50+ Women Share the Biggest 'Icks' a Man Gave Them in 2023

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Elna McHilderson • Managing Editor
Dec 22, 2023 8:00 PM EST

Welcome to 2023, a post "burn-the-bra" and "me too" era. What does that mean? It means women are getting down to the nitty-gritty of what they are not going to tolerate in a man anymore. No more, "I have to have dinner on the table every night after a full day of working my job and he doesn't, but at least he encourages me to have a girls' night once in a while!" That might have been a big deal in the '70s, but it's 2023. We have more ways than ever of communicating with each other and women are spreading the great word of what we do NOT need to put up with anymore. What do we call them? "Icks" or "Red Flags." These are things that can happen with any gender in any type of relationship: You can get an ick from your female boss, or you can see a red flag with that one family member—so it's not like we invented these concepts. But applying them to a new standard of men has really been bringing us women striving for healthy relationships a long way. So see what over 50 women of 2023 have said is their ick!

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    WrestlingWoman 3 days ago "I wanna put a baby in you." No thanks, buddy.
    via u/WrestlingWoman
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    indicatprincess. 3 days ago When male strangers ask me to smile.
    via u/indicatprincess
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    RaeRevenge11. 3 days ago Making you feel like taking care of him is a chore. Like a mother taking care of her son instead a girlfriend/partner taking care of her boyfriend.
    via u/RaeRevenge11
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    MidnightFireHuntress 3 days ago Ot "For an Asian you're really pretty" I've had multiple guys try and say this, but I find it INSANELY king rude, like what's it even mean? Asian women are normally ugly?
    via u/MidnightFireHuntress
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    N7twitch 3 days ago O+ Believing that his enis is somehow the Magic enis that I've been waiting for to finally turn me straight. Would literally rather eat a sandwich full of my ownss hair.
    via u/N7twitch
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    AstronomerEast8472. 3 days ago Calling themselves an "alpha"
    via u/AstronomerEast8472
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    Direct Drawing_8557 3 days ago From the last year... 1. You seem nice unlike other girls. 2. Got in a conversation with a man on a hike and he basically said that women going out alone with friends inspires cheating.
    via u/Direct_Drawing_8557
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    kuthro 3 days ago When they drop the act after learning you're not se ually available. A TON of "nice guys" behave this way.
    via u/kuthro
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    Puzzleheaded-Face-69. 3 days ago I love my fiancé dearly. Flat feet run in his family and occasionally he'll lay on his back and clap his flat feet together like a large baby. Makes me feel some type of way.
    via u/Puzzleheaded-Face-69
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    Professional-Level97 3 days ago Immaturity. he's full of himself, and doesn't see a need to improve himself. he disregards your pleas towards him, you go on and on and on, and it's like you said nothing.
    via u/Professional-Level97
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    he just thinks of himself, only sees his needs, and whenever he does something to you he rubs it in your face, and completely disregards all the good you do for him. you're walking on eggshells around him, life with him is miserable.
    via u/Professional-Level97
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    kirbyybrik 3 days ago Adult men refusing to eat vegetables. Grow tf uuuupppppp.
    via u/kirbyybrik
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    SpringPedal 3 days ago Vape and refer to women as "females"
    via u/SpringPedal
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    brunetteskeleton . 3 days ago Comparing you to other women. It's not a compliment, you're just se ist lol
    via u/brunetteskeleton
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    MsNoChill 3 days ago Peeing in bottles and leaving them around rather than getting up and going to the bathroom Misogynistic behavior
    via u/MsNoChill
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    Addiction to orn, alcohol, hard rugs, or gambling Lack of purpose/initiative Emotional unavailability Smoking, vaping, or chewing tobacco Poor hygiene
    via u/MsNoChill
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    Puzzleheaded-Air5298 3 days ago ● If their mom decides everything for them.
    via u/Puzzleheaded-Air5298
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    daydreaming-g. 3 days ago When they haven't cut their nails... was on a fourth date with a guy ready to become a little freaky and it was just ruined was also the last date
    via u/daydreaming-g
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    Total_Ad_1263 · 3 days ago. edited 3 days ago Not accepting what they've done wrong and not apologising. Dismissing any factual information you tell them and they say it's it's 'not true' because you are a girl and you 'know nothing'.
    via u/Total_Ad_1263
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    When they start feeling up your thighs and you move their hand continuously away but he keeps putting it back until you give up. Play fighting but him being so rough you actually get hurt and have bruises all over.
    via u/Total_Ad_1263
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    Chewing with mouth open. Not taking no for an answer. Twanging your bra straps in public. Him inviting you out for dinner but expecting you to pay for it all. Doesn't let you near his phone.
    via u/Total_Ad_1263
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    Fiona512 3 days ago Arrogant and full of himself.
    via u/Fiona512
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    Vegetable_Lie_1194 · 3 days ago self-deprecating tendencies
    via u/Vegetable_Lie_1194
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    Addler_Delaine · 3 days ago Turning everything into a competition. You don't have to gauge your self-worth on being superior to others.
    via u/Addler_Delaine
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    Kayzavar 3 days ago Tell me he misses me constantly, but wants me to put 100% of the effort to go see him. No, why don't you come to me, tf? No thanks.
    via u/Kayzavar
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    MerryMir99 3 days ago Comparing my body to his exes especially if he dated a very petite woman before me
    via u/MerryMir99
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    hemlockehoney. 3 days ago 'I'm a nice guy! It's such a shame girls go for as oles, instead of nice guys like me
    via u/hemlockehoney
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    Working-Entrance-255 · 3 days ago "High value men/women"
    via u/Working-Entrance-255
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    Flimsy_Situation_506 3 days ago ● "Got any pics?"
    via u/Flimsy_Situation_506
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    Tiredjp 3 days ago Selfish in the bedroom, drinking too much, toxic masculinity, putting others down to make themselves feel better, long nails, poor hygiene, loud breathing
    via u/Tiredjp
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    ←-3 B-M tooterfish80 3 days ago Expecting me to be subservient and do things because it's "the woman's job".
    via u/tooterfish80
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    BookStandard8377 3 days ago • Commenting on women's perceived age, which normally goes with "old is bad and young is good."
    via u/BookStandard8377
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    ● numptydumptyPhD 3 days ago "What's this in my belly button?" Proceeded to pull out the nastiest belly button flufff and grime I've ever seen. Never cleaned his belly button before. To his credit he does it now, but I've never lost so much se ual attraction in my life
    via u/numptydumptyPhD
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    CompanionCone 3 days ago Being controlling. When I read or hear things about men "allowing" or not allowing certain things, I just want to puke. Women are not property.
    via u/CompanionCone
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    smolbean22. 3 days ago being excessively clingy
    via u/smolbean22
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    Terrible-Pin-685 3 days ago "you're too good for me" or "you deserve better than me" IK OFF
    via u/Terrible-Pin-685
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    Night Rain518 3 days ago ● So far, my personal favorite is when men give me this line, "You just need to meet the right man that can tame you." Problems with this: no dik is big enough for my mind to go docile and proper like they want, I know my worth, I
    via u/NightRain518
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    don't bow down to anyone, I'm southern, I'm beyond crazy, and I am already married to one of the most amazing men on this earth and he doesn't think I need "taming." Also, I am not a horse. Ignore the hoof sounds and the fact I have four legs, that's irrelevant
    via u/NightRain518
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    Fit_Entertainment484 3 days ago When they have no passions or ambitions they just want to play videogames 24/7
    via u/Fit_Entertainment484
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    zamibear 3 days ago "I don't chase" So you do the bare minimum and like an ego boost
    via u/zamibear
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    italkwhenimnervous 3 days ago ● "I don't like cats, they're too independent" has always been attached to really dudes who dont respect nonverbal cues and turns the ick to 11 everytime I hear it.
    via u/italkwhenimnervous
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    RichAd4384 3 days ago ● Being loud and disrespectful just for the validation of others like homie you're not cute or cool for cussing out a cashier.
    via u/RichAd4384
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    londonmyst. 3 days ago Can't keep his wandering fingers, feet or demands for online explicit photos/vids to himself.
    via u/londonmyst
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    decaffeinated lesbian 3 days ago . going on about how hard dating is for men and not taking into account any hardships for women, or talking really badly about his exes or women in his life in general. i notice when they speak worse about women than about men.
    via u/decaffeinatedlesbian
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    HedgehogSammich 3 days ago ● Trying to meet at my place for a first date. Buddy, you're not getting my address when I hardly know you.
    via u/HedgehogSammich
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    Silver_ultimate 3 days ago ● "You're not like other girls" or "you're basically one of the guys", like, bro, are you unable to compliment a girl without dragging other girls down in comparison??
    via u/Silver_ultimate
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    sluttypidge 3 days ago Ot You look nice and young like I prefer.
    via u/sl*ttypidge
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    bbaigs 3 days ago "I don't believe in therapy"
    via u/bbaigs
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    brandlebee 3 days ago ● Dribble around the toilet & not having the courtesy to clean it up.
    via u/brandlebee
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    derpycdn. 3 days ago Pro war, pro genocide in the name of religion, religious fanatic, thinking he has the right to an opinions on child birth or a ortion, homophobic, any comments about women being sl ts or hores because of how she dresses, racist, xenophobic, pro gu.
    via u/derpycdn
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    sapphireemberss 3 days ago ● Not having the desire to look after the people he cares about; clear sign he's a boy!
    via u/sapphireemberss
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    Psychological_Rip913 3 days ago Checking out other women whilst next to me.
    via u/Psychological_Rip913
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    mrwilliamschue 3 days ago • to Getting visibly angry. My bf yells when playing video games and it's starting to gross me out a lot
    via u/mrwilliamschue
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    ShuddupMeg627. 3 days ago Not being respectful of animals
    via u/ShuddupMeg627
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    Anabelieve 3 days ago ● "You're wifey material" boy if you don't
    via u/Anabelieve
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    FreckleFace1027 3 days ago Being full of themselves and talking about how awesome they are. Never wrong. Someone else is always the problem. I'm currently married to one.
    via u/FreckleFace1027

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