'I felt pretty bad the attention wasn't on the bride': Internet slams entitled woman who kept her engagement secret until friend's wedding

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    Posted by u/ThrowRAKiryKye115 14 hours ago AITA for keeping my engagement a secret until my friend's wedding?
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    My (24F) fiance (25M) proposed to me on Christmas eve 2023. We have a maternity shoot coming up in a few weeks from now and so we decided it would be cute to have some official engagement photos taken as part of the
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    shoot, which we would then use to announce our engagement on social media. Of course, we still told our closest family and a couple of our closest friends. We were on holiday when we got engaged and only came home a
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    couple of days before the wedding, so we didn't run into anyone we knew in person who would have seen the ring and asked about it. The first time we met up with
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    everyone since we got back was at the wedding of a childhood family friend. She's not one of the people who was aware of my engagement, and the majority of guests were family members and friends I had known for a long
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    time, but were not in the inner circle of people we had told. So, whenever I went up to chat to them, they would notice the ring and congratulate me and my fiance on our engagement. One friend of ours made a small scene
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    and told all of our friends in the vicinity (there were about 5-6 people), and they all circled around me to look at the ring and congratulate me. At this point I felt pretty bad that
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    the attention wasn't on the bride so once that group cleared I took the ring off and placed it in my clutch for the rest of the night. But by then the damage was done, and the word had spread and for the rest of the night I had
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    people coming up and congratulating me. By the time I got to the bride to congratulate her and celebrate her marriage with her she was really upset with me, basically
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    telling me that it was so selfish of me to flaunt my engagement at her wedding, and she accused me of purposely taking the limelight off her. She thought I had purposely kept my engagement secret for the sole
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    purpose of revealing it at her wedding, and accused me of being a liar when I explained myself. I understand I probably should
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    have never worn the ring there in the first place, but I had had it on for a week so it didn't ever cross my mind to take it off until it was too late. So AITA?
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    diminishingpatience 14 hr. ago Commander in Cheeks [257] At this point I felt pretty bad that the attention wasn't on the bride I don't think so. once that group cleared I took the ring off and placed it in my clutch for the rest of the night. Not the first time someone commented on it, just when you'd got enough attention. If you didn't want people to know, you wouldn't have worn it. YTA.
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    dividedsky58 13 hr. ago Partassipant [1] · YTA. And this sentence gives it away: "So, whenever I went up to chat to them, they would notice the ring and congratulate me and my fiance on our engagement. "I
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    If this wasn't intentional, you would have taken the ring off the very first time someone mentioned the ring. But it happened over and over. You intentionally kept wearing the ring after at least several people commented on it. YTA for intentionally announcing your engagement via a very noticeable ring that you intentionally did not remove until everyone already knew.
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    KookyButtWise - 14 hr. ago You decided to hold off on officially announcing your engagement to the people you didn't seem worthy of knowing immediately yet you made sure your engagement ring was visible enough whenever you chatted with someone not in your "inner circle" at a friend's wedding so you could talk about your engagement. Where's the "accidental" part of you revealing your engagement at someone event? YTA
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    jrm1102 14 hr. ago Prime Ministurd [577] ● YTA - this isnt quite on the level of getting engaged at the wedding, but you're still an AH for this. If the news wasnt public, you should have waited and not worn the ring at all.
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