'My coworker should have defended me': Employee forced to pay coworker's boyfriend $20 for a ride after coworker had been carpooling with employee for free

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    Light - "I asked if I could bum a ride as well [...] She asked her boyfriend about it and he said he would, but he wanted $20 for the two days."
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    Font - AITA for demanding my coworker pay me for a ride to work after many months of giving her a free ride? Not the A-hole For the last fourteen months, I have been driving one of my coworkers to and from work. She only lives a mile up the road from me and is on the way, so I've never asked her for a dime or accepted when she's offered me money. From my perspective, I'm going there either way, and her overall household expenses are higher than my own, so it felt like the thing to do.
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    Font - Over the weekend, my car went to the shop. I told my coworker that I wouldn't be available to give her a ride either Monday or Tuesday. She said it wasn't a problem because her boyfriend is off this week and would give her a ride. I asked if I could bum a ride as well. I even offered to walk to her home so they wouldn't have to drive backwards. She asked her boyfriend about it and he said he would, but he wanted $20 for the two days.
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    Font - I know it's just $20, but that set me off. I declined the offer and said I'd find my own ride. At work yesterday, she asked about my car. I told her I'd be getting my car Tuesday night after work, but that going forward I'd like $30 a week (1/3 my gas costs) if she wanted to ride with me. She was upset about this and said her boyfriend had only wanted money from me because by having me in the car he was being forced to drive straight home when he picked me up. I pointed out that I've been
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    Font - Today she said she'd no longer be riding with me after talking about it with her boyfriend. She said she felt disappointed with me for holding his actions against her and that I was being petty. A couple other coworkers told me through out the day that her boyfriend's just an hole and she doesn't really have a say at home, but overall agreed with me that it was a move. From my perspective, this dude directly benefits from me thanks to his girlfriend not needing a car of her own or spendin
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    Font - theassholethrowawa. 19 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [49] Petty..... Yess...... hole.. ...No. While she can blame her bf she went a long with it. She should have explained to him how for over a year you gave her free rides and asking for money was tacky of him. But she didn't she just went a long with it. She showed you what she thought of your kindness and friendship. You're just showing her the same. ΝΤΑ 13.6k Reply Share
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    Font - benjm88 18 hr. ago I think she has more blame here. The boyfriend is at least going out the way and didn't gain from ops free rides. She should have paid the boyfriend and never told op about it. 4.2k Reply Share
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    Font - NanaLeonie 19 hr. ago NTA and may I point out she could have paid the $20 and not even mentioned it to you. 6.8k Reply Share
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    Font - Desperate_Show3047. 19 hr. ago Came here to say that this is what the friend should have done. That is unless this nob controls her finances which seems like a possibility. 1.7k Reply Share
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    Font - GlitzBlitz 19 hr. ago "She said she felt disappointed with me for holding his actions against her and that I was being petty." She should've put her foot down and put HIS in his place. petty This entitled, doormat of a woman is not your friend, OP. You are NTA and you are not petty. 3.6k Reply Share
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    Font - TheProphecyIsNigh. 18 hr. ago ΝΤΑ $20 for 2 days is $10 a day. I would have said "Great! What a deal. $10 a day for a ride to work is a great standard price. I have drove you for 280 days, which is $2,800 dollars. Minus the $20 for these two days, you owe me $2,780. Thanks!" 2.9k Reply Share
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    Font - ANOT Prangelina edited 19 hr. ago 19 hr. ago. NTA, she is a package deal with her bf, you were doing a favor for her for quite some time, and you are right that she should have defended you against her bf. Heck, she could even pay him those $20. How come she was upset ONLY after you wanted money from her and not when her bf asked money from you if in her book it is OK to ask for money?
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    Font - Your offer of one third of your cost was pretty generous. She had free rides, she tanked the possibility for herself over measly $20. Not the sharpest tool in the shed. 1.2k Reply Share
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    Font - yup saltycathbk 19 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [25] NTA. She's ok taking free favors from you and when you needed a favor she asked for money. Her boyfriend asking for money is reasonable and she should've covered that for you. 612 Reply Share
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    Font - sc0tth 19 hr. ago . NTA. You're not being petty either, he was. If the $20 was really important to him she should have paid. As a matter of fact, she should have been outraged that he was about to up the good thing she had going. 374 Reply Share
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    Font - The__Riker__Maneuver 19 hr. ago Pooperintendant [56] ΝΤΑ Let her boyfriend drive her to work for a couple months and then comes back and says she is willing to pay for your gas...tell her thanks but no thanks 315 Reply Share
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    Font - Broken-Dreams1771 18 hr. ago ΝΤΑ The major in this story is the co- worker asking you for the $20 for her BF. After 14 months of free rides, that is absolutely ridiculous. Whether she convinces the BF to not ask for money or pays him $20 herself is immaterial. Making the request to you is the height of rudeness and tastelessness. transgression
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    Font - Personally I think you should have refused to provide any future rides, and asking for the $30 from her could be construed as pettiness. But imo continuing to give her rides for the $30 minimizes her awful behavior more than it is an act of pettiness on your part. 208 Reply Share

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