'Mom, you're not invited anymore': Man uninvites mother from his wedding after she demands a mother-son moment with him at the altar

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Sienna Varady
Feb 1, 2024 8:00 AM EST

A wedding commemorates the union of two individuals in the sacred bond of matrimony. Weddings also celebrate the union of two families. What would happen, though, if the families were at odds? Better yet,  your prospective mother-in-law feels that you are 'stealing' her son from her...

Well, the story below is an account of a frustrated bride-to-be. OP is ecstatic to be getting married to the man of her dreams. At first, everything appeared to be going smoothly, but when the monster-in-law—sorry, I meant to say, mother-in-law—entered the picture, things took a sharp turn for the worse. The mother-in-law is struggling to accept that her son is no longer a little mama's boy and is experiencing a bit of a, let's say, mid-life crisis. 

That being said, continue reading to find out more about what transpired between OP and her future mother-in-law! And when you're through, remember to check out the story about the bridezilla who makes her sister-in-law cover up her tattoos on the wedding day!

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    Upon news of our engagement she was super excited, very uncharacteristically. We then all realized that she basically wanted to frame the whole day around her - think "everyone should be praising me for birthing this boy, he couldn't even get married without me!". From
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    AITA for telling my soon-to- be MIL that I'm marrying her son and not her, just after uninviting her to our wedding?
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    I (28F) met my fiancé (28M) during college, and we have a great relationship. Last year we got engaged, and we're planning the wedding for this fall. While he has an awesome dad and really sweet sisters, his mother is kind of a sore spot for him. She is separated from his dad and from
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    what I've heard (and witnessed), the family don't get along much with her. If you met her you'd understand why - she's super judgemental and and barely has a nice word to say about her own kids, let alone me. Unfortunately, my fiancé (being her only son and the youngest child) is her blatant favorite - she really wants
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    him to be Mommy's Boy, but he's not that way at all and does a great job of handling her and keeping his distance (which honestly he prefers). Upon news of our engagement she was super excited, very uncharacteristically. We then all realized that she basically wanted to frame the whole day around her -
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    think "everyone should be praising me for birthing this boy, he couldn't even get married without me!". From there the craziness really ramped up - she was coming along with him to tux fittings, trying to plan out the music (even OUR FIRST DANCE), and getting angry at me for daring to choose a dress she didn't like.
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    The rest of his family and I were actually beginning to toy with the idea of uninviting her based on this behavior, and as wrong as it kind of innately feels, this is a pretty exceptional case and honestly her actions were starting to make us dread our own wedding. A further incident a few days later where she
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    told my son she wanted to walk me down the aisle so she could "have a moment with her son at the altar" made me, my husband and my future in-laws snap. We very recently arranged for her to come over to our home, where myself and my husband sat her
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    down in the peace and quiet, and gently explained to her that we no longer wanted her to attend the wedding. She got really angry and immediately flew off the handle at me and not her son, as though I was the one who had influenced the rest of the family to uninvite her. My frustration at her boiled over, and
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    without shouting I stood up and told her that I wanted her to stop yelling, and that she had no right to speak to me as she was. When I realised she was about to blow up again, I cut her off with "In case you don't know, I'm the one marrying your son, not you". She didn't say anything else, just snatched up her bag and left.
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    She hasn't spoken to me since, but she's trying to get my son to change his mind (believe me when I say he will not). She wants an apology from me, and while my husband (and the rest of the family) don't think I did wrong, I kind of wonder if my comment was unnecessary and
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    whether it would've been better to stay the calm and collected party. I'm just so done with her and I wanted to let her know exactly how I felt.
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    StonewallBrigade21. 13 hr. ago Professor Emeritass [82] I wouldn't care what she thinks. It seems everyone agrees she should not be at the wedding, so 100% NTA. P.S. You may want to hire security to keep her out.
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    That-Competition-634 OP. 13 hr. ago Yeah, security are probably a good idea...
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    FuzzyMom2005 · 13 hr. ago Supreme Court Just- s [143] NTA. I would have done the same, but with more profanity. Just make sure your vendors have passwords in case she tries to sabotage your plans. And security for when she tries to crash the wedding and/or reception.
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    sndacc25 13 hr. ago NTA. Wouldn't blame you if you both just cut contact. Imagine what she'd be like if you had children? Probably borderline dangerous.
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    BunnySlayer64 12 hr. ago Partassipant [2] MIL wants to walk down the aisle (apparently before OP) so that she and her son, whom OP is marrying, can "have a special moment". Ick.
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    CatF4n4t1c 13 hr. ago · NTA. Sc w being the "calm and collected party". That woman literally wants to marry her son. You spoke the truth. She wants to get to the altar to "have a moment with her son", wow, sweet home Alabama. Good job putting
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    her in her place. Get some security for the wedding or family members to stay alert in case she decides to make an appearance.
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    meditatinganopenmind. 13 hr. ago "She's no longer talking to me." Half the battle won! Great work!
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    mikeesq22 13 hr. ago Even if your MIL apologizes, butts out of the wedding plans, and promises to be on her best behavior she should still not be invited. Any attempt by her to placate you and your future husband will only be a
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    temporary manipulation. tactic to get her way (although she doesn't seem to have the wherewithal to even temporarily act like a decent human being). She is delusional and if given even half a chance she will find a way to do
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    something ridiculous to upstage you at your wedding. It's high time your entire family cut her off. NTA.
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    ahopskip_andajump. 13 hr. ago If you apologize, she will consider it a win and will escalate things as she (in her mind) will have proved her point that your fiancé cares more about her than you. Do not enable her.
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    Hire security to ensure she doesn't disturb any part of the wedding and reception. NTA.
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    Hello_JustSayin - 13 hr. ago ΝΤΑ You and you husband agreed not to invited her, and all you did was stand up for yourself. What you said was actually pretty tame, in my opinion.
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    Justsaying0000 13 hr. ago NTA. But as satisfying as it must have been to deliver the well-deserved line to your soon-to-be MIL, it may not position you the way you'd like in the long run. By directly confronting her yourself, you put yourself in a point position, at least
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    from her perspective. It's clear you did it confident that future husband and future ILs are behind you. And I'm sure you're right. But you don't want to be point person against your husband's mom. He should be point. He's probably not as directly
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    confrontational as you may want to be, but it's better for you (and in the long run, your relationship) if husband handles his mom. Cutting her from the wedding isn't some final act re his mom. In fact, you really ARE marrying her, in
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    the sense that you will always have a dynamic with her because she's your husband's mom and HE will always have a dynamic with her. This isn't the last chapter of this story. You already noted she's unjustifiably blaming you. That'll only get worse if you're the one twisting
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    the knife. So far you have a coalition, don't get out in front. You may even run the risk of finding yourself isolated at some point (it may not come to that.... but if you're the one out in front, it's a risk).
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    Everyone you need on your side is on your side. Take comfort in that, and find your calm when it comes to future MIL. Let others handle it.
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