‘No need to thank me for feeding your sons’: Girlfriend Gets Yelled at by Boyfriend’s Dad for Buying Lunch for Him and His Brother After He Declared He Was Making Dinner

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Jan 3, 2024 5:00 PM EST

I am sure a lot of people know the saying which goes "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach". In the first year of my relationship with my boyfriend, he gained around 15 pounds, which he might not be proud of, but I think it is the perfect proof of the accuracy of the saying above. We are soon celebrating our fifth anniversary and he never loved me more. Granted, it was hardly thanks to my cooking, but I believe buying him takeouts works perfectly as well.

But before you go ahead and order your boyfriend a nice dinner, make sure you read the story of the Redditor below. She came to her boyfriend's house and ordered a food delivery for herself, the boyfriend, and his brother for a late lunch. While waiting for the food to arrive, the boyfriend's dad asks her about staying for dinner, which she agrees to, and leaves for the grocery store. When the dad returns, he sees his two sons and OP eating lunch and completely loses it at OP for eating lunch even though she told him she's going to stay for dinner. Dad's behavior unleashes full family drama, resulting in OP asking for advice on Reddit.

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  • 01
    My Boyfriend's (19 M) Dad yelled at me (18 F) over buying food
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    Me (18 F) and My boyfriend (19 M) have been dating for 2 years now. I have never had any real problems with his parents and they're usually very nice and friendly. Today was New Year's day and we both slept over at a friend's house. I decided to head back
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    to his house with him at around 2pm just to hang out, his Dad, who was the only one home at the time, then came by and asked if I was going to be around for dinner. I said yes, by then I already had food on the way since I had not eaten anything yet that day
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    and I wanted to have lunch. I assumed my boyfriend had told his Dad since I had also gotten lunch for his brother. Again this was lunch, none of us had eaten yet that day.
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    His Dad leaves and goes to the grocery store to get stuff for dinner and the food gets here a little before his Dad returns. When his Dad walked in we were still in the middle of eating and it was around 3:30pm. He sees the food on the table and without even asking
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    any questions immediately screams, "Are you fking kidding me?" He then calls me by name and yells, "OP, I just went to the fking store to get dinner!” Which yes, DINNER, which I had assumed was much later, but at that point I couldn't even say anything I
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    was just so shocked and shaken up because he had never spoken to me like this before. We weren't even very close to begin with so I was floored. I kind of just stared at my boyfriend while he proceeded to yell from the other room.
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    After he finished yelling and went upstairs I immediately picked up my stuff and said bye to my boyfriend who was very apologetic and left. My boyfriend told me later he had a conversation with his parents once his mom returned home how the way his
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    Dad spoke to me was inappropriate. His Dad immediately flips and repeats how what I did was and his Mom chimes in too (I just bought both of your sons lunch but okay), my boyfriend tries to explain to them how it was just lunch and we were still
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    planning on eating dinner but his Mom wouldn't let it go even after that, saying that if I was going to be a part of this family she needed to teach me some manners or something. Even his Dad eventually admitted he was wrong but his Mom would not let it go.
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    I'm just so upset. I don't want to feel crazy for knowing that he shouldn't have spoken to me like that, and I don't want his Mom to think I'm disrespectful but I'm afraid the next time I go to his house their Mom is going to lecture me. How would you handle this? I just need advice.
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    TL;DR: Boyfriend's Dad yelled at me because I got lunch for me and his sons when he said he was making dinner. BF's parents don't see anything wrong after being called out
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    CardboardChampion 15 hr. ago There's a guy in the comments joking that you should break up with your boyfriend's dad. Thing is, that's not bad advice.
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    Don't be around him and meet the actual boyfriend in places his parents aren't. If they complain, then he can take them a message that they yelled at you and continued to threaten
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    "teaching her some manners" over the heinous crime of buying lunch for their children. They're stressors who you can't trust not to explode at you rather than ask questions and listen to
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    explanations, and when one gets upset the other immediately leaps to their support whether they're in the right or not. Couples like that always make their issues everyone else's problem.
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    Should they mature enough to apologise and admit their error then maybe the situation changes, but you don't have to be around them if there's risk of them acting like that again.
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    Princess-Pancake-97. 14 hr. ago Exactly this. OP and her bf are adults now and are allowed to set boundaries with people who refuse to treat her with respect.
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    LeeLooPeePoo 14 hr. ago Yep if OP goes back without receiving a meaningful apology and promises to change then it will only reinforce to the parents she will allow them to treat her that way and they will do so again in the future.
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    She must begin as she means to go on. It's also important that her boyfriend see her model healthy and appropriate boundaries because he obviously hasn't been allowed
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    to have them at home. This will show him that he cannot treat her that way and also that he isn't deserving of that treatment either and isn't required to subject himself to it.
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    AstraeaTeresi. 16 hr. ago I'm 35 and I would NEVER dream of screaming at my kids, their partners, or anyone in the way that the dad did to you.
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    Don't go over there anymore. You have a right to boundaries and being treated with respect. If bf and his brother want to visit you, then let them come to you but do not go back to their home.
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    The mom saying she has to teach you some manners should try speaking to your actual parents (if you have healthy parental relationship) because that would not fly with me if someone spoke to my child that way.
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    It's purely tic and abive of them to treat anyone that way. I feel extremely bad for your bf and his siblings.
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    lunar_adjacent 15 hr. ago No. You need to watch out for the mom. Her saying that you would not be accepted into the family unless you bow down to what she deems as "manners." You did show manners. You bought her
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    children lunch. Seriously this is a huge red flag on her part (and by proxy this family's part) and maybe think twice about being indoctrinated into this toxicity. Not to mention, if my partners
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    parents spoke to me the way his dad spoke to you I would have raised before another adult spoke to me like that.
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    Nyllil - 7 hr. ago Yup, next she's gonna tell OP how to parent their kids if they ever decide to have some. And the bf already needs to nip that in the bud right now.
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    PhantomUser666 17 hr. ago · None one deserves to be yelled at for this. No matter how anyone in the comments are trying to justify it. I'm sure it's not the first time his father has threw a tantrum.
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