After 3 Years of Absence, Father Returns With an Ultimatum: Switch Child’s Diet to Vegan or See You in Court

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    Posted by u/Numerous_Original357 11 hours ago AITA for refusing to switch my son to an all vegan diet?
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    I (22F) have a three year old with my ex (27M). When I found out I was pregnant we were together for two years and he had proposed two months before. It was public, we both posted about it. At first he was excited but when I was seven months he broke up with me and moved out. I asked if he was going to be involved and he said no and blocked me everywhere.
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    Our son is three now. Earlier this year he reached out to me saying hes matured and regrets not being in our sons life. I asked how hes matured and whats changed in the three years hes been no contact and he said that he has a new lifestyle and this and that. Come to find out hes married to a hippie vegan and living a completely different life. He lives on a farm now and has a lot of animals, none he makes profit off of. I was beyond shocked.
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    He also doesnt smoke or drink and is just so... different. I spoke to my boyfriend, friends, and parents and they said to give him a chance.
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    He offered to start paying for his daycare and has been since May. I allowed him to meet my son in a supervised setting at the farm (I wanted to see the horses and animals lol) and met his wife. She inherited the farm and completely redesigned it. She was teaching me and my sisters about her raw organic vegan lifestyle and fed us a potato stew she made. It was really good and I thought things went well. They seemed trustable.
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    We've done a few more supervised visits throughout the year and I only now feel comfortable letting him stay overnights alone. They feed him vegan and I dont mind. The issue is they sat me down recently and asked that I start feeding him vegan full time since its much better for him and the world and that since he wants more involvement it makes sense he has a plantbased lifestyle. I said no, I
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    myself am not vegan and they are not even the vegan chicken nuggets from Walmart type, they are the strictly raw fruits and vegetables type and thats asking me to learn a whole other type of cooking. They offered to meal prep during my time. He said in 2024 he wants 50/50 custody but that if I be "difficult" he will go for full custody siting our age and income difference and that I still live with my parents. I told him by threatening me he can see me in court and left.
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    One of my sisters that came with me to a few of the visits has been vegetarian for many years now and she says Im being unreasonable since its healthier for him and they even offered to cook all his meals. And that by eating vegan for a while, it will mess up his digestive system if he eats meat and to just choose one and that since its a lifestyle for them and he will be involved in it, to just agree or Im the ? AITA?
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    Stillconfused007 11 hr. ago Partassipant [1] NTA Your ex is trying to bully you, pretty rich considering he was absent for the first 3 years of your son's life. I'd get some legal advice after the threats he has made. When your son is in your care it's up to you what you feed him but you could also get professional advice on the nutritional needs for a 3 year old. Reply Share 9.2k
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    Kingofthewhalepeople 9 hr. ago Partassipant [1] If you're going to court make sure you are getting child support for the years he wasn't paying. It's really easy for him to cite financial differences when he wasn't the one supporting a child. 4 4.3k Reply Share
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    PrincessTroubleshoot 9 hr. ago Yes, I would love to see how he explains to the judge his 3 year complete absence, didn't even MEET the child, but now he knows best and should control the child's life.
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    McSmilla 8 hr. ago ● Not only that but blocking the mother of the child. Un- believable.
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    TheThiefEmpress 8 hr. ago Any good lawyer would tell you that living with your parents is not a mark against you. You just want to spin it as "close family ties" and "stability" and your dad is the "only father figure your son had the first 3 years of life."
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    He's not just trying to take your son from you. He's also trying to take your son's entire family away from your son.

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