‘Stop telling me to lose weight’: Wife Confronts Husband About His Comments On Her Body, He Responds By Telling Her He’s Allowed to Share His Opinion

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Apr 9, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

Welcome women of the world. The tried and true and overly sensitive topic of the physical form has appeared once again, this time dressed in meretricious garbs from a husband to his wife. There's nothing uglier than someone with claims of love falling from their lips, only to have their actions asunder all of their words. And we all know the feeling of being so in love with someone that you may not always see things as clearly as your friends and family can see them. 

When someone's immersed in their love, and their rose-colored glasses are on full intensity, even abusive language like this can be seen as 'helpful advice' or 'worried about my health.' But deep down, these messages are not out of love. This is a message of judgment and contempt, and contempt has no place in love, even during the bad times. Enjoy this juicy Reddit piece where a woman takes the high road in relationships.

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  • 01
    r/AITAH 16 hr. ago • Familiar_Hunter_6784 AITAH for telling my husband he can no longer comment on my weight?
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    I(24f) and my husband (24m) have been married for two years. We met when I was one size smaller. me and my husband get into arguments a lot over my weight and appearance. he says that I took better care of myself when we met which in my opinion is not true I always make an effort to go to the salon every two weeks to get wax, eyelashes nails, etc. done. I also go to the gym at 5 AM Monday
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    through Friday before going to work. I probably eat 2 to 3 times a day not a big snacker. And I cook a lot, so I don't eat out a lot and eat junk food but even if I do these things, it's hard to lose weight because I was diagnosed with PCOS. It's not impossible for me to lose weight but it's harder. My husband saw old pictures of me of six years ago when I used to be a college lacrosse player I
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    was my fittest back then mind you I used to work out Monday to Friday three hours and Saturdays one hour and rest on Sundays, my husband will comment you look so much better back then I wish you could look like you did back then my wife will look so much better on my arm being thinner, I get it I looked great back then, but Im also not 17-18 years old anymore. he thinks his comments are
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    encouraging and I tell him. How are they encouraging if they always start an argument. So to keep the peace i asked that he stopped commenting on my weight and appearance. He says it's not fair to keep his opinions of his wife to himself and that i cant ask him to stop communicating on my weight and appearance. But those comments hurt my feelings more then encourage. I would wear outfits
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    and he would tell me to change because i looked bad. But if i still wear it and get a complement from a stranger he is on cloud 9 and says that i look amazing even though 30mn ago he said i looked horrible. So AITAH to ask him to stop commenting on my weight and appearance.
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    ThatHellaHighHobbit • 16h ago NTA- but honey if he can't appreciate 24 year old you, he's certainly not going to appreciate 40 year old you.
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    Huff-da • 16h ago He will never change, take a minute to think about how his comments are now and decide if this is what you wish to hear for the rest of your life. These comments will continue and get meaner as time passes. It's not possible to look 17 forever.
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    Has he changed from when he was 17? How would he react if you told him you preferred that version of him?
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    | Distinct Buffalo_644 • 16h ago NTA." He says it's not fair to keep his opinions of his wife to himself and that i cant ask him to stop communicating on my weight and appearance." He is entirely too old to be this stupid. You absolutely can ask him to stop communicating on insulting your weight and appearance. If he really believed that, you
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    should be able completely fine with you saying "You seemed so much more intelligent and kind back then. I wish you had the common sense and compassion you used to have when we first started dating?" This should encourage him just like his comments encourage you. If it upsets him...his ass is lying and full of 'caca'.
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    celticmusebooks • 15h ago He sees you as a "thing" that is supposed to enhance how others perceive him. What's going to happen if you get pregnant? Or sick? Or heaven forbid AGE?????
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    You are still young and you can build a real life with a REAL man. Get out now while you still have options and aren't chained to him with children. In a way he's correct-- he has a right to speak his opinion but you have a right to respond.
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    When he comments on your weight respond-- "You know, every time you make those hurtful comments I realize you don't love or value me and I'm starting to see you as a "less than". Less of a husband and less of a real man. I'm starting to be concerned how much longer it will be before I no longer see you as a husband or man?"
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    Forsaken-Tiger-9475 15h ago He sounds like a complete Is he in Olympic Sprinter shape permanently? Hope you don't have kids and get further tied down to this muppet.
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    mrporterisonreddit ⚫ 16h ago So, when are you calling a divorce lawyer?? NTA.
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    snarkaluff • 14h ago This is the type of guy who cheats on you when you're 9 months pregnant with his child. The kind of guy who will, at 40 years old, start an affair with a 20 year old and blames it on you for not looking 20 anymore. The man who will purposely tear down your confidence to make you think you can't do any
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    you think you can't do any better than him so you'll never leave and he can continue cheating on you while you cook and clean for him. Please do not spend your life with this loser, love yourself
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    lawful_lolobug • 16h ago You're so young and this is the beginning of your marriage, and managing weight only gets harder as a woman the older you get. Do you really want to put up with this your whole life? He's bot going to change. NTA, but staying in this marriage doesn't seem ideal
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    2seriousmouse • 13h ago NTA. I don't often say this on Reddit because I'm older and I get nuances and that things are not always black and white. But. Sweetie. Your husband is an This IS the hill to die on. He's not being nice to you. That's his job as your husband. There are tough conversations
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    to be had in a marriage, but constantly telling your young wife that she was hotter as a teenager is not one of them. You are truly at the beginning of your life, either get couples counseling or concede this man was a mistake and leave him and start over.
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