some shades on the bridezillas we see here often. OP took it too personally, and held a grudge for almost 2 months. OP,
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    Font - berriiwitch. 1d Partassipant [2] I was twitching when I read the word "prank," bc usually on here "pranks" are code for "bullying," but this one? Honestly, that's pretty good. I was actually chucking. And it said "April Fools" right on the PDF?? She didn't let it go on for awhile? Cmon. You are ridiculous. YTA. Reply 5.6k
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    Font - Chuckieshere. 1d I had a professor pull a prank almost exactly like this, sent an email to the entire class saying just because there was a state declared snow emergency that doesn't mean class is cancelled and he expected everyone to show up even if they had to walk in the blizzard. Next line was "Just kidding have a nice long weekend". The best park of the prank was my friend texting me 5 minutes later saying "what a fucking asshole" and getting to tell them to go back and reread it 476
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    Font - Outrageously_Penguin . 1d Professor Emeritass [89] YTA. You're butthurt because you didn't get the joke. Get over it. Your cousin would have a right to be hurt that you actually thought she would be this ludicrous and over the top as a bride, especially since there were clear signals like that she's literally a bigger dress size than an 8...and that it was April 1. It was pretty obvious and you're the only one who didn't get it. It was in good fun, not mean spirited, and you're just being
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    Font - boss_nooch. 1d Partassipant [2] The "even fatter than me" told me everything I needed to know lol ... 1.1k
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    Font - Riyokosan 1d Asshole Aficionado [15] Probably gonna be unpopular but YTA. When you said April 1rst I knew it was going to be a joke. When I saw the list of crazier than any crazy demands even seen here I knew it was a joke. To your own aval, you did not read it all, you just decided to be upset. Everybody else noticed it was a joke, the bride to be apologized because you took it the wrong way and yet you still are not happy. If there is one day of the year where people make jokes, it's th
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    Font - 1d many_hobbies_gal. Certified Proctologist [28] YTA, ok I get initially you were angry, maybe you didn't realize the date. You muted the conversation and still months later your still hanging on to it. Your choice to drop out but a friendly suggestion... let it go, it was a relatively harmless prank. ... Reply 559
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    Font - ETA: Okay, clearly I've been deemed the AH and I'll accept that but I also realize that I didn't explain my feelings very well. I was angry because all of the items in the list seemed to single me out. Expensive dress and bachelorette? I make the least money out of everyone in the wedding party and it felt like a jab. The sizing? Same thing, only me and two other BMs are bigger than size 8. The hair? We all have long hair but I have the longest hair out of anyone in the wedding party. The

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