'Everyone he knows, including his wife': Spurned woman exposes the romance scammer who tricked her

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Brad Dickson • Managing Editor
Sep 4, 2023 9:00 AM EDT

Dating is a hard game and seems to only become more so the further down the path of life you tread… and it makes sense. We, arguably, only become more complex as people as we age, carrying the weight of more experiences. With this comes wisdom, which often only makes us more weary and hesitant to trust potential suitors. 

And, rightfully so, it's hard to trust someone based on the image they project of themselves during the "get to know you stage." Several dates are a mere drop in the bucket compared to the vast ocean of lives that you both have lived. It's usually only after months of dating that sudden changes in personality or priority might surprise you as the truth—and their true nature—begins to filter through the cracks of their facade…

In the midst of re-entering the dating scene after a decade, this woman in her 30s with a stable corporate job in a multicultural city encountered a charming man from Latin America. They shared a strong connection, enjoying their time together, but with his time in the United States being limited by his tourist visa, the two refrained from entering into a more serious relationship. 

Overnight, he changed his tune, suddenly asking her to become—essentially… his "sugar mommy," going against everything that they had discussed together. Feeling insulted and hurt, she confided in her friends, who uncovered a web of suspicious online profiles and eventually revealed that he was married and had children.

Seeking justice, the woman and her friends launch a campaign exposing the man's deceitful behavior, sharing screenshots of the conversations between the two of them and outing him to his family and friends through any means necessary. They also reported him to immigration authorities, leading to a visit from law enforcement officers and subsequent warnings and penalties for both him and his employer for illegal activities…

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    Font - Posted by u/Adorable-Work8442 I blew up a romance scammers life I blew up a romance scammer's life This one is fresh and still unfolding but it's already hit an explosive level. Some details intentionally vague. Context: I'm a woman in my 30s with a reasonably good corporate type job in a field with lots of room for growth and am recently back into the dating scene after a decade. I'm kind of a "would be a 10 if she lost 30 lbs" looking girl, beautiful face if a bit chubby, but I never ha
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    Font - What happened: A few weeks ago I met a very charming man from a Latin American country only a couple years younger than me. Seemed very sweet, cuddly, intelligent, family oriented, emotionally available, educated and in a good profession back home in his country and had a lot in common with me. Chemistry seemed amazing inside and outside the bedroom. He was honest that he was in my country on a tourist visa but hoping to stay. I made it clear I wouldn't be able to help him with that but w
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    Font - Then the other shoe dropped. A couple weeks and 4 dates in, During a text conversation about my work, he asked me to be his sugar mommy. I initially laughed and assumed it was a joke. He kept pushing and clearly said it wasn't. Of course, feeling insulted by this, I went off on him. He maintained it as a serious ask until I hit a nerve with my complaints about how embarrassed he should be to ask me that. Then he got angry and insulted me for thinking he was serious about it. No apology fo
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    Font - Obviously what I did next was take screenshots and cry about it to my closest friends. I was hurt that I was fooled into thinking he liked me and that he thought I needed to pay for a man. My friends started the fuse on what happened next.
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    Font - One of my friends started snooping more on his online presence, together we found about 6 different Instagram accounts that were him using different variations of his name and different photos of himself all uploaded in batches. On Facebook, a similar pattern. All very scammy and suspicious looking. He'd been foolish enough on one of his profiles though to follow and tag the employer that he was working for illegally on his tourist visa in my country. So I contacted another close friend i
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    Font - I released the hounds after that. The friend who helped me investigate online made several group chats on multiple platforms with all of his family (immediate and extended) and friends. She released all the screenshots as well as a rant about how shameful it was. As they started blocking her, she added more people. I found his sisters phone number, she sent her messages on there too. Everyone he knows including his wife know he's unfaithful and trying to take advantage of women.
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    Font - 30 mins after the online bombardment started I got a rO message from him about how I should be smart enough to know he was joking and he doesn't need to sell himself. I didn't reply. Next step? Online immigration reporting form with all the info we found; work info, employer name and address, his home address, full name, dob, photos, screenshots admitting to working. Usually these reports take months to be reviewed if at all but I gave the file number to my law enforcement friend. Two day
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    Font - enforcement officers visited him at home. They found him with a phone number that was issued to a local resident. All his roommates also had numbers issued to the same person, a direct link to the employer. He received a caution for trying to scam me, a no contact order and a flag on his immigration file that based on his country of origin will likely mean he can never return as well as a strict warning to not work without authorisation. His roommates also received
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    Font - warnings. His employer received a visit next. They found significant proof that they'd been employing him illegally as well as multiple other people. Their investigation is still ongoing but so far they are likely to receive tens of thousands in fines or possible jail time. The guy isn't getting deported because the government would have to
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    Font - pay for it and proceedings take longer than his remaining visa time but he's now upgraded from a flagged file to a multi year ban on reentry to my country. If he bothers me again though he will be deported as well. Hope he enjoys going back to his angry wife and the ridicule from everyone he knows. See ya again never!
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    Font - TheLocalTown Drunk Assuming his roommates aren't pulling the same stunt, I feel bad for them being collateral damage in all of this. It's one thing to go after him-it's another thing to cause a domino effect with affects others who didn't do anything to her. 88 Reply Share
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    Font - Chase Almighty Wait, you're only a few years older, and he wanted you to be his sugar mama? WO? And he straight up asked you to be? Again, WO? I know I'm older, but this seems like a stupid tactic 10 Reply Share
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