‘I don’t want to be stuck living with my grandchild’: Father Goes off on Daughter for Getting Pregnant and Forcing Him to Live With the Baby

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    "If she doesn't like it, she can move out..."
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    AITA for telling my daughter that everyone like SIL better than you?
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    My daughter Gigi is always stirring up drama. She was a tattle tale as a child and has unfortunately not grown out of it in her 30's.
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    Gigi had this one-sided feud with my DIL Deb. It has gotten worse because Gigi and her son Max 4 moved in recently. I will spend my breakfast and dinner listening about how much Gigi hates Debbie.
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    Debbie is a career woman and I don't know if grandchildren are in her future. We don't ask, but the one sided feud is caused by how Debbie hasn't given my son a child yet and how selfish Debbie is.
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    Now Gigi told us that she's pregnant again. This is shocking for several reasons but mainly because I have never even heard of my daughter having a boyfriend. In the two weeks that Gigi announced her pregnancy there has been no mention of a father. I asked Gigi if
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    it was a Christmas miracle about her pregnancy and she goes off on me saying at least I'm not like Debbie and being selfish by not giving you grandbabies. I was in a short temper and I told her everyone else likes Debbie more than you because she's just
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    not such a miserable cow all the time. I rather have a Debbie move in with me other than you or your babies because at least Debbie will work her off to help provide for the family. Gigi is upset because I'm not "happy for her" and my new grandbaby. That is now going to be
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    stuck living with me. My wife thinks I'm such an for saying that and I should be happy for Gigi and not praise Debbie to much because it makes Gigi do stupid things like try to get pregnant to one up Debbie. I think this is the dumbest
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    thing I have ever heard and I refuse to apologize to Gigi for what I said. If she doesn't like it she can move out.
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    atealein · 17 hr. ago Professor Emeritass [95] Ngl, was ready to write something from the title but you turned me around. NTA, OP. Your daughter sounds exhausting and self-centered and honestly, super shallow.
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    Maybe your son doesn't want kids, maybe Debbie doesn't want kids, maybe Debbie can't have kids (or your son). Either way, it is NONE OF GIGI'S business. If the only praise she can think of her self-worth is that she can pop babies out
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    unlike Debbie, I am terrified of the conditions those children will grow in. If she is trying to gain your approval by "one-upping" your DIL and getting pregnant, she must not know you very well?
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    BoyoDee 17 hr. ago Craptain [150] Harsh? Absolutely! Necessary? Yeah, I think SO. NTA. Gigi needs a wake up call. Sounds like she only got knocked up just to try to one up Debbie.
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    Sidneyreb 17 hr. ago Colo-rectal ΝΤΑ Surgeon [30] The time has come. The day has arrived. The Reality Train is at the station.
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    amazonrae 16 hr. ago One upping by getting pregnant?!? Wow. I have no words for that. I feel sorry for her kids. I hope you and your wife are able to help to keep Gigi from having mini mes in every sense of the word.
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    Firm Lie_3870 12 hr. ago Might be going against the grain here but YTA. Did Gigi raise herself? You mentioned her mother enabling her, so you just stood off to the
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    side and let that happen? You assign a lot of blame for how she turned out to your wife, but give no examples of stepping in to parent with her or talk to her about her parenting.
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    Cutiemuffin-gumbo. 12 hr. ago NTA. For starters, I HATE this whole thought process that married people should have kids, and that you should give your parents grandchildren. As
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    someone with a mother that brings up the fact that I don't have any children and makes comments about how I clearly don't feel like giving her grandkids and that upsets her, stuff like this makes me angry.
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    Your daughter is 100% jealous of your DIL, because that is a really bad excuse for having beef with someone. She's jealous that your son and his wife are married and doing fine, and living their lives, meanwhile she's single, broke from
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    the sound of things, and has a kid which restricts her freedom, and now is pregnant again. She's venting her frustrations with her own life, by directing it on your DIL, and that just terrible on her part. Your words may
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    have hurt her, but she clearly needs a wake up call, and it will likely take more than that to really get her to finally start working on herself.
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    RoughOrganization156. 13 hr. ago NTA. Um this is 21st century women do not have to have children to be successful.
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    Glum-Discussion3696. 13 hr. ago It's hard to believe a mother thinks your words could possibly be acceptable.
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    ScaryButterscotch474. 11 hr. ago Partassipant [1] YTA You know that your daughter does this to get your attention, right? Think about how you are contributing to this situation. There is a total
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    lack of self awareness or accountability as a parent in this post. For example, you dislike your daughter going on about Debbie. Your response is to praise Debbie and criticize your daughter.
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    A more healthy approach would be to, at minimum, draw a boundary about negative talk. It's not difficult to say, "I'm in a positive mood tonight. I will be leaving the room if the conversation remains negative."
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    Like it's one thing to express a feeling but another to dwell on it and you should be leading the charge on how to appropriately address intrusive thoughts and behavior.
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    Own-Kangaroo6931. 8 hr. ago Hang on, what? "I have never even heard of my daughter having a boyfriend. In the two weeks that Gigi announced her pregnancy there has
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    been no mention of a father. " So, seriously OP, you have a daughter who just announced she's pregnant, she lives with you(? - guessing so because of the breakfast comment) and you have
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    no idea she had a boyfriend even, and when you pushed for info on the dad you get no reply? Even after two weeks? Something seriously wrong with that. ESH but loads more info needed.

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