‘Your kid can’t attend the wedding and that’s final’: Sister of the Bride Demands Her 4 Year Old Attend a Child-Free Wedding, Despite His History of Ruining Weddings

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Feb 20, 2024 2:00 PM EST

Wedding drama seems to come up in families more often than not. If you've had a peaceful drama-free wedding with your family, consider yourself lucky! There's nothing like celebrating love and the happiest day of your life while sisters in gowns are fighting and children are screaming. What a mess! This specific piece isn't going to include kids, but that's exactly what causes all the fuss. 

Having a child-free wedding seems to be trendy right now, and I understand. Although kids are going to be common in any family, and it makes sense to want to share such a special day with your children, if the bride and groom don't have kids yet, their day of love becomes sort of like a Chuck E. Cheese. They could cry during the ceremony, throw food and cake all over…it just becomes a mess. I'm on board for child-free weddings, but not everyone is. Read this Reddit thread to dive into the details. 

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    Posted by u/Internal_Ad_7316 23 hours ago AITAH for not allowing my nephew at my wedding?
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    I (27M) and my fiancée (25F) are getting married this November. We decided to have a child-free wedding due to there being an open bar and personal experiences from going to other weddings where children interrupt or ruin special moments. This will be communicated to everyone via the invitation and the website. My sister "T" (33F) has a son that will
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    4 this year. His behavior in the past wedding experiences I mentioned earlier. One of them being this past December. We all attended our cousin's wedding and my nephew had a meltdown at the ceremony, smeared the wedding cake everywhere, and along with other children ran around playing during be turning is included
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    the first dance b/c of the smoke machine. When T saw this on our wedding website, she called my fiancée and told her that her son was an exception because he's close family. I took the phone and told her that he is not, but that we have made accommodations to have known and experienced sitters for any guests that need to bring their children, but that they
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    will not be attending the wedding. Our venue has another room that could be used to entertain children and includes food for them such as pizza, chicken tenders, and fries. T flipped out and said her son is going to the wedding whether we like it or not and called our parents. My mom tried to get me to change my mind saying that T
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    will not come at all if her son is not invited. My dad supported me and I continued to stand firm and even explained the accommodation that T just so conveniently left out and my mom backed off. After seeing her plan failed, T went and told the whole family. Now I'm being bombarded that the other kids should use the accommodation, but my nephew should be an
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    exception to the rule. Due to this unnecessary drama, I'm considering uninviting T. AITAH for wanting a peaceful wedding without kids running around?
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    UPDATE: I appreciate everyone for their comments and feedback. I took some of your advice and have reached out to the family who is pestering me and have let them all know about the accommodation (just in case it slipped my sister's mind again). I have also let them know that there is no negotiations here on the matter and that if they
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    continue their antics, they can witness the wedding from photos posted by other guests. About a good 10 of them apologized for their responses as majority of them do not have children and didn't receive the memo about the accommodation and backed down. The remainder either hasn't responded or continued, therefore,
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    those that continued on were uninvited. I contacted T today and told her that she is no longer invited to my wedding because of all this unnecessary drama and her entitlement.
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    shestammie · 23 hr. ago I always find "I'm not coming!" to be such a funny threat. Like good, it'll be cheaper then. NTA.
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    Internal_Ad_7316 OP. 22 hr. ago I find it funny as well. If they say they're not coming, then we can add people from our backup list or save the money.
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    MyLadyBits 21 hr. ago Thank T for her early RSVP of no and it will save you the cost of mailing her an invite.
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    If she tells you no she's coming let her know that she declined and you have already invited someone else.
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    MaryGodfree 20 hr. ago She probably thinks her kid's antics are cute and appreciated by everyone.
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    Sweet-Fancy- Moses23 20 hr. ago Instead of having her kid enjoying the special room and the special food, she just wants to spoil the mood of
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    everybody with her kids antics. If she can control her kid it would have been ok, but she will be mostly a spectator and " giggle" at her child's antics.
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    Aesient 11 hr. ago A friend had a "kids room" during her wedding reception, kids were at the wedding itself (public park) and when we got to the reception it was "it's that side, adults this
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    side" deal. Bride and groom organised babysitters from a party place.
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    That meant the adults got to sit down and eat from the buffet without issue, and the kids got to play games with fairy princesses and eat hotdogs. *
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    The rooms were separated by the foyer with no doors so kids and parents were able to get to each other easily as needed (and majority of the kids knew the other kids parents so could
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    run grab them if something happened). The grooms teenage daughter was able to choose which room she wanted to be in (she split time because why wouldn't she want to paint a rock to
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    take home at the end of the night before coming to eat the food the adults had?) while the younger kids were properly distracted from what their parents were doing.
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    MNConcerto 21 hr. ago Yep, the response to that "threat" is always a nonchalant "okay" or a thumbs up. Let them know you don't f-ing care if they come or not.
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    BlueGreen_1956 · 23 hr. ago NTA Tell T that you will have security escort out of the venue if she shows up with or without the kid. And then do it.
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