'Anything but a rebound': Breakup Mantras That Help the Healing Process for Fresh Singles Bouncing Back From Breakups

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    Font - Posted by u/No_Throat_1574 3 days ago What's the best way to get over an ex? 7 people here 5.7k Comments
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    Product - CpuJunky 2 days ago 2 Time. It takes a lot of time. Can't fast forward it. 23.4k ↓ Reply Share
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    Font - Snowfreak2507. 2 days ago I started lifting weights instead. I'm still sad, but at least I'm sad AND jacked now ↑ 65 ↓ Reply Share
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    Rectangle - failed-existence 2 days ago anything but a rebound. don't drag someone else's emotions into your own emotional mess. it's unfair ↑ 440 ↓ Reply Share
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    Font - tidbitsmisfit 2 days ago nothing like getting punched in the face while still wearing the rose tined glasses. reality is the life together you envisioned would never have happened ↑ 81 ↓ Reply Share
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    Font - TheRealSlimN8y. 2 days ago Jesus Christ, I wasn't stalking my ex's ig but you planted a bad seed in my mind, i did a bad thing and I looked and she blocked me saaaaa this kinda hurts like ↑64 ↓ Reply Share
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    Font - The 25002 2 days ago Hrm, well. It sort of depends. If it's a bad break up, quit cold turkey. Get rid of anything that reminds you of them, delete all contact info, that sort of thing, like you've erased them from your life. If it was a more amicable break up, can't help you there, probably some emotional growth 122 Reply Share
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    Font - FunnyScreenName. 2 days ago "The depth of your pain will always be equal to the depth of your love." 6.4k Reply Share
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    Font - FourKneeKate 2 days ago This was my mantra for years after a bad breakup: "Let go of all the things holding you back". ↑ 1.0k ↓ Reply Share
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    Font - phazonxiii 2 days ago And the more time you were together, the closer you felt, the deeper into it you were, the longer it'll take. 5.3k Reply Share
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    Font - abqkat 2 days ago Which is why first loves hurt so badly. There is no comparison, no context, no experience with heartache. I'm middle- aged, married, and don't think I'll ever have to date again thankfı k, but my 19 year old niece just went through her first breakup and it is hard to watch her be so deeply saddened and feel stuck 2.1k Reply Share
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    Font - q3m5dbf 2 days ago Right? It's awful. I don't understand how I can simultaneously never want to see them again / wish I could talk to them one last time. Brains are a holes. 20 Reply Share
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    Font - ● FkdUp2020 2 days ago Been there. 6 year relationship, got engaged and she dumped me 6 days before the wedding. Been about 9 months and I still get sad. Slowly doing better though every day. 317 Reply Share
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    Font - Dazzling-Wash9086 · 2 days ago 3 years for me.. she got over the split in a matter of days and was dating again after 2 weeks. We were married for 10 years. Just wow 158 Reply Share
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    Font - gravity_is_right 2 days ago I've felt more bad about certain short term relationships than some long term ones. When you're still in the loving/dreaming/planning phase, and it gets cut off, it can be harder to deal with than a relationship that was running on its last legs. Reply Share 169
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    Font - fckinsleepless - 2 days ago Yeah, you can be told a million times that you might break up and date others and you'll be okay, but you never genuinely believe it until you feel it. I was with my first love for seven years. It took several years after that to simply stop thinking about him all the time. I cried a lot in the first year or two after. 649 Reply Share
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    Font - KristiiNicole 2 days ago In a way, there actually is a death. The death of your relationship. People actually go through a whole grieving process when relationships ships end, especially long term serious ones. 132 Reply Share
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    Font - GuacamolEBola - 2 days ago Letting go can also mean forcing yourself to do so by blocking them on all social media and deleting their phone number. It's not malicious if they also don't want to talk to you anymore. But I can tell you from experience, seeing them comment on mutual friends posts, or seeing their new selfies or new life events that you're going to not be included in is a new kind of torture.
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    Font - nowhere_near_Berlin. 2 days ago This has been the hardest for me. It's sort of like a death, but they are still alive, so more like a divorce. There's my life "before" and there's my life "after". I have to resign myself to this new life without them in it. I have to accept all those plans are gone and now I have to make new plans. Reply Share 193 ↓ ↑ 193
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    Font - mistaniceguy 2 days ago 201 The biggest thing for me is to let go. Let go go of everything you were looking forward to. Everything you wanted to do. You no longer want to do those things. Every time you begin down a conversation in your head you wanted to have, let go. It's hard but you've got to reformulate your life without them. They're not coming back.
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    Font - Ozonewanderer 2 days ago When my wife left me I immediately started a woodworking project. I had to stop and cry every hour or so but at least I had my mind occupied some of the time. 9.9k ↓ Reply Share

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