Husband buys $160k worth of baseball cards behind his wife's back and doesn't think he's done anything wrong: 'He claims I'm trying to get even with him'

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    r/AmltheAChole ⚫7 hr. ago Disastrous-Power-101 AITA for trying to take back $80k of the $160,000 my spouse spent behind my back? ... My husband spent $160,000 "investing" in baseball cards without telling me. During this same time he would get mad at me for spending money on meal plans or salon services. I would get yelled at for my disrespectful spending and my financial goals not aligning with his, so he'd say. He did most of this spending on his personal credit card that he paid for with our
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    access to our online banking so I didn't see the amounts he was paying in his credit card. Whenever I would question a $2 or 4,000 payment he would have some excuse and usually would say it was on the family or grocery store. He would refuse to show me his statements. One day, driving to lunch, he mentioned how my friends owed him for the concert tickets I had used his card to buy. I agreed to get the money from them. In mentioning the card though, I remembered just seeing another $4,000
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    payment come out of our joint. This was after 2 months ago when he promised he had a $2,000 balance and was going to pay it off and stop using it. So I asked, "I thought it was going to be paid off a couple months ago?" That was all it took. He launched in to me about how I ruin everything, we can't just enjoy the day, this is why my relationships never work, on and on and dropped me back off to our house and left. It was this outburst that made me realize there was more going on.
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    After lots of back and forth and digging and finally getting him to give me access to his credit card statements, I added up $160,000 in 3 years that he spent. I already realize the financial abuse that has taken place on many levels, and there is so much I'm not including. During all of this my husband met with a divorce lawyer, then begged ME for another chance. That was about a year ago. We are still together but as you can imagine the financial issues are only one of many issues we have. At
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    realized what he had spent and that I was so ill prepared for a divorce, I started transferring money from our joint to my personal every month. My goal, over time, is to take my half back, $80k, and invest how I want to. He was of course mad but I basically said oh well. He should have considered me when he spent it and I was only correcting a wrong. Recently he made sure the money wasn't in the account when my transfer was scheduled. He did this 2
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    months in a row and said I could no longer do this. I waited for the money to be there and did the transfer anyway. He went nuts. Telling me I'm a rat, he's selling the house, dissolving our business, etc, etc. He says that it's wrong for me to go for tat and that I should let it go. The money is just sitting in my account as Inhave not spent any of it. Am I the for trying to take my half back over time?
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    OP has offered the following explanation. for why they think they might be the a ole: I might be the a hole because I started taking money from our joint bank account and my husband doesn't want me to. He claims I'm trying to get even with him by taking the money. I'm taking the money because he spent $160,00 of our money behind my back and I want my half back.
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    • Horror-Friendship-30 6h ago INFO: Have you actually seen this baseball card collection? I mean, it sounds like he was spending it on other things. In addition, I would insist on the receipts, not just the credit card. I would Google the business on the cc, as it sounds like he was spending it elsewhere. Aside from that, dump him, claw back your money in the divorce, and live a better life. I all but guarantee that his divorce consultant told him that you wouldn't pay him alimony and that you h
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    mdthomas • 7h ago Sultan of Sphincter [645] Open a new account have any money you make deposited there instead of the joint account. Get a lawyer ASAP. File for divorce. He is continuing the financial abuse. ΝΤΑ 2K Reply ↑ Share
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    GK_Emphasis110 • 6h ago Just so you know, OnlyFans is not a baseball card company. 757 Reply ↑ Share
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    Fuzzy-Zebra-277 . 6h ago I wonder what the lawyer said to him .... 501 Reply ↑ Share
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    cumbumyum Part • 7h ago ipant [1] NTA, he is using you and controlling you. Get a lawyer quick you're going to need one before he makes the assets you own disappear ↑ 98 ⇓ Reply ↑ Share ...
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    darkendvoid 6h ago . He went nuts. Telling me I'm a rat, he's selling the house, dissolving our business, etc, etc. He says that it's wrong for me to go for tat and that I should let it go. NTA. OP the lawyer told him to fix quick or sell all his assets for cheap to friends/family because he's going to get destroyed in court. Take that money right now and hire a divorce lawyer this instant and have all your assets frozen and audited. He's likely hiding more than what you've seen. 50 Reply ↑ Shar

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