‘Her wheelchair will take the spotlight’: Sister Uninvited From Wedding Because She Keeps Playing Victim

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    AITA for not wanting my sister at my wedding since she is in a wheelchair and will take up all of the spotlight
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    My sister 26 has been on and off out of the hospital. I am going to call my sister Anna. Anna got cancer when she was 15 and was able to beat it. Ever since she has been having growths and anytime one appears we are worried about the cancer coming back.
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    My issue is that she always makes these announcements that she needs to go to the doctors again at the worst times. At the beginning I thought it was just bad timing but it has happened so many time when I hit a milestone.
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    My graduations, my birthdays, my engagement party. Anytime she makes an announcement she needs to go back to the hospital my whole family with flock to her.
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    Edit: I'm going to do a mass blast to all my relatives, saying she is in a wheelchair and unsure if she will be able to make it to my wedding, keep my sister in their thoughts and prayers.
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    You deserve your wedding to be about you and your partner.
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    Arrowmatic - 6 days ago My sister is exactly like this and just threw a tantrum and removed herself from the family. At first I was sad but then I realized how RELAXING it is not having her and her pissy attitude, drama and badly behaved kids around. Like , you never realize how much of a weight some people are until they disappear.
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    SelfImportantCat 6 days ago Partassipant [1] You need to sit down with your parents privately and in person if possible. Explain calmly that you love your sister but that she has been using her health situation to hijack every event in your life. Give the examples you gave us and every single example you can recall.
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    It has been 11 years. Her situation is sad, but it's obvious that she's leveraged it and continues to manipulate everyone. You're NTA.
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    Agitated-Ad-2603 OP 6 days ago You know what the sad part is, at one point I could say I loved her with all my heart and now I can't. It's a weird feeling to feel your love of someone turn to disdain.
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    Unlikely-Candle 7086 - 6 days ago My sister did all the same things to me. My wedding day she was admitted to the hospital and not sure if she'd be able to come. My baby shower she announced she eloped. It was always something. But I hate attention on me so I never got to upset. I went no contact with her 5 years ago. I have never known so much peace.
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    rosyred-fathead - 6 days ago . edited 6 days ago My sister went no contact with the whole family and it's been so relaxing. My parents have been taking it surprisingly well, too. I think we all just needed a break from her. A nice, long, multi-year break.
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    Ambitious-Island-123. 6 days ago I had a friend whose sister-in-law purposely overdosed during the friend's baby shower. Like, the SIL even said afterwards that she did it to ruin her party.
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    Shiel009- 6 days ago Enthusiast [7] OP - you are the glass child. I would suggest finding a therapist to discuss this and then see if you can have a few family sessions to let your parents understand how you feel about them allowing her to always be the center
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    LOVING-CAT13 - 6 days ago Don't back down op, don't let her your wedding day. She is full of , good for you for your r staying strong
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    Ecstatic Long _3558 6 days ago. edited 6 days ago Rolling down the aisle after the couple already are at the altar. "Sorry I couldn't be on time. I'm in a wheelchair now, surprise."
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    Entire-Flower1259. 6 days ago How about she's in her wheelchair at the end of the aisle and as the vows are said, she collapses out of the chair and onto the floor. "Someone help me! I need to go to the hospital!"
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    AnimeKpopChanel270 6 days ago You're NTA but I seriously hope you get all the attention you deserve on your special day because you never had that on your achievements and special days just because Anna steals the spotlight. You don't have to talk to your parents if you don't want to just because you know what they're like but the option is still there.
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    BellwetherValentine 6 days ago Compassion fatigue is a real thing.
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    stuckinthedrawer - 6 days ago Resentment is a killer for loving relationships. If you get to a place where you and your sister aren't resenting each other you can work on loving each other again.

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