Wife locks husband out of bedroom over petty mistake, gets upset when he golfs all weekend: 'She should not be doing this'

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Apr 8, 2024 5:00 PM EDT

In this marriage, only one person gets to sleep in the bedroom when the couple argues. I always thought that was a silly sitcom trope, or perhaps just a luxury for people who live in houses and not small apartments. In any case, it's that classic bit where a husband and wife argue, and the husband is forced to sleep on the couch to atone for his behavior. Only in this dude's case, he wasn't even in the wrong!

This dude and his wife have a really strange relationship dynamic, which commenters were happy to point out to the original poster, u/No-Law2404. The husband seems almost giddy that his wife kicked him out, because he gets to have a great weekend golfing and relaxing with his buddies. Isn't the whole point of marriage to enjoy your life with your spouse? They're supposed to be your best friend, but over time, the relationship dynamic changes to this passive-aggressive mess. 

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    AITAH for going out with friends for the weekend after my wife locked me out of the bedroom and gave me the silent treatment.
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    Every once in a while I do something to off my wife. Rather than communicate with me about what her issue is she will ignore me for a few days. If she is really. I she will lock me out of our bedroom. Then when everything is back to normal she will say that what I did wasn't actually my fault or that it wasn't as bad as she thought.
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    For example one of her coffee mugs got broken. Instead of asking me what happened I got the treatment. Turned out that she had a friend over and the friend's kid broke the mug.
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    Anyway I'm kind of over it and while I love my wife and I have no intention of leaving her I also see no reason to humor her.
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    Last Thursday I got home and she had locked me out of the bedroom. She wouldn't answer when I knocked, texted, or called. Like I said I'm over it. I called up a couple of friends and made plans to spend the weekend golfing at a resort. Lots of fresh air, beer, golf, and a comfortable bed.
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    I ignored her texts and calls all weekend. I did leave her a voicemail letting her know what was up so she wouldn't worry.
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    I had a great weekend with my boys. When I got home she was out of the bedroom and ready for a fight. So was I. She asked me I was thinking just what the leaving town without clearing it with her first. I asked her if she had been planning on ignoring me all weekend and making me sleep on the guest room. She said that it was my "punishment" for forgetting to take the trash out in time and that now the garage would stink for a week because I was thoughtless.
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    I laughed in her face. I took her over to the calendar and asked her to point to the date that I missed taking out the trash. She looked at the calendar but would not point it out. BECAUSE IT WAS HER TURN.
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    She said that was no excuse for me to blow a bunch of money on a weekend away. I asked her why I should sleep in the guestroom and not with my wife when the thing that upset her is her own . She said that she made a mistake and that I should have pointed that out I stead of leaving.
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    I was over this conversation. I asked her how the I was supposed to know why she was upset since she would not communicate with me.
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    I walked away but I told her that if I ever messed up badly enough that she wanted to sleep alone again she had better be very clear about what I did and why it upset her. If she chose not to tell me and just locked me out again then I would just consider the next few days to be free time to spend with my friends.
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    She called me controlling and said that I was punishing her over a misunderstanding. I agreed. She misunderstood that it was her turn to do that chore. She also misunderstood my commitment to sleeping in a comfortable bed. And she was very much mistaken if she thought I would put up with it ever again. She is lock me out. but not enough to
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    deathtoallants NTA. You married a child.
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    laurasdiary NTA Your wife sounds incredibly petty and immature. Honestly, I'm not sure I would be able to stand being with someone who behaved that way on a regular basis.
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    It seems as though your wife never learned to handle disappointments or the mistakes of others in a rational, reasonable way. I would think long and hard before deciding to have children with her unless she considered therapy to work through her coping mechanisms.
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    dreadpiraterotbart. Do yourself a favor and don't have kids. They will never learn how to take accountability for their mistakes.
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    thoften Give her a colouring book as she is behaving like a child.
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    Sebscreen NTA. But you are exceedingly naive for insisting in staying in this relationship with that immature petulant child.
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    She is pathologically incapable of admitting fault. Meaning you are in for a lifetime of dozens more lock outs, yelling, hearing that it's your fault for not alerting her to her mistakes, and... When she sees that she can no longer control you and make you grovel by locking you out, she will start her victim act to friends and family, acting upset about your "abuse".
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    You will never know happiness or respect again.
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    another_nobody30. Or just take the door off the hinges.
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    Dry_Sandwich_860. It's not OK for adults to use the silent treatment. It's very manipulative and controlling. It's designed to punish, not to solve problems. You need to have the confidence to address this with her. She should not be doing this.
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    Asleep-Bench-4796 Bro I got exhausted just reading this. Divorce her jeez
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