Lame son storms out of his mom's Renaissance fair-themed birthday party because she didn't like his fiancée's Disney bachelorette party: 'I just could not stop thinking 'hypocrite''

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    020 r/AmltheAsshole u/Perfect-Ant-3392 • 21h AITA for refusing to attend my mom's renaissance fair themed birthday party?
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    My mom recently turned 50 and my family has been experiencing some tension. I'm currently planning a wedding and my mom has been nothing but cold and standoffish with my bride to be. I have addressed her behavior multiple times and the answer is always "well she isn't my fiancee" "well I'm shy" "well you picked her, not me." I finally blew up and we had a long heart to heart and she confirmed my fears that she doesn't like my fiancee much and finds her "annoying" and "vapid" I told her if she ev
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    My fiancee recently had a bridal shower/ bachelorette weekend at Disney as she is a huge Disney person. Growing up we rarely went to Disney as my stepdad, and I preferred Universal. I never knew my mom had opinions regarding Disney thought, but it got back to me that she was making fun of the bridal shower calling it things like "lame" and "embarrassing" When I confronted her she
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    expressed her "concerns" She felt it was self indulgent that she was having so many pre-wedding events, and she was salty about being given a matching shirt to wear. Apparently she didn't want to be in the "bride squad" She tried to brush this off by saying Disney was childish and themes are lame.
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    I ended up skipping my mom's birthday trip to Italy due to other commitments. To be fair she was cool with this. I planned on taking her to dinner sometime, since 50 is a big deal, but I recieved an invitation to a surprise party on the day of her actual birthday and decided to attend. When I got there it was full ren faire themed, costumes, games, food, performers. It was like her own personal fair. Now I don't think people would suspect this, because she gives off too cool vibes, but my mom lo
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    To be honest it was an amazing party, probably one of the sickest parties I've seen, but I immediately felt . How the is a ren fair less cringey, childish, or embarrassing than Disney? and why isn't it excessive that my mom had a trip abroad plus this party? I just could not stop thinking hypocrite.
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    My mom walked in and got surprised. Then she went to change and I couldn't take it anymore. I told my aunt I was leaving and that if my mom wanted me she could call and personally apologize to my fiancee. My aunt called me a " "but I left with my fiancee and guess who never called? Now my family is saying I'm an for missing both of her celebrations when 50 is a huge deal. Also apparently they are mad because they feel my fiancee used the party to get insta likes, but like what? She didn't know w
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    Zoeyoe • 21h Partassipant [2] I'm confuse, you want your mom to apologize because someone threw her a surprise theme party that she loves because she hated the fact she had to do something cringey with someone she's not fond of? I think you and your fiancée care WAY too much about her opinion. In her defense, she seems to stay to herself and not involve herself in your fiancée's life. How will you feel when she skips your wedding? YTA ... Reply ↑ 5k
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    ears • 19h Partassipant [2] I don't think OP's mother is the problem, and I don't think his fiancée is the problem, either. OP is the problem. He's running around starting fires and then complaining about the smoke. He wants his mother and his fiancée to be close, and they're not, and he blames his mother. The thing is, affection might (or might not) grow over time, but it's definitely not going to happen with OP operating at Maximum Drama Queen level.
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    Imagine flouncing out of your mother's surprise birthday party, demanding an apology, because your mother had the audacity to like a party that was thrown with her in mind more than one where she felt coerced into things she didn't like. If OP's not careful, he's going to alienate his whole family and screw up his marriage, because I'm guessing his fiancée will eventually get tired of his drama, too. か 2.9k
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    B_art_account • 18h Also, mom wasn't making fun of the fiance to her face, just saying it was childish, which can be hypocritical, but unless the fiance gets offended, who cares. ... 412
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    LurkerByNatureGT • 21h Partassipant [1] YTA for misrepresenting the question. You didn't "refuse to attend" your mom's party, you showed up and then flounced out after making it about you with a "you can call me and apologize" message given by proxy at a surprise party thrown for her. ... Reply 2.8k
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    KikiBrann ⚫ 17h • Imagine being the person at a surprise party tasked with delivering that message. "Surprise! Your son hates you." ... 498
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    YTA superfastmomma • 20h Commander in Cheeks [278] You are running around with a gas can fueling whatever minor fires exist. Demanding opinions and then demanding apologies. It was a surprise party, dude. She didn't plan it. You threw a hissy fit and demanded an apology from someone who did nothing wrong. Because she didn't do anything. She didn't plan the party. And no, it isn't the same thing. Going to a birthday party means I buy a card, drive to your house and eat food and drinks someone els
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    Going to a Disney weekend involves lots of money and time, doing something that doesn't appeal to you, being forced to wear a weird shirt. But your Mom agreed to do it. Don't expect me to call your mom an because you demanded to know her opinion. And don't force someone to wear a themed tshirt in public and not have them make a random comment to whomever was there when they put it on that it's dumb. Reply 1.8k
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    ΥΤΑ fast-n-spurious • 21h Partassipant [3] How is someone else surprising her with the renfair event her fault? Can't say she's wrong about her Disney thoughts. Reply ✩ 1k
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    kevnmartin • 20h Yes. They ask what's the difference. The difference is Disney theme parks are corporate money grabs whereas ren fairs are organic, grass roots affairs that regular people put together themselves, for the most part. ... 106
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    Vegetable Business897 • 20h Aficionado [11] So I'm guessing you want us to say that you're NT A for leaving your mom's super cool birthday, because she should think her Ren fair if just as embarrassing as your fiancés Disney (which is not as cool as Universal) batch.... Riiiiight? Well ESH You're all too immature and high maintenance to actually be old enough to be getting married or to have had kids Reply 225

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