Young Dungeons and Dragons Player Kicked out of Campaign 1 Year Into the Game Due to Their Age, Internet Comes to Their Defense

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    "Sorry, you're not old enough to play with us anymore." 91
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    Kicked from group of 1 year for 'being too young to stream'
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    For reference I (18) have been playing with a DnD group since around May 2023, with a group of 6 people ranging from 22-30. Just last night I'd gotten a call from our DM saying that they wanted to start streaming our games (something they'd been talking about for a few months until this point), and they 'didn't feel comfortable doing so since they drink and make de jokes with someone so young, especially with how canceling is these days etc
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    etc.' This had never been a problem for me as I just didn't drink and had a fun time, especially since this was my first ever DnD group and I'd fallen in love with both the game and these goofballs. Alongside this he'd said 'I don't know if this is the group for you. It's nothing against you personally, and I'm sorry.' Just feels like a huge kick in the to have my first ever group of almost a year at this point just... throw me out for being too young for them to make a stream out of it.
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    Generally makes me feel like I'd find up somewhere down the line and they just never told me, and THAT'S why I'm being kicked just using my age as an excuse. That said, I have no way of really knowing anymore, so all I can do is just move on and reflect on what I can do better. Any you guys have a similar experience?
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    EDIT: Clarifying a few things because there have been a few wars in the comments and just some added context. • This is in the US, private sessions usually at our DMs place • Yes, I was 17 when I first started playing with them. • I am F but I'm not the only woman at the table (there were 2 others) • I was overall completely left out of the conversation when it came to the streaming, and straight blindsided about being kicked out. Streaming talk was in complete passing and seemed like shower
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    thoughts when I was at the table, and they never gave me a whisper about problems with me being 18 conflicting with them streaming. Lastly, the biggest slap in the face was I'd been planning a two-shot for the group for the last 2 months (I'm talking handpicked specific soundtracks, dungeon layout, a lot of contained story beats and scenarios/enemies to let the players take advantage of their characters' abilities. I put a LOT of work into the deed thing with good advice from the DM) that would'
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    Timetmannetje . 2 days ago I really dont get this obsession people have with streaming their D&D game. Did you need a reason to make it more awkward and restrictive? (Aimed at your group not you) 2.1k Reply Share IntelligentRaisin393 2 days ago Certainly not at the cost of one of your regular team-mates 714 Reply Share
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    DerpyDaDulfin · 1 day ago DM Especially since the Live Play scene is kinda dying down. Most DnD live plays have less viewers than they had 2-3 years ago. Trying to break into an already super saturated market that is shrinking seems like a fools errand 491 Reply Share Dangerous-Medium1934 · 1 day ago Forreal even critical role is having a hard time holding on to its audience. Sacrificing the fun of your game to try and chase fame years after its hay day is just wild. 259 Reply Share
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    Shield Lyger 2 days ago As I read your account, you aren't being "Kicked from group of 1 year for 'being too young to stream'." Instead, the group is afraid that their drinking and bawdy table talk will be viewed as either a of you, or, as it used to be called "contributing to the delinquency of a minor." And they are afraid of the consequences for them of being seen as causing some sort of harm to you. Especially in a social media environment where the simple fact that you say "I'm okay with th
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    being honest about their motivations. From where I sit, however, it's a reasonable argument, especially considering that you aren't old enough to drink (re: the National Minimum Drinking Age Act of 1984), while everyone else is. (Presuming that you're in the United States.) From reading your post, you're looking at this as if it were about you, personally. But if you've accurately conveyed their rationale, this isn't about you. This is about the fact that this group wants to get their Critical R
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    But... I'm going to offer you this advice. Don't take it personally. Don't create a reason to take it personally. Ignore that little voice in your head that says "If I hadn't done anything wrong, these guys would still want me to play," because that little voice, your Inner Critic, isn't on your side. It's pushing you to distrust people, and not in a way that helps you to feel better about what happened, but to feel worse. It's prompting you to both call the DM a liar, and to see yourself as a b
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    Grieve the loss of this thing that you loved, and then understand that sometimes you're the windshield, and sometimes, you're the bug. This is simply one of those things that didn't go your way. The group could have handled it better, yes. But taking it personally isn't helping you; and you're the person you should be taking care of. 4.4k Reply Share ConcordGrapez OP. 2 days ago Wizard Thank you for the wonderful words of wisdom, it genuinely has helped a lot and spent the last few hours digesti
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    It sucks to be the 'bug' in this case, but looking back I'm happy how things worked out overall. I found a group (rather was pushed into it by my dad lol) but that gave me an environment to finally explore and experience what was thought to be just a fantasy to me years ago (playing DnD). I've gained confidence, learned a good few things, both good and bad, but the bad shouldn't define my relationship with this incredible medium. I may have lost a group to play with, but I gained so much more th
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    DyslexicUserNawe . 2 days ago The idea that someone would kick someone of one year of friendship from their DnD game just so that they can be one of a million people streaming their DnD game is so stupid. A 762 Reply Share MKanes 2 days ago They lost one player so they can have one viewer 456 Reply Share CGB_Zach 2 days ago Tbf, even if I only got 1 viewer I would be stoked. A 39 ▼ Reply Share
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    Wolfelle 1 day ago I wanna know their stream name so i can avoid them lol. im so sorry this happened to u :C 25 Reply Share Kaiyuni- 1 day ago Don't worry they're going to have 0 viewers anyway. Unless you have a full blown production; watching D&D and tabletop games in generally is terrible. People act like they are going to be the next Critical Role or Dimension 20 and don't realize there's thousands upon thousands of dollars thrown at those shows no regular person will ever be able to keep up
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    IntelligentRaisin393 - 2 days ago That's They're kicking someone out of their regular group, someone who has quested, and laughed, and argued with, and fought alongside them, so that they can become one out of hundreds of thousands of D&D streams that maybe 10 people will watch. You deserve better. That's a 102 Reply Share
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    Wobbly_Bear 2 days ago I'm sorry to hear this for you. I think they're in the wrong because I assume you're friends with them after being at a table with them for a year. They chose the option to stream to probably 3 people on twitch over a friend at the table, and that sucks. dnd If I'm being petty; twitch doesn't need anymore streamers. It's oversaturated, and seldom worth tuning into other peoples games unless you know people in it. I hope you find a better group that cherishes you over broad
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    cestquilepatron · 1 day ago If it's of any comfort, it's going to be pretty awkward for them as well when they find out that nobody's interested in watching their stream. 22 Reply Share • G30c3ntr1c 1 day ago Right? Imagine throwing away a friend so you can have strangers not watch you on the Internet. Society is so backwards now A 6 V Reply Share ...
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    Blade_of_Onyx. 2 days ago If I were to discover that a group of gamers that I enjoyed watching had done this, I would immediately stop watching them. 42 Reply Share
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    xwiroo 1 day ago Critical roll really ruined D&D to some people, now everyone thinks they will stream their sl and make it big because they have some kind of hidden talent or funny thing, the same stuff happening with everyone making their own podcast Imao 15 Reply Share

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