'My parents have full run of my house': Entitled family insist son let pregnant sister and child move in, gets offended when he won't babyproof

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Ally Perry • Writer and Editor
Mar 18, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

One of the most important parts about having a family is that you are all there for one another during the hard times. Many people don't know where they would be without that support system to fall back on, but it can have its limits. There is a big difference between receiving much-needed help and blatantly freeloading, and this can be an issue that breaks families apart.

This seemed to be the case in a recent AITA, in which one man vented about how his parents and sister had placed unreasonable expectations on being able to live with him. His pregnant sister, who also has another child, had been abandoned by the baby's father and was looking to move into the suite of OP's house that their parents live in. 

However, the family began to demand that all areas of the house be babyproofed, including the rooms that were private to OP. When that was where he drew the line, things got messy — but Reddit was on his side. This is not an easy situation to deal with.

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  • 01
    AITA for telling my parents and my pregnant sister that I will not babyproof my area of the house and saying that I will be locking them out instead?
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  • 02
    0.20 r/AmltheAsshole 25 u/Independent-Box-44 • 22h AITA for telling my parents and my pregnant sister that I will not babyproof my area of the house and saying that I will be locking them out instead?
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  • 03
    My parents live in the in-law suit of my house. They pay rent to help me cover the mortgage but the house is completely mine. Their rent is $600 a month. That includes all utilities including internet and streaming services.
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  • 04
    My older sister is pregnant again, yay, and she needs a place to stay as her baby daddy bailed out and moved back to Romania without her. My parents agreed to let her stay with them. They did not ask me but, like I said, they pay rent and can do as they wish with their living area.
    via Independent-Box-44
  • 05
    My parents have full run of my house except for my bedroom and my office. My dad likes to putter in the garage and plays with my dog. My mom likes to bake in my kitchen and work in the garden. The basement has a kitchen but it is small and mine is just better all around.
    via Independent-Box-44
  • 06
    Nope, they want me to babyproof my levels of the house. I asked why I would need to do this as the kids would 100% NOT be in my area. My mom said that it would not be fair to keep the kids cooped up in the basement all day. I said that there was a huge yard, and sunroom for them to spend time in if they really wanted. My sister said that she couldn't spend all her time cramped up like that with three kids. I asked when she found out she was having twins. She shut up. I dragged it out of them tha
    via Independent-Box-44
  • 07
    This was when I said that I would be taking the keys to my area back from my parents and I was also going to change the locks. I said that I agreed to let my parents live with me to help them out. They agreed to let her move in because she is an irresponsible wench that can't understand birth control. I never agreed to let her use my house as a day home. I know I do not want three kids here along with four adults. Well three adults and a pregnant dumbass. (I thought this but did not say it)
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  • 08
    My mom is mad that I am going to lock them out of my area but my dad understands. The thing is I would let him keep a key but my mom would get it from him and she would give it to my sister. I said I would leave the garage lock the same and that was good enough for him.
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  • 09
    My mom and my sister are upset and giving me the silent treatment. My mom got my dad to ask me if they paid for the insurance if my sister could watch her friend's kid. I agreed but I did say that they should get my sister to pay it.
    via Independent-Box-44
  • 10
    Locurilla 22h Partassipant [1] NTA but you may have to reconsider this whole arrangement. You know over time this will become a mess for you. Your mum, sister and kids WILL take over your space and it will be very hard to rectify after they are here. Ask your parents to move out, although I feel sorry for your dad ← Reply ✰ 13.0k Independent-Box-44 OP⚫ 22h Locks are changed. I will not bend or break on this.
    via Locurilla
  • 11
    NTA... Live-Championship699 21h Technically speaking, by blocking off your areas you are technically making your areas baby proofed. I tip my hat to you good sir!
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  • 12
    Resolute Muse 22h Pooperintendant [51] Dont do it! Who will be cleaning up after the kids, what are you going to do when 1 kid becomes 2, then 3? Who will be refilling your pantry when all the snacks, the milk, the juice etc, vanish because the kids need to eat something? Who will be repairing the damage that kids kind of just do? What happens when your sister says "oh I just need to run an errand" and you become the default childcare for several hours? How exactly do you expect to get her out o
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  • 13
    Space JesuslsHere 22h Aficionado [14] Be real here. They're 100% not going to get the right insurance, with the right coverage level, and keep it up to date. Plus, evicting your sister with a newborn is going to be a legal nightmare. And let's be honest with ourselves, people this entitled will put you in a situation where you need, rather than want them gone. NTA. But have everyone sign a month to month lease and get extra good locks if you're determined to learn the hard way.
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  • 14
    Extension_Camel_3844 21h Oh dear. You are not just going to have get additional insurance, you are going to have to get certified as a day care and you are going to have get licensed and get a business license as well. How is your non-working, pregnant free loading sister going to cover those costs? Nope. No way. No how.
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  • 15
    Lanky-Jello-1801 22h NTA. You are more than kind to let them use your sunroom and garden. Take your mother's and sisters silence as a gift. Change your locks and keep those keys to yourself. Why your mom and sister think they are entitled to your house is beyond me. Feel free to use my favorite sayings, "You will get NOTHING and like it!".
    via Lanky-Jello-1801
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    Savings-Breath-9118 22h Partassipant [3] NTA but don't let your sister do this. First, it's one then it'll be more than one pretty soon. You'll have six kids under your roof. None of them are related to you at all.
    via Savings-Breath-9118
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    CharlotteClover 22h NTA. You're being taken advantage of. It's your house, and you've already been extremely generous by letting your parents live there at a discounted rate. Now, they're trying to take advantage of your kindness by allowing your sister to move in and run an unauthorized daycare in your home. You have every right to set boundaries and protect your personal space. Don't let them guilt you into thinking you're the bad guy here - you're not. You're just a person trying to maintain
    via CharlotteClover
  • 18
    Psychological-Fox97 22h NTA - have you considered yet that yes its your parents space but adding your sister plus atleast 2 children means those utility bills are going right up. It was for your parents to put you in this position. I would aim to have a discussion with them and tour sister about how long they expect this arrangement to go on for. What planning are they doing for your sisters next steps? I'm going to guess zero. That your sister is planning to make your house her.plave of work al
    via Psychological-Fox97
  • 19
    ww TarzanKitty 22h Partassipant [1] No lie. You should evict your parents. They seem to believe that they are the decision makers here. They moved 3 people AND a "business" into your home without even a conversation. They seem to think you are the child in this story.
    via TarzanKitty
  • 20
    Ok_Stable7501 22h Partassipant [1] Evict them all before you end up with an unlicensed daycare. NTA
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  • 21
    NTA TarzanKitty 22h Partassipant [1] Your parents are free to do whatever they want in the space they pay rent on. (Although, most landlords would evict them for moving people in who are not on the lease) That does not mean you need to open up your home to house a family that you never agreed to support. If your parents want to support them. They can do so, solely in their own space. The entitlement of all of them is beyond words.
    via TarzanKitty

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