Greedy Family Demands Inheritance from Daughter They Refused to Support

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    Font - AITA for not sharing my inheritance with the rest of my "family"? My family situation is messy. I (25F) was engaged four years ago to my high school sweetheart. My fiancé cheated on me with my sister (28F). We had never had a good relationship even as kids, so after I found out, I went scorched earth both of them. She was "so in love" with my fiancé, but he dumped her within two weeks and was back trying to get me to forgive him (I didn't). My parents were initially on my side, but my sis
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    Font - My grandfather was livid with the whole thing, disowned my sister, and chewed out my parents. Sometimes it felt like he was the only one who was on my side and understood. I was able to get my job to let me work remotely and moved back to take care of him when he got sick last fall and I was devistated when he passed a couple of months ago. I had been in limited contact with my parents since I came back mostly because I didn't want to be an obstacle to my dad seeing my grandfather, but wi
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    Font - My parents are pretty mad about it. One of the reasons stated for cutting them out was how disappointed my grandfather was with how they had treated me growing up vs my sister and over the fiance debacle. There were other reasons, but that's what they're fixated on. The will is pretty airtight apparently, so my parents want me to "do the right thing" and share it equally between me, them, and my sister. Their argument is that I don't need it. I make more than both of them combined and thi
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    Font - SunshineKittenYESYES. 5h NTA I'm so sorry your Pawpaw has gone. He sounds very loving and interesting by the way you speak about him here. That said, set your family connections on fire and walk away. That's what he would have wanted, and he granted you the means to do so. Walk tall, you've earned this.
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    Font - stannenb. 5h Professor Emeritass [80] My grandfather's wishes were crystal clear Indeed. And you parents are, again, showing how awful they are by trying to emotionally manipulate you into going against those clear wishes. Your parents were free to patch up these relationships while your grandfather was alive. They didn't and these are the consequences. NTA.
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    Font - FinnFinnFinnegan . 5h Certified Proctologist [22] NTA don't share money with your truly terrible family. They don't deserve it. Take a nice, long vacation. And cut them off completely
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    Font - Unable-Ad148 . 5h Asshole Aficionado [16] NTA. Ah, if it isn't the consequences of their own actions coming back to bite them! If only any of them had cared about "doing the right thing" when your sister pulled her BS. It would be a disservice to your grandfather to ignore his expressly detailed and outlined wishes. You aren't being vindictive, it's literally what he wanted. Anything they are "suffering" from isn't yours to fix or carry for them.
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    Font - Your GoddessMisty. 5h NTA, he left it to YOU for a reason! I'm sorry for everything you went through with your family, you may want to get a lawyer involved
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    Font - % Maple Leaf5410.5h Asshole Enthusiast [9] NTA. What you do with your inheritance is up to you. Don't let your parents lay a guilt trip on you. As you said his wishes we crystal clear, and he went above and beyond to make that so. To go against that would be a betrayal of those wishes. Your parents shouldn't be relying on you to fund their retirement and your sister is an adult and should be looking out for herself. You got over your ex, she should be able to as well.
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    Font - CPSue 4h ● You know what? It's okay for you to feel a bit petty and vindictive. That incident with your sister was traumatizing for you, and the people who should have supported you took the side of the perpetrator. You are entitled to feel a bit smug that the offenders have received their just rewards as a consequence of their actions. Doesn't it make you wonder what your mother's response would have been if her husband had slept with her sister? We all know the answer, of course. You ke
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    Font - S1n1sterheathen . 5h NTA this was not a simple mistake, you sister didn't trip over a crack and land on your fiance, she made a conscious choice to be involved with him. As for your parents, they could've supported her mental health without condoning her actions. Beyond all that, toxic is toxic, be it the relationships we find or family, people shouldn't get a pass just because you happen to share genes, it was your grandfather's wishes and you are honoring those, just like he honored you
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    Font - letsgetit899. 4h Asshole Aficionado [14] The cherry on top others aren't mentioning is that you were taking care of him when he died. Your parents, even knowing that he had money they'd stand to inherit, couldn't be bothered. Of course you're justified in cutting contact. I wouldn't say a single word to them without going through an attorney. ΝΤΑ
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    Font - SpaceJesuslsHere • 4h NTA. Here's a fun hypothetical: how would these people treat you if you weren't rich? Oh, wait. We don't have to wonder, we have 25 years of data on that subject. If they didn't treat you well then, don't treat them well now. I spent my 30s supporting half a dozen family members in a different country bc I got out and they didn't. All thst ever happened was more rudeness anytime I said no to more money. Then tragic sob stories. Then I gave in, sent more money, and th
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    Rectangle - chewie8291.5h NTA. Don't let those assholes get a penny of that inheritance. They are greedy and treated you like crap. You were abused and need to go no contact. The best family is the one you choose.
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    Font - PCO244EVER • 4h He videoed a will because he knew they would try to contest it. Keep it as were his wishes. Karma's a bitch
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    Font - fancythat012. 5h Asshole Enthusiast [6] NTA. They screwed you over with that fiancé issue, now they wanna do it again regarding your late grandfather's money. Just wanna add, I teared up a little regarding you and your grandfather being there for each other.
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    Font - OsaBear92. 4h Asshole Aficionado [14] Dont give then a cent, and dont make them think you will. They will twist your words and intentions to make you the bad guy. They already see you as such. NTA If you can have a lawyer draft up a cease and desist letter for just incase they go bonkers and try to publicly shame/guilt you into giving them $$. Have it filed away and ready. Pawpaw wouldve included them if they were better parents to their child. Simlle as that. None of their whining or rea
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    Font - NTA. Parking-Load7319.5h Partassipant [1] NOPE. You've already cut them out of your life and they are only coming back to get that inheritance. Don't. Don't. Don't share one penny. Especially after how they treat you. Karma a bitch sometimes and they are now reaping what they sewed. Plus, why would you share your inheritance with "family" who speak to you like this? They put you down and make you feel like an AH hoping you'd cave in and "do the right thing". Doing the right thing is honor
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    Font - austinbilleci110 . 5h Nta, do not give a dime
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    Font - stroppo. 5h Colo-rectal Surgeon [47] NTA. The assets were left to you. Even if you had a splendid relationship w/your parents and sister, you still *don't owe them anything.* I was in a sort of similar situation where I was left the bulk of an estate and there was an unhappy relative (we did not have the amount of background trauma you did, though we were not close). The best thing I did, though I didn't realize it at the time, was to have the lawyer talk w/the aggrieved relative, who the
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    Font - stringrandom 5h NTA. I'm sorry for your loss. Your papaw clearly saw exactly how your family treated you and favored your sister. With his passing he left you a final gift that will provide you with permanent freedom. Take it and celebrate the good and caring person he was. Your parents and sister will not change who they are. It's time to mourn them too.
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    Font - KyotoDreamsTea • 4h ΝΤΑ My condolences for your grandfather. But this was his request and you should honor that. Plus, your family is learning a very expensive lesson. Hopefully, they grasp a shred of having a conscience. Enjoy your life OP!
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    Rectangle - MelmanCourt • 4h Follow your grandfather's wishes. You're NTA if you do that. You don't owe them anything.
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    Font - Musical Tinnitus . 5h NTA. Sorry for the loss of your Paw Paw, sounds like he loved you quite a lot, and obviously felt you deserved everything he was leaving you, obviously knowing that you'd do right by him and his wishes You are under ZERO obligation to share ANYTHING with them period. Even if they contest the will, having a video explaining exactly why he left everything as he did, will be extremely hard for them to overcome legally. My wife is a paralegal and has horror story after h
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    Rectangle - verdebot • 4h Asshole Aficionado [17] Nta respect your grandfather last will ... Reply 18
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    Font - 420Flora 4h ● NTA. Hope this doesn't sound mean, but your pawpaw is dead now, there's no reason to keep them in your life. If they keep bothering you file a restraining order, get cameras. That's not their money in any sense and just because they're blood doesn't mean they're family. I actually disowned my sister for the same reason except not only did she sleep with my first sons father, she also slept with my other sisters bf's. I was disgusted she was my sister and when my family didn'
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    Font - offensivelypc • 5h NTA - your papaw's will is clear as to what he wants, which is you and no one else to get anything. You don't owe them anything, either. They'll guilt you, so be prepared for that and look to protect yourself should they start harassing you (change numbers, move, possibly even transfer schools). Not trying to put anything into your head that they'll do any of that, but large inheritances make family do fucked up shit.
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    Font - pinkey_sue 4h Asshole Aficionado [13] NTA youre parents/sister sound toxic and it's your papaws money and he did what he wanted with it. I wouldn't give them a dime and be happy that you had one amazing person who loved you so unconditionally
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    Font - martintoconnell • 4h ● NTA. As old as time, "You reap what you sow." Grandfather sounds like he was a sound and prudent man, awesome, actually. "...grandfather's wishes were crystal clear..." They sure were. Stand your ground. Should the others find themselves in a financial pinch some time in the future, you will have some resources to offer, assuming the others are not AHs in the meantime.

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