'You did WHAT?': Grandmother’s Access to Grandchild Revoked After She Threw Herself a Baby Shower Claiming Grandchild as Her Own

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    Posted by u/Awkward Nerve6154 18 hours ago AITA for telling my MIL she won't be seeing my baby after throwing a baby shower for herself?
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    My husband and I are expecting our first child. We moved to be closer to his family. I'm no contact with mine.
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    My mother in law has been referring to the baby as "her" baby this entire time. She will say things like "I can't wait for my baby to be born." "My baby is going to be so loved." This rubs me the wrong way for reasons I cannot explain, but my husband tells me to ignore her.
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    My MIL wanted to throw me a baby shower and invite her friends. She said they made an agreement a long time ago that they would celebrate each other's kids' weddings and births. My husband and I eloped and declined a reception for her friends since we don't know them.
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    My MIL told me that I owed it to her to let her throw the baby shower since I hurt her friends' feelings by not having wedding reception. I asked if I could invite my friends, and she said no, that this was for her friends, and that if my friends wanted to throw me a shower they could. I reluctantly agreed.
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    My husband and I spent hours on our registry, and my MIL asked for it so she could share with her friends. She said she forwarded the registry on. She asked me what design I wanted on my cake and cookies. I told her flowers because I am decorating the nursery in a garden theme.
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    At the shower they provided me with a "mother to be" sash and my MIL a "granny to be" sash to wear. I noticed that the theme of the shower was circus animals. The cake had an elephant and balloons on it, and the cookies were animals. At first I thought that maybe the floral theme was just too difficult, so I rolled with it until it was time to open presents.
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    Every present was some sort of circus animal. Onesies, blankets, toys - nothing on my registry. I was a little confused and even went so far to check my registry to make sure I hadn't goofed up and changed everything. I thanked everyone for their gifts and tried to sound as gracious as possible, but I was so confused.
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    My husband, who is a little less tactful than I am, showed up at the end of the shower and noticed the theme right away. He goes "what's up with all the circus animals?" He looks at the presents and says, "This isn't what we asked for." Then he looked at his mom and goes "MOM. What did you do?"
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    theme you She smiled and said, "I didn't like the chose for my baby. I'm going to decorate my baby's nursery at my house with circus animals, so I created a registry for myself." My husband said, "YOU DID WHAT?" She says, "My baby is going to need a room at my house so I threw a shower for myself."
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    I lost my composure and told her that she would not see MY baby and to stop calling the baby hers, and my husband told his mom that she's delusional if she thinks we're going to allow this. She started crying and said we are just withholding her baby from her.
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    We've been getting texts from his family since the shower, calling us selfish and ungrateful and saying we ruined her joy of being a grandma. Are we the AH?
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    flyingpinkjellyfish. 17 hr. ago Ah, you have one of those MILs. I'm so sorry. You don't need or deserve this I'm glad your husband is handling this because it's so much worse when you're on your own.
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    My husband got his mom to stop with the "my baby" by repeatedly answering all of her statements as himself. "Im doing great mom, thanks for your concern". "I'm not sure when you'll get to see me next, I'm pretty busy with my newborn". And on and on. It took about three weeks but she finally gave up and started correctly referring to her grandchild.
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    Plus a few discussions about how if she wants a solid relationship with her grandchildren, she needs to remember her role as a grandparent.
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    We both grew up very close to our grandparents and fully support our kids having the same, but only if the relationship is actually benefitting our kids. And stressed out parents don't benefit our kids. They're adorable and charming, we can find other people who'd love to fulfill a grandparent role in their lives if our parents can't manage to be a healthy influence. 1.9k Reply Share
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    Wonderful-Set6647 18 hr. ago ● Partassipant [1] NTA make sure if she has keys to your home locks are changed. Make sure you invest in security cameras. Let the hospital know your mil is to be no where near your baby. Let them no you and your husband are the only two that fill out any paper works.
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    Honestly no contact from the start that away she has no grandparents visitation case. Document every creepy thing she does. Call your dr and tell your pediatrician at the time to pass word protect your medical information. Your mil is unhinged and this has hands that rock the cradle vibes. 14.0k Reply Share ●●●

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