‘I don’t want to marry you': Man Proposes to Girlfriend After 12 Years of Dating but No Talk of Marriage or Kids, She Refuses, Leaving Him Wondering About their Future

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    My 34 M girlfriend 32 F of 12 years said no when I proposed to her. what I do?
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    My girlfriend and I started dating when she was 20 and I was 22. Despite having been a couple for many years, we do not live together, I spend a lot of time in her apartment and sleep there almost all the time.
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    She mentioned marriage after two years we started dating but then she stopped. A week ago I proposed to her, bought her a ring and made her a romantic dinner, but she said
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    she didn't want to marry me. That she preferred our relationship to continue as it was before. I'm almost 35, and I want to marry her, live together and
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    start a family but now I don't know what her plans really are. I don't really know if I should continue the relationship or just break up. It hurts me, but I really love her and I don't know what to do in this situation.
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    What would be the best way to approach this delicate situation with my girlfriend, considering our differences about marriage and our future plans together?
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    soyasaucy 1 day ago Y'all never talked about it in the 10 years you've been together after she brought it up in the beginning?
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    Neacha 13 hr. ago • He left out a whole decade of relevant information. Why now OP, Why NOW?
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    bismuth21 14 hr. ago I'll bet they never discussed children either. He wants them but it looks like she doesn't.
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    trialanderrorschach · 13 hr. ago Yeah honestly if at 32 she's never brought up the idea of children, she almost certainly doesn't want them. Insane not to have talked about this if he expected to have a family.
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    Conscious-Freedom-29 1 day ago She was ready for it from the beginning but he waited way too long to propose. No wonder she lost her patience
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    9 Year OldKobe · 1 day ago Im confused by this though. Why didnt she leave if she wanted to get married so soon and he didnt, or considering she did stay why doesnt she want to get married now?
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    Rainbowjazzler - 23 hr. ago You'll get used to a certain lifestyle and become content with it. That's how I would feel, especially if I can go home to my own space. And if they NEVER lived together before, you'll be so used to having your own space in your 30s....
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    BigAsparagus9383 1 day ago You don't know what hey plans are..... you've been with her for 12 years and you don't know if she wants to get married or have kids?
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    AHOY Enioff 1 day ago edited 1 day ago I love how his response for this same question was basically "well, like I said, TEN YEARS AGO she said she wanted to get married but then didn't mention it anymore".
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    lexmozli 21 hr. ago This reminds me of a joke (that most men can relate to). "If I said I'll change the lightbulb in the hallway, I will. Just stop reminding me every 6 months, it's annoying."
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    Q--Bone 1 day ago 12 years is an insane amount of time to not have have these answers.
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    Maze_C 1 day ago Meh, it's only been 12 years. Get to know each other a little better, perhaps.
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    -MadiWadi- 1 day ago • Fr, why is he rushing into things?
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    sheneededahero · 1 day ago I know you're joking, but given the fact that they apparently haven't talked in the last 10 years, this might be a good idea lol
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    • Jumpmuch 1 day ago You...talk to her? Like you should have before proposing? What do you mean that you "don't know what her plans really are"?
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    Have the questions of whether she ever wants children and whether she ever wants to get married not come up in the last ten years?
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    . Imj1202 1 day ago The fact that you have been together 12 years and you didn't know she'd say no to a marriage proposal, speaks volumes about how this relationship is. It's not a good look, bro.

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