'Girl, it's a job not a family': Boss denies overworked employee a raise despite telling her the company would 'crumble' without her

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    Fashion - "[Boss]told me that the company will crumble if I quit"
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    Font - Explained to boss that I'm burned out and thet told me that the company will crumble if I quit Apologies in advance for the long rant. This is my first actual adult job out of school and I just have to put all this somewhere. TL;DR at the end.
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    Font - I started working for a startup about a year and a half ago after leaving grad school. It was my first actual job so I went into it with optimism since I was getting paid more than the sad stipend I had for 5 years and I had the hope that it would be different and I'd be less stressed. Turns out the second one wasn't true at all.
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    Font - This job wasn't 100% lined up with my field I specialized in, but it was adjacent so I thought I could use it as a stepping stone. For the first few months it was ok; I had to learn a bunch of new things and figure out how adult jobs and industry actually works instead of pleasing academic advisors and chasing down professors.
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    Font - Everyone there on my level (next most senior to the c-suite) came from academia so we were all figuring it out together. The guy that was supposed to train me and bring me up to speed was not the best teacher and didn't leave a lot of explanation for why he did things or how. Then 7 months in to my time there he quit. I suddenly absorbed all of his work (running a project I had zero background in + prep of materials for other coworkers projects) in addition to my own projects. I also inhe
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    Font - My coworkers and I had several meetings with our boss concerning hiring his replacement and dispersing the workload. After months they did get someone to take his main project, but I still handled all of his other tasks. In addition, I now managed a small team (but can't be a manager since I've never had corporate management training), wrote both internal and external literature for the company, managed their entire production of materials for other coworkers projects, maintained collabor
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    Font - It got to the point where I told my boss in our weekly one on ones that, while managing still, I was incredibly burned out and stressed. I listed all of the things I was now doing compared to my initial 3 bullet job description and how I either wanted to discuss compensation and/or redistribution of tasks. I was then told by my boss that the "company would crumble" if I left. I am an overthinker and people pleaser by default. The amount of stress and pressure that put on me was nerve wrac
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    Font - I was too stunned to answer that question at the moment but I've been thinking about it since late last year. I think I know for sure I don't want to grow up to work for a start up. I don't want my boss's or my boss's boss's job. I want nothing to do with the c-suite. I can't take the pressure, the workload, the stress. My husband even told me that he's worried that this is worse than grad school. My OCD has flared up to an alarming rate from the stress increase and every weekday is dread
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    Font - If you made it this far thanks for rant. I know reading my long leaving is the right option once I have another job lined up, but as a stupid people pleaser, how do you avoid the guilt of leaving those you know are about to get wrecked behind?
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    Font - TL;DR: I took the first job I could get out of grad school and it was a start up. The workload is absolutely insane and I learned I'm not built for start up life. I am actively looking for other work but my boss told me that the company will crumble without me. How do you deal with the guilt of wrecking coworkers' workloads when you leave?
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    Font - 69Dankdaddy69. 8 hr. ago Think of a salary you cant walk away from. Ask for that. If you dont get it, walk away. Easy. 1.9k Reply Share
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    Font - Funny_Maintenance973. 8 hr. ago If the company will crumble without you, then two things: 1 - you are worth more to them than they are to you. Ask for more money 2- they're not managing the business very well In the job world, you need to look after number one, you. A company will you over all day long if it benefits them, don't be ashamed of doing the same to them. 1.6k Reply Share
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    Font - rose_reader 8 hr. ago If the company crumbles without one specific person, then the company is badly constructed, badly managed, understaffed and won't survive anyway.
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    Font - A good manager doesn't allow their staff to become this overloaded. Not only is it bad for the individual and make it more likely that person will leave, it's also incredibly unsafe for the company. What if you get hit by a bus? What happens to the company then?
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    Font - If they won't listen when you repeatedly tell them, then they'll have to learn the hard way. You can't keep them warm by setting yourself on fire. 494 Reply Share
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    Font - _Prncss_brde_sux_ . 8 hr. ago All this talk, but nothing about paying you more? You're taking on more of a work load and managerial duties without the pay of a manager? Tell them if they need you, then they'll pay you more. YOU need to go where it benefits YOU. If you get better benefits and higher pay at another business, it's not your problem if this one fails. 122 Reply Share
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    Font - DeepSeaShellder "The company will crumble if I quit" . 8 hr. ago OH NO! anyway... B 107 Reply Share
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    Rectangle - freerangetacos 2 hr. ago Exactly. "Holyt, is that my problem? Sounds like a YOU problem."
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    Font - Party_Cicada_914. 6 hr. ago Here's the thing. This is how they are treating you when you are are so valuable that the company will crumble without you. They will not treat you better when you work yourself into a place where you literally are too burnt out to work. Ask me how I know. Like you, your coworkers are adults who are responsible for taking care of themselves. You should feel as guilty as they feel about asking you for stuff when they see how much you have on your plate.
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    Font - FrogFlavor 7 hr. ago Girl, it's a job not a family. If they pay you for one thing, then you are only obligated to do that one thing. Chill. Go work somewhere less greedy and less mismanaged. You'll adjust. I believe in you.

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