'You gave her an inch and she took a mile': Inconsiderate mom betrays daughter's wishes and posts wedding photos on FB

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    r/mildlyinfuriating u/Heather_Bea • 1d My mom lied and shared my wedding photos on social media before me
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    Two weeks ago I let my mom back into my life. I had gone NC after she had multiple outbursts at and around my wedding this past year. I was feeling bad for not seeing her for the holidays, so I had her over for Christmas morning. While she was here she asked if I had sent my wedding photos to my grandmother yet. I had not sent them to anyone and was waiting to put together something for all the family as a thank you gift. Not thinking and in a forgiving moment, I sent her the link to show my gra
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    The next day I got a phone call from family asking why I sent the photos to her and no one else. She had put them all on Facebook. Many of them I never would have shared with anyone, they were special just between my husband and I, and I would have preferred to keep then private. I asked her to take then down and she put up a fuss, but did eventually. I am infuriated about her actions, but only mildly because I should have known better. I let her back into my life and she immediately reminded me
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    Edit - Since a couple people have mentioned that this seems like a huge escalation for such a small thing, I have been dealing with much worse behavior for my entire life. My mother is not a good person. She is mean and rude, and goes out of her way to ruin people's days. I wish so badly that we could have normal mother-daughter relationship, I yern for it, but it will never happen. I have been her parental figure since I was 6 years old. I am tired of dealing with her manipulation, greed, hate,
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    alk_adio_ost 1d Is she always the first person on Facebook to post someone died? There's always that one FB friend that has to RIP without any intel.
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    Teslas And Kids • 23h The amount of people I had to slowly, carefully explain 'no, you will not post photos of my newborn announcing their birth before I do' (REPEATEDLY) was just... alarming.
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    earthybubbles. 22h People are insane, my MIL announced my birth on Facebook while I was still driving to the hospital
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    scrubadubdub- . 1d When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.
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    Honest_Invite_7065. 23h NC time again. ... Heather_Bea OP • 20h Reply 489 Yes, that's the plan moving forward. I am done.
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    Warm-Alarm-7583 • 21h My mother did this. She intercepted the flash drive with my preview photos. Refused to hand them to me. Against my wishes took them to my home and looked at them with my husband. (I was working, I didn't think to warn him). Then she printed them made a fricking postcard out of them and sent them to family I don't even know. We had had a small wedding for a reason! I went full no contact for nearly two years, considering she was my next door neighbor, yeah. It's been nine ye
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    Butterscotch Banana13. 22h My mother did this when I gave birth. She got up in my face and my baby's face with her phone and posted it all over social media before I had even been stitched up. My fiancé's family was FUMING because they're all overseas so they found out one of their family members had a baby through a stranger on social media. He hadn't told his family yet since he wanted it to be a surprised. His family then stooped too low and started commenting hateful things and reporting the
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    Survive1014 - 20h My parents shared photos online of my daughter numerous times, despite me asking them not to. The problem was they never set their privacy settings- so all their posts were "Public". I finally had to tell them they are not getting anymore photos until they deleted the ones on FB and then set their default privacy to friends only. They were quite mad about it, but after a year or so of no new photos they finally relented.
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    Phinbart 22h ● Now go no contact permanently. You gave her an inch and she took a mile. And make sure anyone who criticises you for it knows that you'd reluctantly given her a chance, against your better judgement, and see decided to exploit that opportunity and proved why you'd cut her out of your life in the first place.
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    Imaginary_You_919. 23h Did you tell your mum your intentions with the photos and that you hadn't sent them to anyone? Reply 65 ... Heather_Bea OP • 23h Yes, I had mentioned my plans during breakfast
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    Plant-Outside . 21h My mom did crap like this all the time too. Been NC since last year, and it has been the most peaceful time in my life. I'm sorry she violated your trust for what sounds like the umpteenth time. When my dog died in my arms, my mom made about 100 FB posts about him and how much she was going to miss him. It was really painful to see picture after picture of him right after he died, but not only did she not care about how that made me feel, she started posting about how apparen
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    Luingalls 18h Ugh! My daughter asked me not to post her newborn son, so I haven't. Never would I! I've been awaiting his birth for a very long time, I'm SO excited, but this is not about me - I would never do this. Your mom shouldn't have either.
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    lax22 • 16h I made this a hard and fast rule: NOBODY got the link to my wedding photos. Not his family, not mine. I posted some on social media for people to see and tag themselves in, but I refused to have family sharing personal photos without my consent. I got a lot of pushback but It was the right decision.

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