'It was very awkward': Couple ditches double date after other couple shows up extra late

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    Motor vehicle - 'How long is too long to wait for someone to meet you to eat?'
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    Font - r/RandomThoughts u/TXHook How long is too long to wait for someone to meet you to eat? I was supposed to go on double date with a family member on my wifes side who has a new boyfriend. Mind you... this girl is always late to every family event, but nothing else. We waited an hour past the time we set. She kept texting my wife "we are on the way", "we are pulling up now." etc... Kept not showing up. They were only coming from 10 minutes away. They showed up as I got our tab and
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    Font - al was leaving literally an hour later. Now im the Am I in the wrong here? I just don't feel like I am. The problem was meeting on the way out the door. It was very awkward "we just got our check sorry we'll catch you next time." I left because I work shift work and im rarely off on weekends, we finally had a babysitter for a night, and I just frankly think my time off is important. Maybe Im wrong. I feel bad because I made my wife sad, but should I feel guilty?
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    Font - Tennisnerd39 For me personally: • 15 minutes, but at least some kind of text or call. I'll still accept "on the way" as a valid text. after 15 minutes, you better be giving a specific location and ETA. Maybe, I'm just being a Karen, but I hate "on the way" texts. For some people I allow it, because I know them well and know what they mean when they say that. For most people, I expect an actual ETA and/or location.
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    Font - drOn3ful I'd give it 20 mins then I'm gone.
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    Font - Remarkable-Emu5589. An hour?! That's crazy. You're not wrong for leaving. And why lie about parking? They clearly didn't give a s if they showed up on time.
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    Font - 18 DennisBallShow. I hate it when people say they "are pulling in" and they aren't there yet
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    Font - Roselily808 I say 20 minutes and then I am leaving. Respecting someone's time is a fundamental element in respecting people. If they don't respect my time - they don't respect me.
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    Font - woke_brrr_4444. this. your time is arguably the most important thing you have. people who do this don't respect it, and therefore don't respect you.
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    Font - SmartBadger8337. 15-20 minutes max. If the "consistently late to everything" types think so little of you to keep you waiting. Three strikes they are out! It's so incredibly rude and selfish.
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    Font - withlove_07 10 mins if I don't get a call, 20 if I get a call but I'm eating and getting drinks, I'm not waiting for you sitting there in order to eat.
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    Font - Plenty_Surprise2593. Plus the restaurant themselves depend on a regular turning over of the tables to make money. So that's an hour that they could have had that table making money
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    Font - Old_Hamster_4218 Definitely not the a hole. An hour late is disrespect. I have family like this and everyone hates it lol
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    Font - Halloween-Daydream 15-20 mins. Unless they text and let me know they're running late. But I always ask for an ETA, if it ends up being too late I decide if it's worth waiting for or not. The fact that they were coming from 10 mins away though, I would have given them 10-15 mins because that's more than generous. You're not the al
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    Font - oneaccountaday It might be a cultural thing, but no (assuming US) we don't do that here. 10-15 min for traffic, sure we might look past. Had an ex's sibling that constantly did this. We'd just say meeting time was 30-45 minutes earlier than we wanted. Miraculously everyone would be on time. Family just catered to it. Nah man pound sand, you knew the time. Maybe figure out your time management.
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    Font - CaffeineandES In my country, with its 11+ official cultures and societies, the rule is: early is on time and on time is late. While I understand that not everybody lives by this and some people just aren't conscious of time and other people's times I find it extremely disrespectful to show late. Here we'd tolerate 15 minutes maybe, but a whole hour? Nope. Those people have no respect for time. Time is money, they aren't worth your time. your
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    Font - JennShrum23 NTA. And in the future with plans, say "we'll be there at 1, probably order by 120. Hope you make it" and stick to it. They show up when you're done? Get the bill and leave them the table. 6 TXHook OP Reply Share Good advice.
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    Font - AzLibDem If they didn't walk in the door two minutes after she texted "we are pulling up now", then she's a liar, and you have nothing to feel bad about.

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