‘You Don’t Make Enough Money’: Husband Demands a Divorce After Becoming a Millionaire, Calling Wife’s $60,000 Job a ‘Hobby'

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    Font - Posted by u/brazenmaiden 8 hours ago My husband has turned into someone I don't know anymore While scrolling this sub I see all these horror stories and I counted myself lucky I wasn't in such a position. And yet, here I am.
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    Font - My husband took a new job not quite two years ago. It's a really great job but very demanding and the pay more than makes up for having very little free time. Many of his coworkers are multi millionaires and frequently talk about their super cars, private schooled kids, and hired help. I started to worry my husband was going to turn into one of these people but he assured me he would never.
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    Font - Welp, today he told me my income is negligible and doesn't count, what I do for a living (I have cobbled together multiple avenues of income into one decent living) is just hobbies and not real jobs. He called me a b ch and a ps, ath and told me he spoke to a divorce lawyer last night. He degraded my plant collection and called me weeding the
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    Font - gardens, planting, and mulching this weekend 'playing' (as in it doesn't contribute to the house). He told me I should've ordered groceries and said I shouldn't make a big deal out of cleaning up after him. Said I don't appreciate what he does for me.
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    Font - I just checked my spreadsheet and I made over $60k last year. The fact the he now considers making above the median American salary a 'hobby' makes me feel sick. And to top it off, he said he is going to make sure I can't keep our home and he will fight to make sure he doesn't have to 'support' me anymore.
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    Font - Normally I would post this with a throwaway but fuk it. He deserves the people that know me to know who he's become. Thanks for listening to me rant.
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    Font - ETA: I emailed a lawyer. Hopefully I'll hear back tomorrow. I got it on recording of him calling me names and telling me he'll quit his job before he gives me sẼ t. Then he threw my Bluetooth speaker down the stairs and said I can't do anything about it because it was bought with his money. I called the police and they made him leave and gave me paperwork for a PFA.
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    Font - Kemokiro 7 hr. ago Lawyer consult now. He's playing mind games to undermine your sense of self, and confidence, so you won't challenge the bu t he's telling you. Just because he threatens to do something, doesn't mean the law agrees. 5.0k Reply Share
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    Font - elenchusis 7 hr. ago This. If he's really spoken to a divorce lawyer, then he knows how fed he would be if he went forward with a divorce. Don't let him walk it back for that reason 1.2k Reply Share
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    Font - galaxy1985 4 hr. ago That's probably why he was so angry and had a temper tantrum. They told him he'd have to be equitable most likely and he didn't want to hear that. So he went home and tried to make OP as miserable as he is. Fɩk him! 522 Reply Share
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    Font - missleavenworth 7 hr. ago Don't go cheap on lawyers. Pay the retainer fee, and ask for legal fee reimbursement in the divorce. A strong, well organized lawyer makes a big difference to the case. 2.0k Reply Share
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    Font - MissVocifera 8 hr. ago I tried to find the right words, but really couldn't. You sound like you'll be better off in the long run without his condescending a.s. Reply Share 1.0k
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    Font - transnavigation . 7 hr. ago. edited 47 min. ago I wonder if he met a new woman with his new money? As everyone else has said: Doesn't Matter, Lawyer Up. Lawyer Up today. We can only speculate and heckle. You're the one who will have to live the rest of your life, and you're the one who desperately needs a divorce lawyer now, now, now.
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    Font - Edit: I'm with the other people saying it could be dr js, too, particularly co ne. Of course, the last time someone I knew thought their husband was acting erratic, it was because the husband picked up a ce habit and also met, fɩ ed, impregnated, married, and had a kid with a whole 'nother woman...so it could be both. Reply Share 1.3k
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    Font - masstransience. 6 hr. ago edited 6 hr. ago This is 100% what I was reading between the lines. Check all banking/credit card/social media accounts and make copies for yourself of anything even remotely suspicious and talk to a lawyer.
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    Font - Edit: He might be telling you all of that to rationalize his guilt and try to have you initiate the divorce to be able to claim victimhood. 400 Reply Share
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    Font - scrapsforfourvel. 7 hr. ago There is a high, high likelihood that he hasn't called a lawyer and was just trying to scare you into being more submissive for him so he can get off on that power. He won't expect you to take him seriously and fight back. So get a lawyer NOW and initiate first. Reply Share 2.4k
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    Font - ionmoon 6 hr. ago He is most likely trying to get you to agree to a subpar divorce settlement out of fear. I don't know how long you have been married, if you have kids, etc. but go talk to a divorce lawyer NOW. Pay for a one hour consultation. Have as much info as you can upfront (your income, his income, length of marriage, equity in the house, other assets, debt, etc.).
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    Font - Don't make *any* move (ie moving money from accounts, moving out of the house) and don't discuss any of this with your husband until you have spoken to an attorney. What you do or say now can shoot you in the foot. If he tries to bring anything up, say, "Your lawyer can talk to my lawyer, I will not be discussing any of this with you." And DON'T. Reply Share 430
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    Font - Sheila_Monarch - 6 hr. ago He is most likely trying to get you to agree to a subpar divorce settlement out of fear. That is 100% what he's doing. Sounds like a hamfisted attempt to deploy a neat "trick" he learned from some of his new buddies. 224 Reply Share
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    Font - brattyginger83 - 7 hr. ago I only make 40K a year with 2 kids. Leave his a s. You make enough that you can sustain in the right city. Fuck him Reply Share 331 brazenmaiden OP. 6 hr. ago I definitely can. I made $62k at my salaried job that I hated when we met and I supported myself and my two kids just fine. 255 Reply Share

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