‘I can’t believe you sat on my husband’s lap’: Woman Storms Out of Dinner Party After a Flirty 18 Year Old Crosses a Boundary With Her Husband

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    r/AITAH⚫ 17 hr. ago ThrowRA-Eel AITA for leaving a dinner party after a girl sat on my husband's lap?
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    I am still so shook with everything so sorry for my rambling. My husband (Jake) and i have been married for 3 years and from the begining he was very close with his best friend's sister (cindy) (18f). Well my husband would often talk about her and tell how he had seen her grow up throughout the years. Cindy is always very bubbly and seems very fond of Jake as well. I remember when we were
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    dating she would ask to come along on our dates a lot. I never really said anything as i liked spending time with her as well. She was like a little sister to me. When we announced our engagement she asked to my husband to "better not forget her" after being a married man and to still hang out with her.
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    Well we got married and i even made her my bridesmaid. Soon we moved to a different state and kind of lost contact. Now Jake's best friend came to stay with us for sometime and cindy came along as well. Now the moment she saw us the first thing she said was how hot my husband has gotten and she was glad he didn't look like those boring married men. Then throughout their
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    stay cindy would just ignore my presence and will be way too close with jake. I told jake that it was looking a bit inappropriate and to ask cindy to tone it down, but he said that cindy is just a bit childish and is that way with everybody.
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    Well at their last day we decided to host a dinner party for everybody. During the party i was with jake when cindy came and told me "oh i need to steal ur husband for a while" and before i could say something she grabbed jake's hand and took him for playing games. I ignored it since it was their last day, but then throughout the dinner she was getting way too close with jake and
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    would just drag him away whenever i would be around while giggling at me. When everybody sat for dinner i sat beside jake and cindy came last. She then said "oh there is no seat" and then just went and sat on my husband's lap. Everybody was surprised and jake's said laughing "cindy stop acting like a kid, u r not a kid anymore". Cindy started laughing saying it was a joke and got up and
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    sat on other seat while giggling at me. Yeah i was so angry with the disrespect, and with the fact that Jake was so cool with it, but i didn't wanna say anything bad so i excused myself took my car and went out. About 1hr later jake called me asking where i was. I told him i am going to my friend's house and i will come after cindy has left. I know what i did was terrible but i was so angry at
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    that time that if i had stayed there any longer i would have probably started fighting or crying. I came the next day and cindy and her family had left. Jake was very and said i took things too far. I started crying and told him how everything made me feel. He said i was horrible to think such things about cindy and that she
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    was like his siter. I told him that i was not doubting his intentions but i was hurt by how disrespectful cindy's behaviour was and he was enabling her by not saying anything. He started saying that i sound ridiculous and couldn't even take a joke (referring to the sitting on lap incident). I said regardless i don't want her in my house again.
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    To top it off cindy sent a message saying that she was sorry about making me so insecure in myself, and that she would make sure to make me feel better, but i should not have left as it was pretty childish and kind of spoilt the mood. It felt so backhanded, i didn't reply anything to her.
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    I just told my husband he needs to maintain a distance with cindy. He asked if i was giving him an ultimatum, i said if he will go as far as disregard and disrespect my feelings for cindy? This really rubbed my husband the wrong way and he said since i have such disgusting thoughts in my mind, and is giving him an ultimatum anyways, then he might as well leave because he
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    cannot leave with such an insecure person who has such disgusting thoughts about him. He packed a bag and left to his mother's place. I have tried apologising numerous times, telling how sorry i am for everything, but he is ignoring my texts and calls.
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    Later cindy's brother texted me and called me a bunch of names to think like that about his sister saying jake should just leave me and a disgusting person like me deserves to be alone. I could not stop crying after that. Idk how to fix this. Is there a way to even come back? Was i so wrong to deserve this? Idk anymore.
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    Edit- People who are asking our ages, we are 25 yo, just months apart.
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    Update- Thank you all for responding and people who gave me good advices in personal messages. I couldn't read all the comments, but now i know my feelings are valid and boundaries were crossed by cindy. Now during the dinner there was cindy, her brother shawn and his gf, and their cousin derek (also a good friend of my husband) with his bf. So i called
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    derek and asked about the situation and what happened after I left. He was sympathetic and said that after I left at first they thought i would come back after sometime however things were really awkward, but when i didn't come, shawn's gf told cindy that she was so disrespectful for doing that. Derek and his bf also said the same thing. To this cindy started crying saying they didn't
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    have to corner her and attack her over a silly joke, that she didn't know it would get so out of hand. She then left the room while crying. Jake didn't know what to say and everybody left early the next day.
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    Derek also told that cindy has always had issues with boundaries and when he introduced his bf to everybody cindy would get too close and would joke that she was just checking if he was really gay. They were really uncomfortable with it as well so derek confronted her, to which cindy rolled her eyes and said they can't take a joke and eventually stopped. This all sounds so bizarre,
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    idk what's going on with cindy. Shawn's gf also texted me saying she was sorry for what happened. I told him how shawn's message was inappropriate, but she had no idea about the text, so i sent her a screenshot and asked her to tell shawn to not harass me again. She was very apologetic and said she would talk to him.
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    Now my mil called and asked what was going on as jake didn't tell her and only said we had an argument, i was a bit hesitant to tell but eventually told everything. She was furious at my husband. She said they will be coming to have a talk. So yeah i am just waiting for them to arrive and really nervous. Idk if what i did was right or wrong but we will see. As for people saying my
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    husband is some pedo or they are having an affair, i know this is furthest from the truth. I never questioned his intentions, but what hurt me was the lack of respect from cindy towards me.
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    Ok-Status-235 • 16h ago "cindy sent a message saying that she was sorry about making me so insecure in myself" What a nasty piece of work she is.
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    Top-Bit85 17h ago NTA. Your only mistake was apologizing to your husband, as if his accusations were fair.
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    Dramatic-Grand8462 • 17h ago NTA. It sounds like you are surrounded by awful people. As your husband he should respect your feelings. He's mad because you were thinking disgusting things about him???? Is he ok? Don't apologize. You weren't thinking disgusting things. You were disrespected by everyone and
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    now they are gaslighting you into thinking you are wrong. All of them sound like they are in high school and she sounds like an annoying little flea that just won't go away. F her. Not a girls girl for sure.
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    777joeb 17h ago NTA. Your husband should care about making you uncomfortable. You pointed out it was inappropriate, he blew it off up and to the point she sat in his lap and even he has to say something (not because he was upset but because everyone was looking).
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    He is disregarding his own encouragement of the behavior and gaslighting you to try and make it a you problem.
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    He is a married man who is letting a young woman sit in his lap and intentionally disrespect his wife. You don't have a problem with Cindy you have a problem with your husband. This level of disrespect to one's spouse is unacceptable
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    Future External_5134 • 17h ago A little sister? Um, then why didn't she sit on her brother's lap? That is weird and it is disrespectful. NTA. He is disregarding your feelings. Perhaps counseling before divorce.
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    . Sere... 17h ago • Edited 12h ago NTA and why are you apologizing They are all gaslighting you He wants to leave fine get a lawyer and start a divorce
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    • Cheesy MacSauerkraut 17h ago NTA. Her behavior is inappropriate. She's not just a little girl with a crush anymore, so she needs to be treated accordingly. He's a married man and he needs to be shutting down that type of behavior because she's not going to stop until he does. I understand that he probably
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    still views her as a harmless kid, but your husband should be considering your feelings and boundaries.

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