Loyal MOH Forced to Take Out $2,000 in Loans to Afford to Be in Her Best Friend's Wedding, Stuck Up Bride Calls Her ‘Tacky’ and Starts a Bestie Feud

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Aug 21, 2024 4:00 PM EDT

Weddings are expensive. Cakes are suddenly $5,000, a white dress is twice that, and your mother-in-law just took out a second mortgage to pay the caterer. Although it's supposedly the 'most special day of your life' nuptials don't have to cost an arm and a leg if you're clever about it, but the bride in this next story didn't care much for frugal ceremony. 

Two college girls had grown up as besties so at 21 years old, when one of them got engaged to a wealthy guy, they were thrilled to be making their bachelorette dreams come true. Except, in her newfound financial stability, the bride-to-be suddenly forgot what it was like to be a broke college student like her friend. She ordered the most expensive dresses at the bridal boutique, insisted on all of her bridal party getting professional hair and makeup, and even threw in a fancy vacation for her bachelorette party–all funded by the generosity of her gal pals. 

Forgetting that her maid of honor was still only 21 and living on student loans, instant ramen, and the free coffee at the University Center, the bride went on an expensively selfish tirade of epic proportions. 

Keep scrolling for the entire story of how a bestie battle ensued after the bride called her friend 'tacky' for taking out thousands of dollars in loans to be able to afford to attend her wedding.

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    My best friends wedding costed me, a broke college student, $2000+ that I DIDNT HAVE. Greedy
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    My best friend was married 2 years ago and I still think about it from time to time. We were 21. Her soon to be husband comes from wealth and was lucky enough to find
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    an amazingly high paying job after a 2 year trade school program. This friend is my closest friend and has been since kindergarten. I was her co-MOH, sharing with another close friend of hers. The rest of her party
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    were women all closer to 30. I was 21, as stated, with no real job during the school year as I lived in school housing. I probably made $30 a week. She had us pay for everything; a $600 dress, hair & makeup, the Airbnb. Etc.
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    I was flabbergasted. I had no way to pay. Eventually I had to ask my dad for the money and we aren't well off. I used student loans and scholarships for all my school expenses. The Co-
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    MOH helped me pay for my dress in secret which was so kind, but my best friend/the bride somehow found out and said that it was "tacky" of me.
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    Girl. I didn't complain once. I never said a peep about how it was insane to make us college girls pay for the expenses of her wedding. For her to say that gave me suuuuch an ick. She didn't
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    have to work or pay a cent for this wedding. It was all paid for by the groom's family. We both came from pretty poor families. I just feel like my usually level headed best friend became some stupid bumbling bride during the planning
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    For my wedding I intend to pay for the girl's dresses and hair/makeup. But I am also not doing a traditional wedding party. I don't want anyone to feel like they can't afford to be apart of our wedding????
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    Result Downtown3065 As someone who is midlife and way past the bridesmaid stage, I am floored by the amount of money bridesmaids are expected to shell out for weddings nowadays. The worst part is that people are claiming it's "tradition". it's NOT!
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    And the stories of people expected to pay for other aspects of the wedding such as flowers, cake, and honeymoon, don't get me started. Here's a thought, don't have a bridal party! Ok, maybe a MOH and BM, but that's it. It makes everything more affordable, cuts down the stress significantly, and avoids resentment and lifelong grudges.
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    Jallenrix I think I'm more surprised by the number of bridesmaids who go along with these demands. Accruing credit card debt and borrowing from parents?! Good grief. Say "No".
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    stoligirl2121 Like OP is saying she's my best friend since grade school but yet she should know your struggle with $$ and still offered no help. This isn't a true friend and people should be willing to say no thanks I'll just be a guest
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    PilotNo312 I'll never understand people who expect their loved ones to shell out $600 for a dress they'll wear once.
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    SnooWords4839. The other MOH would be a much better friend than the bride.
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    hdeskins Setting healthy boundaries, having tough conversations, and learning to say no are all important life skills that will come with time.
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    WattHeffer Experiences like this are what teach you that. Good judgment and common sense about your circumstances and limitations are crucial.
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    hardlyevatoodrunktof She said you are the tacky one? I'd laugh if it wasn't actually sad. The way you are planning it is exactly what I'd do - not expect people to pay to be part of my wedding. I grew up being told that if I throw a party, I have to be able to pay for it. If anyone wants to pitch in, it's an unexpected gift, but never something to expect or take for granted.
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    Brucie Pup Say no. Go as a guest and support your friend I a role that doesn't bankrupt you.
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    _refugee_ I'm sorry that you were young, and unable to say no. I hope you have learned from this experience and feel more confident saying no to someone if it is going to hurt you, going forward.
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    haute_honey OP. Definitely! "No" is a bigger word in my vocabulary now.
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    Erickajade1. no. I would've said, "Sure, just sign this contract that you'll be paying me back in full (except maybe the dress, shoes, hair, makeup & maybe your own way to the bachelorette IF AND ONLY it's affordable)." As
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    your best friend she already knew your financial status so she should have cared. She should have made her well off fiance pay for all of that too. Don't ever go broke, in debt, or borrow money for someone else.
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    carpetwalls4. A SIX HUNDRED DOLLAR BRIDESMAID DRESS?!?!!!??? Like wow just wow who does that. I feel bad that I picked the $159 one for my girls....
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